Cheating shouldn't result in breaking up right away. You should go to couples therapy first, amirite?

Let me guess, you cheated and wanted to work through it?

by Anonymous 15 hours ago

I don't cheat

by Anonymous 15 hours ago

said like a cheater

by rennerclifton 15 hours ago

Just an assumption. I don't cheat. But it's better to talk about it with your partner than it is to cry and throw things in the house. Just no

by Anonymous 15 hours ago

Ya there's never nuance with humans.

by Anonymous 15 hours ago

Next time don't cheat.

by Carissa32 14 hours ago

No. Just no. Shame on you OP for even thinking that!

by Steuberbethel 14 hours ago

It's not that big of a deal

by Anonymous 13 hours ago

As someone who got cheated on by his gf of 2 years, yes it is

by Steuberbethel 13 hours ago

you should have talked with your partner before you cheated, not after you cheated!!!

by Mollyreichert 13 hours ago

OR; If you cheat on someone, you have the consequences of said action (the break up) then go to therapy to figure out what compelled you to do such an act and better yourself.

by Next-Attention7779 13 hours ago

Haha "hey honey lets spend $300/session we don't have to unpack the reasons why you stepped outside of our marriage and destroyed are family, I'm still leaving cause I refused to continue being disrespected and there is no emotional connection, but let me stroke your ego abit longer so you can try to weseal in some kind of pitfull excuse and trama dump all over our relationship boundaries" No thanks

by Anonymous 13 hours ago

Literally can't comprehend the level of impulsivity required do something so horrible to your partner because of horniness. A person who does that should be on some sort of medication. Either that, or they think "what they won't know want hurt them" - which makes them a fundamentally bad partner in any relationship.

by Anonymous 12 hours ago

I'm zigging a bit here, even though I don't really agree with OP: I don't really cheaters. If you want to be single, have the courage to do that. While I'm not a cheater for several reasons, including it not being consistent with my personal values, I still understand that it doesn't necessarily have to be a relationship killer. We're all adults here. Life is long. Things happen. Nobody's perfect. I don't think some sheltered people realize how much adultery is going on out there. Heck, I've heard justifications for cheating that sounded pretty reasonable to me even though I consider myself to be too stubborn to use them if I was in the situation.

by boganmeta 12 hours ago

I mean, I think there could be cases where a person "cheated" in fact, but not in spirit - and that's absolutely valid. The former ends up being nothing more than a legal technicality, a word game. (for example, a marriage where the couple is staying together for the kids, and mutually no longer love eachother) But real, actually hurtful cheating, the only reasons to do is being evil, absurdly impulsive, or have a libido so high it should be medically dulled.

by Anonymous 12 hours ago

It is quite literally the worst thing you can do in a relationship

by Anonymous 12 hours ago

I'm gonna make a bold statement and say I'd rather my wife cheat on me than kill me.

by Anonymous 11 hours ago

Idk I'd rather die

by Anonymous 11 hours ago

I think abuse is worse. At least cheating on your partner doesn't typically endanger their life. It's still a terrible thing to do, though.

by Normal-Recording 11 hours ago

Ya I would rather be cheated on than find out they had gambled away our retirement lol

by Anonymous 11 hours ago

Cheating can result in STDs, sometimes even knowingly, that's definitely abuse.

by keebleraraceli 10 hours ago

True. And all cheating is emotionally abusive. But I'd still argue that beating your partner is worse than cheating.

by Normal-Recording 10 hours ago

I would argue that if a partner hits you once, you know for a fact you should leave and there is 0% doubt and they are showing you their true colors. With cheating you are completely in the dark and investing time into something that is an absolute waste and may result in the same down the road. Physical abuse is certainly more jarring.

by keebleraraceli 10 hours ago

True

by Anonymous 9 hours ago

Worse than abusing them? Cheating isn't abuse. It's a mistake. But not the worst

by Anonymous 9 hours ago

Cheating isn't abuse. It's a mistake. Nah, it's not a mistake. It's deliberate. You didn't do it thinking 'This is fine'...you did it KNOWING 'This isn't fine, but I'm doing it anyway.'

by Anonymous 9 hours ago

lol intentionally choosing to harm someone via infidelity is absolutely abusive

by RelevantPast3581 9 hours ago

cheating is not always a mistake, it can be VERY WELL on purpose

by Icy_Committee 8 hours ago

It's a literal betrayal… no

by RelevantPast3581 8 hours ago

So close! The time to go to couples therapy is actually BEFORE cheating.

by Anonymous 8 hours ago

Well, technically, the partner doesn't say they're going to cheat and acts like everything is fine.

by Anonymous 7 hours ago

That's the great part about dating. I can break up with you if you don't like ska, I can break up with you if you think a hotdog is a sandwich, and I sure as hell can break up with you if you cheat on me.

by Anonymous 7 hours ago

Now this is certainly unpopular.

by Anonymous 7 hours ago

Don't give up just because your partner cheats on you. Why not? They gave up on me first.

by Anonymous 7 hours ago

Definitely unpopular. But I think… just like the other person chose to cheat on their partner, the other can choose to terminate the relationship.

by Effective-Dentist 7 hours ago

Were you at a Coldplay concert recently by any chance?

by Anonymous 7 hours ago

No. But the fact that people are talking about that is so annoying.

by Anonymous 6 hours ago

I'm curious to know, if not cheating, what do you think is the worst thing you can do in a relationship? Other than, like, physically harming them obviously

by Anonymous 6 hours ago

Abuse and murder

by Anonymous 5 hours ago

Last I checked that counts as physically harming them. What's the worst thing you can do in a relationship that's specific to the relationship

by Anonymous 5 hours ago

Most people consider cheating as emotional abuse...

by No-Influence-9189 5 hours ago

I think it's a pretty reasonable boundary/deal breaker, some people have things they just can't forgive.

by Due-Aardvark 4 hours ago

Noooooope

by keebleraraceli 4 hours ago

"Cheating is always looked at as the worst thing you can do in a relationship. It's not. I know it hurts though." please tell me what is worse then cheating in a relationship?

by Icy_Committee 4 hours ago

Killing your partner

by Anonymous 3 hours ago

There's nothing to talk about anymore because there's no relationship left. It's not "giving up", the cheater already gave up the moment they cheated.

by adamgislason 3 hours ago

What you should or shouldn't do in a relationship is entirely on the people in it. For most people, cheating is a hard dealbreaker. There's no fixing the damage. It's done. For others, it's not. Apparently you fall into the latter category. Just communicate that it ISN'T a deal breaker for you though, because the standard expectation is that it is. But in any case, the time to "talk about it in therapy" was before you do it.

by Anonymous 3 hours ago

lol only if can cheat back. Like we should be equally upset

by Anonymous 3 hours ago

This obviously depends on whether it's your girlfriend of two months or your wife of twenty years, and how bad the cheating in question is. So obviously it's possible for a relationship to recover or at least continue, but usually trust is broken beyond repair and you'll need to see what works for you at the time.

by Anonymous 2 hours ago

Sex is not an important part of life. It shouldn't matter.

by Hayesleatha 2 hours ago