No wayers: have you ever concidered how hurtful it is to be told "go eat a hamburger"?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

(Your+name+(optional)): Yes. I have been told that.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

(Your+name+(optional)): Yeah. And that you're annorexic, and when they do see you eat, that you'll just throw it up. And if you're a girl: real women have curves.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

(Your+name+(optional)): So if people eat right and still aren't curvy, they're not real women?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

That's what people tell me

by Anonymous 12 years ago

(Your+name+(optional)): I fail to see how that's hurtful. I'm a complete and total stick and people tell me I should eat more all the time. It doesn't bother me at all, and if it bothers you then you need to get over it because overweight people have it a LOT worse when it comes to insults.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I'm a stick to the point where you can count my ribs and see the bones in my hand and yeah, it's pretty hurtful. I don't understand why you're telling me how I should feel? I suppose you failed to read the other one about being told you have an eating disorder.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

(Your+name+(optional)): people have told me that too. I still fail to see how that's hurtful and why you can't just shrug it off. Being told you look like your anorexic really isn't that bad compared to what other people are put through because of their size.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It's not always that the comments are hurtful per se (although some really can be wretched the way people choose to phrase them) but sometimes it's the fact that other people assume that you shouldn't have feelings on the matter because some people envy you. As in, just because you're naturally thin, doesn't mean people should be able to tell you that you look like a skeleton/alien/anorexic/bulimic and not care whether it's hurtful, when with people who are overweight others avoid adjectives that even remotely mention size.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

im fat. 30 lbs overweight. no one has ever called me fat. ever. people think its more ok to make fun of someone for being a twig than they do for calling people fat, so fat people like me dont have to put up with much really. and even if they did, i wouldnt just "shrug it off" like your saying people should do when they say you have an eating disorder. and i have no idea why your trying to convince someone to quit being hurt when someone makes fun of them.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Okay well sorry for feeling differently about it than you do I guess?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Honestly, no, it's usually not. Literally since ancient Rome, being thin relative to the general population has been considered a sign of beauty and a quality to be envied. Although eating disorders like anorexia have taken this concept to dangerous, unhealthy, unappealing extremes, healthy thinness/a toned body are still considered desirable. Maybe you personally get offended by being called skinny, but it is unfair to assume people know that (in case you are like an acquaintance of mine who shouts, cries, and locks herself in a room every time someone calls her skinny), but just remember that most people mean it as a compliment and that unless they specify otherwise they probably mean you're fit, petite, or (naturally&attractively/relatively) thin.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Well...mostly right. It used to be attractive to be fat because it meant you could eat well enough to be fat, but I guess that's kind of a technicality because it wasn't necessarily physically attractive.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Whenever people tell me I am too skinny or need to eat more, it always boosts my confidence and I take it as a compliment....

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I wish other people could do that...I know some that get really bent out of shape over this sort of thing.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

being "too" much of something is almost never a compliment.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

(Your+name+(optional)): I agree. Being called skinny would boost my confidence, but not being called "too skinny". "Too much of a good thing, is too much of a good thing."

by Anonymous 12 years ago

The post should probably say "can be as hurtful" instead of "is".

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I totally got called out by a drag queen tonight for being a skinny bitch during her routine. So funny. I used to get offended, but now I'm okay with it. I'll enjoy my metabolism while I can.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Although not everyone is offended by it, I completely agree that it should be as socially unacceptable to point out someone's low weight as it is to point out their high weight. I've always been very thin, and I vividly remember being teased to misery as a young girl. No one cared though, people just said I should take their nasty words as compliments.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

People think it's more socially acceptable to tell someone to go eat a hamburger than it is to tell them to put down the cake. It's not. Sure being called thin is nice, but being called "really" or "too" thin is not, and not to mention the other comments that come with it. Usually something, joking or not, about being annorexic. Or if they see you eat, being told you're going to just throw it up. People generally make fun of those super skinny super models. Call them clothing racks and things like that. Just imagine for a second people, someone not beleiving you when you say you're not annorexic.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

A lot of people have never felt self conscious about being underweight.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I've been really thin most of my life, always self-conscious during my school years - the hormonal years when having a buff bod meant a lot; I felt the burn from derisive comments just as badly as those who were overweight.

by Anonymous 8 years ago