Everything happens for a reason, eh? Try telling that to the little boy whose parents beat him, the rape victim, and the starving orphan. I say that's a load of crap, amirite?

My mom overdosed April 11th of 2009. I'm glad she did, I don't have to put up with her alcoholic ass anymore. I'm with my grandparents now. Everything does happen for a reason.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

I agree, everything does happen for a reason. Maybe no one understands why, but people just have to wait and see that the most unpleasant and horrible act, can change your future for good.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

kid gets beat, kid turns into criminal, criminal kils other kids parents, batman is born. kid gets raped, other adult finds out and gets inspired, new activist. orphan starves, other eat.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

ewww, logic.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

First one was funny...

by Anonymous 14 years ago

Well obviously it happened for a reason not necessarily a good one. The parents thought they should beat their kid so they did. The rapist was obviously horny and the starving orphan starved because he didn't have food.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

I didn't mean it literally, I meant more of an "other worldly" reason. e.g. a little kid dies, "God wanted them home". I don't buy that.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

Well, whoever said the reason had to be positive? Does anyone ever consider that pain is conducive to growth? Of course nobody should say that to a rape victim or what have you, not because it isn't correct but because it'd be a dick thing to say. Kinda like when someone says "I told you so", even if it's true it's annoying as all hell. But maybe by knowing true horror we gain some much needed insight and perspective?

by Anonymous 14 years ago

I didn't say it had to be positive, that was simply an example.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

But do you understand the point that i was trying to make? Bad things happen and because they do that influences the type of people we become. Wouldn't that be enough of a reason, "other-worldly" or not?

by Anonymous 14 years ago

I do realize that "bad things" influence us as people, but that doesn't mean it was for a "reason". For example, people say bad things make you stronger, and that that is a reason, but if bad things never happened, no one would *need* to be strong, right? The same things goes for bad things changing your personality. It can be a good change or a bad change, and yes it was literally caused by something, but there isn't always a real reason behind it. My post was inspired by my father, who believes that God has a reason for everything. I disagree with him, and I wanted to see what other people had to say about it. I don't, however, wish to argue about it.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

"...if bad things never happened," seriously?? God or no God, that's just childish and unrealistic so obviously the rationalization that "no one would need to be strong" is, at best, irrelevant. (Although I strongly disagree with that statement.) I'm guessing you are still a kid though. I'm not putting you down because of that, but real understanding comes with age...and experiance. Also, I'm not trying to argue. I'm just giving my thoughts, which is after all, the point of this site.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

I know it's unrealistic, it was just the first example to pop into my head. Yes, technically I'm still a kid for another year, but I would consider myself an "experienced" individual. We can just agree to disagree on my post, I know it's a fairly pessimistic view to life, but I'm a cynical person. And I know you weren't trying to argue, I was just stating that so that you wouldn't start to, because I know how people love to pick fights over silly things on here.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

Preachy as fuck.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

Um how? Wouldn't it be "preachy" if I was saying everything happened for a reason?

by Anonymous 14 years ago

This isn't preachy at all.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

They're being punished for their sins. The reason is that they do not fear God like a good Christian should.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

I was going to say something, but then I saw your name and I was like trolololol.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

Trolls be trollin

by Anonymous 14 years ago

Are you Canadian?

by Anonymous 14 years ago

No.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

how about Canadian bacon?

by Anonymous 14 years ago

I'm a vegetarian, actually.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

well they technically do... The little boy gets beaten because his parents are probably alcoholics. The rape victim is raped because the rapist has a thirst for power. etc. Just like millions of Japanese people died because there was a tsunami. Everything does happen for a reason--- that reason was a tsunami. Believing it happens for an otherwordly proper intended reason is bullshit though

by Anonymous 14 years ago

That (the otherworldly reason) is exactly what I meant. Not literally. Thank you for understanding my intention.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

Those are more like causes, not reasons. I like to think that natural disasters happen because God (or whoever) uses it as a way to control overpopulation. No one likes it, but if you think about it, it's needed.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

Or whoever?

by Anonymous 14 years ago

I was trying to make it so it applied to mostly everyone

by Anonymous 14 years ago

Yeah. And people argue that we become stronger because of these experiences. Well, that's only partly true, because not everyone is bettered because of their negative experiences. It's all crap, I think. Things happen, life either goes on or it doesn't.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

So you're saying that situations like that can NEVER have happy endings or produce something good in the world? I say that's a load of crap. People are made of experiences, good and bad. What if that little boy who was abused became a counselor and helped other kids who had been through that? What if the rape victim became a stronger person because of their experience, or got pregnant and had a child that they loved more than anything? What if the starving orphans find homes, and again become stronger people because of it? Like I said, people are made of their experiences.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

They never said that... Also, we are just as likely to react poorly to negative experiences as we are to react positively. People are made of experiences, obviously. That doesn't mean every experience is ultimately good or that they happen for a reason. People kill themselves all the time because of bad things. We are made stronger and we are weakened because of our experiences.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

Good point. I still stand by that everything does happen for a reason, though. Even if the reason turns out to be to produce a negative effect on that person.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

Maybe... I just don't believe that lol. It makes more sense than thinking everything happens for a good reason.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

little boy whose parents beat him = if they didn't beat him he would've got killed by a car the rape victim = was gonna get rammed by a car the starving orphan = if he was fed he was gonna get pummeled by a car

by Anonymous 14 years ago

What is it with you and cars? I got hit by a car last year; according to your philosophy if my parents beat me the car would have swerved?

