During my limited travel, I've noticed that the word "Barbecue" means a lot of different things to different people. Different types of meats, different types of sauces. To you, what is a normal barbecue made of?
If you are being abused by any person, be it financially, psychologically, emotionally, physically, or spiritually, etc.. more than 1 time; it will not stop, it will only grow and escalate. Distance yourself as quickly as possible from such a person. You do not need to be a victim, or believe their very untrue, if any, apologies.