that sucks.. youre in a really tough position now. Although i totally disagree with youre parents point of view, youre left with basically 3 options- try and somehow convince your parents its ok to be with someone of a different race (probably very difficult, knowing parents, get a student loan that could be stuck with you for years but still be with the person you love, or break up with that person and go to college without having to worry about student loans. You could also not go to college, but that would be a very bad idea unless you want to be working low-level jobs all your life

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Or fourth option, keep the relationship a secret and lie to her parents about it. Win/win, keep the college money and the guy. And hopefully if they find out its after they already paid for college.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It's not worth screwing up your education or your relationship with your parents over some guy.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

At least your parents have a college fund for you...

by Anonymous 12 years ago

mine don't even have a fund for me.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Nor do mine. Yay debt!

by Anonymous 12 years ago

yay bankruptcy!

by Anonymous 12 years ago

As horrible as this is. I can't help but laugh at your parents. I want to meet them so I can laugh in their face.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

It sucks and it's unfair, but it's life. If your parents choose not to spend money on you then it's their choice, as unfortunate as it is.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

And they're also terrible parents if they do as such, abusing their power to make the daughter into a puppet under their direct control.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Cover them in lime yogurt. It's the only way.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Go out with whoever you want to but tell your parents you're not and make sure your boyfriend doesn't...

by Anonymous 11 years ago

While their reason is stupid, they do not HAVE to pay for you to go to college. You are, in fact, an 18 year old who can work. Plenty of people have to work for money to go to college.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Racist? Yes. Horrible? Yes. Unfair? Not exactly. As much as I disagree with them, your parents are completely in their rights to set prerequisites such as this. They don't have to pay for your college, but if they're going to, they're going to lay down some rules. It just happens that they're very close-minded rules. I say suck it up and just don't date that person. Your education is more important than a high school relationship.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

It is unfair. They are holding her extremely important education over her head in an irrational ultimatum. It would be different if they didnt pay for her college if she became a drug addict or something, but dating a non white person is not harming anyone or getting in the way if learning. It is not just about high school, either. What about dating in college. Plus, they are Exercising control over an 18 year old that they really shouldn't have.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

It would not be at all different if instead of dating a non-white person, she couldn't become a drug addict. Doing drugs doesn't necessarily interfere with your education, nor does it hurt anyone. It's simply a gift with a rule. If I gave you a car, but only under the condition that you couldn't shower for a month, would that be any different? Morally, yes. But contractually, no. It's not controlling. The daughter doesn't have to take the money.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

But doing drugs is illegal, and it could get you kicked out of college. Dating someone of a different race shhould not keep you out of college if you couldn't get kicked out by the university for doing it. Sure, her parents are paying for her education, so they do have a right to make the rules, but it doesn't mean that the rules they made are //fair//. The daughter doesn't have to take the money, but what if she can't go to college without it? She is being put between a rock and hard place, which in my opinion, is not fair in the slightest.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

'Fairness' is subjective, so we'll have to agree to disagree.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

That's fair. ;)

by Anonymous 11 years ago