+186 It's insulting when your friend says "I'm gay...but don't worry, I'm not attracted to you at all." amirite?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It's stupid when guys are uncomfortable around gay men because they assume they are madly in love with them and will attempt surprise buttsex or something. They seem to forget that not every member of the sex they are interested in is attractive. This post just seems like how guys are forced to phrase it because of getting that reaction so much. This may go for lesbians also but I have personally only witnessed it with guys.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I think it goes for lesbians as well. I don't get offended that not every straight guy is attracted to me. Why would I get offended if a lesbian wasn't attracted to me? It's stupid when people assume gay men like all men or lesbians like all women. Straight men don't like all women and straight women don't like all men.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Exactly!!

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Not all guys are attracted to all women, but it would still make you feel bad if a guy just came up to you and said, "I don't find you attractive in any way". That's just my opinion, though.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

That's not the scenario. OP said for your friend to say that to you. I'm not offended that not every single one of my guy friends like me.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Alright. If one of your guy friends said it, you would feel insulted.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

No I wouldn't. I'm not attracted to them either.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Maybe that's just me. Bitch, I'm hot!

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It's not about wanting EVERY gay guy or lesbian to be attracted to you. It's about being close friends with someone and then finding out they find nothing attractive about you. I for one know that as I become close friends with a girl, I can't help but start thinking about her romantically even if I'm not planning to ask her out our anything. I think that's all this post is saying.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It doesn't mean they don't find anything about you attractive. It just means they are not attracted to you in a romantic or sexual way. Also, they probably think you will flip out and think they like you just because they are gay so the want to specify so you don't over analyze every little gesture they make from then on.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

What you're doing is just speculating about what a hypothetical gay person means when they say something. The literal meaning of "I don't find you attractive at all" DOES mean they don't find anything attractive about you, and besides, I think OP was making a joke more than anything--instead of getting disgusted when finding out their friend is gay, they're concerned about whether or not their gay friend is attracted to them. I think most of you are taking the post too literally tbh. I don't think anyone (besides homophobes) goes around thinking every gay person should be attracted to them.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I don't see how this post would be a joke... You're just speculating what people in general mean when they say something. No, it doesn't mean they don't find anything attractive about you. I think my friends have attractive qualities but it does not mean I am personally attracted to them.

by Anonymous 12 years ago