If i had a child that was being an utter cunt in a public place. I would have no problem giving them a slap to the back of the head.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Don't have kids.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

It's the details and views of the parents that determines how successful this theory would be.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

No offense to the moderators, but these POTD's lately have not been very good.. It's nice to have a conversation starting POTD but we've been having a lot of them lately. Why not an original joke or something?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I don't think this is POTD. There isn't any POTD at the moment.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Oh shit I was on the mobile version, couldn't tell. Well I guess that's more proof than anything that there should be better POTDs.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Parents who actually know what they're doing don't need to hit their kids, but seeing as most people are not that kind of parent, they should be allowed to do something more than just keep saying to the kid "Harrison behave"

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I disagree with it. I believe that it teaches kids to be violent. I think if you teach your child to respect you from a young age, then grounding him and expressing your disappointment at what he has done will be punishment enough. Plus, when you hit your kid as a punishment than he won't respect people like teachers because he knows that the teacher can't hit him.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I got spanked when I was a kid, (never hard to do any damage, just taught me not to do it) and to me it wasn't teaching me violence. It was just a form of punishment that I learned happened when I was doing something bad.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Not at all. All the kids in my family were spanked, and none of us turned out violently. I was an extremely obedient kid, too, so I ended up being spanked infrequently. I behaved because I was afraid of being spanked, and my mother stopped spanking me all together when I stopped misbehaving at 10. Plus, kids who are spanked will not disrespect their teachers if they know they will get in trouble for it at home when the teacher calls.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

My dad always did it out of anger and it only made me dislike him completely.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Could somebody give an example of this? I don't completely understand what this post is saying.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Which part don't you get? In the post, I was asking if people thought that parents should be allowed to physically discipline (cane, spank etc.) their child as long as they're not doing it because they're embarrassed or angry.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Oh. I didn't understand it. I just didn't notice you used the word "discipline".

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Children can be difficult to reason with, but if you are capable of taking the responsibility to have children in the first place, you can take the responsibility to raise them without resorting to physical violence. It not only misses opportunities for "teaching moments", but uses those opportunities to teach violence and disrespect. While Iwas being brought up by my own parents, my mother would spank me when I got into trouble. Because of this, my mother and I have never been too close. I grew up with a great disrespect for her and her methods for discipline. I understand she was doing what she thought was the best way to raise me, but that doesn't change anything. My father never once spanked me, but just talked to me with reason. I'm not saying physical discipline is the direct cause of this, but me and my dad have always had a great relationship. Even as a child I knew it was wrong. Yes this may not be the case for every child, but it is still morally wrong. Spanking is for the lazy/lousy parents who don't know how to discipline their child in a suitable manner. You should just talk with your child as an equal and help them to understand what the problem is.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I am very, very much against any physical violence. Firstly, it's a bad message: "People in authority are supposed to hurt you." " If someone does something to displease me, I'm allowed to hurt them.“ Secondly, it's extremely hypocritical. How do idiots have the audacity to say hands are not for hitting and to use your words when they hit you? Then we have the fact that a number of others have brought up. Using violence and force to manufacture obedience is lazy. It's for people who font have the communication and empathy necessary to raise children. I hate violence especially for children.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

But OP said "physically discipline".......

by Anonymous 11 years ago

That could be a pat on the butt, holding them back, etc. It doesn't have to hurt them or be violent, just something to get it across to a kid not to do something because they're not capable of understanding it.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

This is my reply to all those who disagreed as I can't possibly reply to every comment with the same thing: I was "physically disciplined" as a child. In my case, the form of this physical discipline would be in the form of caning. It was never used as a first resort though. If I did something wrong, my parents would first sit me down and talk to me about it to find out why I did it and explaining why I shouldn't do it etc. If I did it again, my parents would remind me of our talk and warn me that I'd get caned if I did it again. I'd only get caned if I did whatever I did again. My parents never caned me out of anger. It was always out of love and always very objective. After caning, they'd let the punishment sink in for a while before coming to comfort me and explain to me why they had to cane me. I've never resented my parents for caning me and in fact, I grew up with great respect for them and I thank them for not letting me do what I want and run amok. I think I turned out pretty well. Hahaha. What do you think of my parents' method?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I think all physical discipline teaches children is that if someone does something you don't like, it's OK to use violence on them. Parents who use it shouldn't complain that, if when they grow up, their children are violent or confrontational. Anecdote time. My father used to slap me if I did something very wrong when I was very young, and until I was about 11, was perplexed at the mystery of why my sibling and I slapped each other whenever we did anything the other didn't like. It's only looking back on it now it seems pretty obvious to me that the two are connected. I don't think it's ever OK to teach your kid that being violent gets you what you want. Parents should be teaching them to negotiate and communicate - and that starts by doing it themselves. Even when the child does something they don't like.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

What kind of physical discipline is NOT violent?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

If your kid was doing something so bad that you needed to hit them, wouldn't you be angry?

by Anonymous 11 years ago