+285 You don't owe anyone anything because they have a crush on you, and you shouldn't have to have a "reason" not to date them, amirite?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I agree with the first part, but the second part, yes you do. You have to have a reason to like someone or dislike someone. That's why you have friends and people you hate in the first place. The same applies to relationships. If I'm rejected I better be told why, because I may have a serious personality flaw I'd need to work on that I don't notice. And if I think their reason is stupid, then fuck them. It's courteous to tell them why if they ask. And yes, you //do// have a reason, otherwise you wouldn't say no.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I agree with everything you pointed out. Of course you need a reason not to date someone, whether it be you simply aren't attracted to them or you don't have time for a relationship (just some examples).

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Sometimes instead of having a reason not to date someone, it's more of you don't have a good enough reason to date someone. If you don't like them enough to date them, it doesn't necessarily mean they're bad, maybe it just means you don't like them enough. Or maybe you just friendzoned them.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

@Prophet I feel like saying that not having a good enough reason to date someone is, in fact, your reason for not dating them: they're not good enough for you.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

That makes sense, but at the same time thats making it seem like there's something wrong with the person you're rejecting when sometimes there's nothing wrong with them, it's just you don't like them romantically. But I suppose not liking them romantically is a good enough reason.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Of course, there's nothing wrong with them. The problem is simply that they aren't the right person for you, and that's perfectly fine. y

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Oh and to be honest I had nothing against your comment, altoid_freak_250, in fact I hadn't seen it when I wrote out my comment

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Yeah, I had a feeling you were just adding what you thought to the thread. But thank you. :)

by Anonymous 11 years ago

No thank you for being so understanding ^^ hugs all around

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Love and hugs for all l

by Anonymous 11 years ago

In my opinion, if you don't have a reason to go either way, and the guy has a crush on you, you should go on a date. It's the same concept that if you te neutral, you go with whatever people want you to go with.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Maybe I just don't like them and don't have a crush on them back; is that considered as having a reason orrr should a reason be like an actual reason?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

No shit that's a reason. I Sai I you're neutral. As in exactly neutral with no preference at all.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

See, I really hate giving a reason because of your second part there. "If it's something stupid, then screw you" Or if it's just not a big personality flaw I just don't like them. I'd like to not be considered a bitch for not being attracted to someone with a crush on me.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I also thought not liking them was the reason

by Anonymous 11 years ago

You have to have a reason for not dating them. But you don't have to give them that reason if you don't want to.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I strongly think this is what the OP meant.

by Anonymous 11 years ago