+243 A good boyfriend doesn't have to be good just for giving you his phone password or letting the girl read his messages. Yes, it would be weird I'd he wouldn't let her read anything and was secretive but privacy is important in a relationship. If you don't want your significant other reading your personal convos, you don't have to. If they have a problem with it, they can leave, amirite?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I think it would be weird for a girl to just say, "Hey, let me check through all of your text messages."

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Yeah I wouldn't care if she did, but I'd actually subtly encourage it, or wait until she uses the if you don't have anything to hide argument. It's a really good reason for a prenup. I'd ask for one even if she were better off than me, because it make everything (not just divorces) a lot simpler.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

In most cases, I think that couples shouldn't go through eachother's phones. However, I was in one relationship where the guy cheated on me and a few months later I cheated on him, and we'd go through eachother's phones every once in a while and I found him sending messages to a girl that just weren't ok so I'm kinda glad I did it.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I only went through the phone of one of my exes, after I accidentally found out about him cheating on me. It only showed me he kept doing it. When I confronted him, he broke up with me for 'going through his phone' instead of me breaking up with him for cheating. So glad I'm rid of him...

by Anonymous 11 years ago

That relationship was totally unhealthy. You had to just let it go.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

That happened to my cousin (her boyfriend was cheating on her and she went through his phone and she found out) like if they were laying low and Wong super secretive it's weird, but if you want privacy you should have it.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

*being, not Wong...dafuq iPod...

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Yes, thank you! I'm not going to get into a huge debate because, really, each to their own in how they want their relationship to go but... I really dislike the attitude that couples have to be joined at the hip and share everything and basically be the same person. What's wrong with having privacy, interests and likes and dislikes and friends and goals that AREN'T about the other half of the relationship? They're still both individual people.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Exactly!!

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I've been in only one relationship my whole life, but I never even thought about checking his texts/facebook/email. I trusted him. I had no reason not to. But if he did cheat on me, and for some stupid reason I decided to take him back (which I would never do), I think it wouldn't be unreasonable to check his texts/etc. He forfeited his right to privacy when he broke my trust, because privacy is based on trust.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

My husband and I have different emails, facebook, phones, bank accounts, etc but we have the passwords to each other's accounts, use each other's phones, and transfer funds and pay bills from each other's accounts. What is private that you can't share with your significant other? Even if you're not cheating, you're hiding something or embarrassed about something if you're worried about phone messages being private. But again I realize everyone has a different view. Mine is that secrets or hiding things in a serious relationship is never a good sign. Why don't you trust your partner with whatever is on your phone? Weird.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Maybe things could be taken out of context. I mean, you are married to your husband (obviously) so you trust him a lot more (and probably a lot easier) than a couple who's been dating for a month or two. But good job on the trust y I'm not saying that the SO should not be able to go through every personal thing, but there should be limits and whether or not you have a good SO should not be determined by what they choose to be private. (If this doesn't make sense it's 2 am and I'm tired! Lol)

by Anonymous 11 years ago