Gay people seem to make being gay their identity, amirite?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cass_Identity_Model Yes, most people usually for a while when they come out. Then they start to realise that they're sexuality is just one part of who they are. Sometimes the same is true for young people with other things (IE, being in a music subculture, vegitarianism, etc.)

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Wow, that's a really interesting article/model. Looks like I'm in the third stage. lol

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Most of the guys you see walking down the street and it's very obvious that "oh, he's gay", they make it their identity. However, there are many many many gays who you wouldn't be able to tell, even if you're talking to them (and they're out). But it seems to you that all gays make it their identity because they are the ones you notice most often.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

*Some.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

3 consecutive posts about being gay. Huh.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I noticed that too haha.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Like Kurt on Glee. I'm kind of mad at the writers for that one. Every other character has broken free of their stereotype in some way, but his whole personality is: Gay. He has few other traits. It's not as common in real life but on tv it happens way too much.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I would suggest that the only reason you think this is because it's much easier to notice the ones that do. I know plenty of gays who don't act this way.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Not necessarily. I have a gay friend and even when he came out to me (I was one of the first) it wasn't his Thing. His thing was, and still is, being a freaking awesome photographer.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Not always. It's just the people that make it their identity are the ones that are most noticeably gay.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Not Neil Patrick Harge Takei, but I do know an examp

by Anonymous 13 years ago

le.

by Anonymous 13 years ago