by Anonymous 14 years ago

I don't think Predy could be anymore clear! Obviously if your parents had beat you, the car would've swerved! My friend wasn't raped and got hit by a car, my other friend's parents died by getting hit by cars and when she didn't starve, the same car came back a hit her. Obviously cars are the answer to everything.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

It's possible that I will get a lot of negatives for saying this, but I'm going to anyway: I DO believe everything happens for a reason. I realize this is an insensitive thing to say to a person who's been through any of the hardships you've mentioned above, and I'm not saying that next time someone suffers a tragedy you should callously say, "well, everything's for a reason." But it's good to know for yourself that when something bad happens to you, there is a higher power that planned out the events of the world in great detail, and there is a reason why it happened. And good things happen too, you know - why not focus on the reasons for the positive?

by Anonymous 14 years ago

Sometimes when something dissapointing happens, or I don't get the job I applied for or something, I tell myself everything happens for a reason and it's kind of comforting. I don't necessarily believe that there's some magic reason, but it just feels better to think of it that way.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

but you already have a job, and you do it quite well!

by Anonymous 14 years ago

Chapstick is only my secret identity. I'm actually a real person.. Sshhhh.. Don't tell!

by Anonymous 14 years ago

:o

by Anonymous 14 years ago

My personal beliefs are pretty summed up in this sentence "Shit Happens", lifes gonna deal you a shitty hand sometimes, the only thing that matters is what you do with it. The kid who gets beaten, grows up and becomes an activist for childrens rights. The girl gets raped, grows up fueled by that to become a great investigator and catches rapists and other criminals. The starving orphan knows how to make the best out of a bad situation, and he/she may grow up and get out of that situation and start an organization to help other starving children. Everything might not happen for a reason, but you can't change what happens, so make the best of it.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

I agree with you. Not everything happens for a reason, but you can either try make the best of it, or you can let it beat you.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

Sometimes, the best things come out of the worst situations.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

I don't buy into it either but when faced with a horrible situation I just can't help trying to cheer myself up that way. I mean there really is nothing wrong thinking like that.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

It's ridiculous (in my opinion) for someone to think "God" has anything to do with these disasters and tragedies. And if he does.... he's a mass murderer with a lot of followers...

by Anonymous 14 years ago

Really, 94 people disagreed with this. I dont think people getting raped, beaten and starved happen for a reason. 94 of those people are dicks

by Anonymous 14 years ago

"Everything happens for a reason" is a belief from a religion. Everyone is untitled to their own opinion and you don't have the right to tell them they're wrong. I'm not going to call you names and swear at you like other people, but maybe you should have been a little more sensitive to other people. We don't put down your beliefs or religion if you have one.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

That isn't a saying exclusive to religious people. I wasn't attacking anyone's opinion, I was stating my own and waiting to see what other people would say, because I like hearing other people's opinions. I said absolutely nothing that could be considered "insensitive". If anything, I was defending victims of abuse.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

I guess it's not what you said, it's the way you said it... or worded it since I can't hear you over the Internet. Now, I don't really know how to say this correctly, but I was civil and nice, let you explain, realize I assumed, explained myself, and now we can both be on our ways. See how nice it is when we don't bash each other?

by Anonymous 14 years ago

Of course. It's nice to know that there are people onthe Internet besides myself that can have a polite argument.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

I have seasonal depression. I have had it for the past 4 years. Only 1 year have I know what the hell was/is wrong with me. There is no way for me to avoid the winter months (in New England) that trigger it for, at least, the next 2 years. But now I can recognize signs of depression in others around me. Even though I went through such an awful, lonely time before, I can do something to help OTHER people with depression. Sure, I wish I had never went through the experience, but I can't imagine being the person who I am today without it.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

I personally believe that God has a plan. Nevertheless, I do not think God calls a rapist to rape, a parent to abuse, or a person to leave a child hungry. These sinful actions are the result of man's freewill, which often acts without reason. But just because some actions are meaningless does not mean all are. A storm that destroys a house may seem bad to that one family, but the same storm may be saving the entire region from famine. Also, I believe that God can bring good out of a disaster that he did not cause. For example, if a man rapes, which is by no means a godly action, God can still work through that victim to help stand up against more abuse or to comfort other victims. It is wrong to say that everything happens for a reason but it is also wrong to say nothing happens for a reason. In truth, generalizations are the "load of crap."

by Anonymous 14 years ago

Just for the record, I didn't say that nothing happens for a reason.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

I apologize. I did not mean to imply that you said that, though I see how it might come off that way. I was merely trying to it to make it clear that disproving the one statement does not prove the other. Sorry for the misunderstanding.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

Oh it's fine, I was just making sure you understood.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

So maybe this doesn't apply to everyone…

by Anonymous 14 years ago

I'm not saying the people who are beat/starved deserve that kind of treatment in any way and I wish that no one had to go through that but sometimes these things make people stronger later on in life if they can escape it. Some people just think it's God testing them in some way. It's just sad not everyone can escape.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

Everything does happen for reason, whether it be good or bad. It's not like everyone can have a "happily ever after".

by Anonymous 14 years ago

If the kid wasn't beaten, he would've grown up not caring for rules or consequences, possibly turning into a criminal. The rape victim might've themself been a bad person and this was some divine intervention. If the starving orphan had a family, he would've had the knowledge to fuel his evil goals. I may be spewing shit to you but who knows, God acts in myterious ways.

by Anonymous 14 years ago

Maybe everything does happen for a reason, though not necessarily a good reason.

by Anonymous 14 years ago