maybe that's implied in the saying but I still wanted to say this

by Anonymous 10 years ago

Sometime, you have to put yourself first- like when your resources or time are limited and you have to chose your priorities. If I had a tiff with my boss at work but my friend's Grandma died, I'd put my focus on my friend. If it comes between buying myself groceries or giving my friend a few bucks for bus fair, I have to put my need for food above their need for transportation. If I had to chose between being late for the second time this week or taking my pregnant friend to her doctor's appointment, I'd take her to the doctor. If it came between taking my friend to work or missing my doctor's appointment if I was pregnant, I'd make myself the priority. People should realize sometimes their friends will be in that situation where they can't sacrifice their needs to take care of yours and they shouldn't be offended, because some things are more important than others. There is also a self-bias. People tend to think their problems are more important than other people's. I wouldn't want to have a totally selfish friend or one that couldn't put things in perspective outside the self bubble, but I understand enough to not drop a friend because of them thinking their problems take priority over mine (even if mine are technically more pressing) because 1 maybe they really are, maybe I have a self-bias causing me to think mine are more important and 2 you can't be mad at someone for taking care of them self first (unless it's like your parents or something. But unless unconditional love is an expected part of the relationship, you're gonna have to deal with it.)

by Anonymous 10 years ago

Yourself included, amirite?

by Anonymous 4 years ago