The party to celebrate an engagement is the wedding, and it doesn't make sense to have a separate engagement party. amirite?

When you're an adult it's hard to see your friends very often with everyone having busy professional lives and what not. Any excuse to party with your pals is welcomed.

by Anonymous 7 months ago

I've also softened my opinion a lot on "big weddings" for the same reason. It's a once in a lifetime opportunity to get everyone close to you and your partner together for one occasion. You can definitely go overboard, but it's also an important occasion

by Anonymous 7 months ago

My parents only got married when I was 4 and my brother was 14 because a friend of theirs said "we haven't had a good party in a while" lol

by Anonymous 7 months ago

I think some engagement parties are an opportunity for the families to meet and get acquainted before the crazy of the wedding day? Especially if the couple live far away from their respective families.

by Anonymous 7 months ago

This is typically the traditional reason for holding an engagement party (I think).

by Anonymous 7 months ago

Our engagement party was just our parents and grandparents meeting for the first time and it was a delight

by Ready_Cartoonist 7 months ago

Some people just love to party!

by Lumpy-Park7065 7 months ago

Some people love to keep getting gifts too

by Anonymous 7 months ago

Who doesn't love gifts?

by Anonymous 7 months ago

I've never understood engagement parties. Getting friends together to drink and hangout. There.

by Anonymous 7 months ago

Thennnnn don't have one?

by Anonymous 7 months ago

I often do. As do many others.

by Anonymous 7 months ago

Wild that I'm disagreeing with someone. Imagine that, here of all places, where it's expected.

by Anonymous 7 months ago

Saying "I disagree" and "well just don't do it" are two different things

by Medical-End 7 months ago

Uh huh. They sure are. Good job.

by Anonymous 7 months ago

God you're annoying.

by Anonymous 7 months ago

It's annoying debating against OP's second account.

by Anonymous 7 months ago

Fair

by Upbeat-Meal-3665 7 months ago

An engagement means they are engaged to be married and are celebrating that fact. A wedding is a formal ceremony that celebrates them marrying. They are two separate events.

by Trevermosciski 7 months ago

Plus on average 1.5 years a part. An engagement party would allow for the closest friends to come together and congrat the couple on them deciding to take the next steps and possibly offer advice on wedding plan, what to all think about when marrying, and/or get to know the couple better as opposed to just the individual you are close to

by Farrellaugust 7 months ago

i think people just like having parties

by Automatic-Papaya291 7 months ago

People like to spend time with their friends and family

by Anonymous 7 months ago

But people do throw parties sometimes when people pick what school they are going to. Not that deciding to go to college is the same as getting married. One involves a legally binding contract. Also, wouldn't your argument be that the graduation itself is the celebration, why throw a separate party? Engagement parties are significantly less costly, lower stakes, and flexible than a wedding, allowing people who might not make it to the wedding to celebrate the couple.

by False-Confusion9676 7 months ago

You don't need a good reason to throw a party. People just like to gather, drink and eat.

by ernserwaldo 7 months ago

I live far away from a lot of friends and family so I don't always get to make it to the major events. I've often made it to smaller parties and I appreciate that we have them

by Anonymous 7 months ago

People just want to see each other

by Anonymous 7 months ago

What's the problem with having extra parties? Any excuse is good to me lol.

by Anonymous 7 months ago

I dont get it either but who cares, more food and party

by Anonymous 7 months ago

Wait till this man finds out about signing days in highschool. 🤣

by Anonymous 7 months ago

Well, my fiancee and I are having an engagement party. But there's a few things: 1) It's very informal; we basically just wanted an excuse to throw a party and have fun with our friends 2) It's just friends from around the area coming; no family or friends from outside the area 3) We plan on having an extremely private ceremony with just our immediate family An engagement party can be as formal or informal as you want. One could argue that a formal one could be redundant, but there could be several reasons to do a less formal one. I'm not one to say no to a night of good alcohol, good food, and good company.

by emiliahuels 7 months ago

Tell Me how you feel about gender reveal parties.

by MeringueDazzling5380 7 months ago

engagement parties are just warm-ups for the wedding. let people vibe.

by Anonymous 7 months ago

where in the marriage rule book does it say it's required?

by Appropriate-Bee-8080 7 months ago

Weddings and formal parties are overrated. Sure, they're fun. And if you're rich, then go for it. But they're so danged expensive. People can have a nice wedding and even the traditional parties leading up to things without going into debt before the marriage even starts. Too many people treat the wedding like the finish line.

by Ambitious_Career 7 months ago

The Wedding has a separate ceremonial aspect to it as well.

by Anonymous 7 months ago

I agree there a million events already surrounding wedding. It's exhausting. But if someone else wants to then go for it

by Anonymous 7 months ago

Well, we sort of did. I had proposed on a trip to Cali but she didn't realize it. We had a party anyway on our return. At the party I took off her ring, got the rooms attention and proposed in a way it was unmistakable. Then the party erupted upon her saying yes.

by Anonymous 7 months ago

This is what I been saying!

by Anonymous 7 months ago

The reception is the party to celebrate the wedding ceremony and marriage. The engagement party is the party for the engagement, though I don't know anyone who does engagement parties.

by Anonymous 7 months ago

?? what ??

by Anonymous 7 months ago

I mean, I get it, it doesn't have very sense but why not tho '?

by Pauline39 7 months ago

I am an "any-reason-to-celebrate" type of person. This world is too stressful and sometimes scary, so any reason we can find merriment in our lives is reason enough to have a celebration! Now, if they are doing it solely for a gift or cash grab, then I would consider them to be selfish jerks and wouldn't have anything to do with them. But other than that, have fun and enjoy life!

by Anonymous 7 months ago

Well if parties and celebration feel like a chore to you, then I guess you'd want a compelling argument for why you should celebrate something. For me, parties are fun and I'll take any flimsy excuse

by NoTransportation4490 7 months ago

We had a 2 year engagement. We planned the wedding that way. It allowed us to do a whole bunch of things with our wedding that timing wouldn't have allowed for with a shorter engagement.... Including saving up to pay for it. That said, our engagement party was just a normal house party with all our friends and a few local cousins. It wasn't a formal affair like a wedding reception. Engagement parties should just be a normal party. It shouldn't be a huge deal.

by Sudden_Activity 7 months ago

i might come over but i'm not buying you two gifts to commemmorate a pre-existing sexual relationship

by Anonymous 7 months ago

Amen

by Stevegottlieb 7 months ago

most asians dont have engagement parties...its a western thing i think.

by Either_Use 7 months ago

Indians are Asian and in our circle we have engagement parties.

by Anonymous 7 months ago

*american

by Anonymous 7 months ago

anything they can use as an excuse to make more money will be touted as a necessity

by Anonymous 7 months ago