I prefer initiating sex as a woman, amirite?

In my household we roll for initiative.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Lol I remember one time my bf was like "can I kiss you" and for whatever reason I had a D20 on me. He rolled a nat 20 and it was honestly an impressive kiss lol

by Anonymous 1 month ago

That's nice. All I got was a wet willy to the ear after a Nat 1.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

i need a translation 😭

by Anonymous 1 month ago

They are a nerds couple.

by Gutmannblanca 1 month ago

Natural d20.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Damn -1? Lucky I'm at -4

by Anonymous 1 month ago

As a guy I prefer this. The problem is never knowing if a woman prefers this. Most times, if we don't initiate we stay virgins forever

by Hot-Machine5725 1 month ago

Yeah and that goes for dating too. Even if you're good looking at most you'll get some more eye contact and girls giving you hints to come over. For every person like OP there's like 1000 girls trying to look approachable and get asked out. Hell, OP meant initiating in terms of sex it's totally possible she still prefers a guy ask her out and initiate the first date and whatnot.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Somehow I managed to score a great wife, but she does not initiate. I wish she would, as I would find it extremely hot.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Oh your poor inbox.

by NaiveGuitar 1 month ago

I mean if people go into her inbox it's the exact opposite of what she wrote she wanted.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

We're playing hard to get

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Good. I'll definitely come to you

by Anonymous 1 month ago

She's initiating! Runnnn!!

by Anonymous 1 month ago

So you're saying there's a chance?? /s

by cleannon 1 month ago

...Nice try, I guess?

by isabell41 1 month ago

Speaking of which....

by Interesting-Tip 1 month ago

😆

by Anonymous 1 month ago

ok

by toyalden 1 month ago

Are you flirting with me ;)

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I want these kind of relationship in my life

by Dry_Fan 1 month ago

💯💯

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Dude same

by Anonymous 1 month ago

LMAOO

by Anonymous 1 month ago

God dammit i would give anything for my wife to initiate.....

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I think my wife was this way for the first week of marriage.

by Fearless-Divide-9657 1 month ago

dang only the first week lol

by Anonymous 1 month ago

When men say stuff like this to me, I think they sound controlling. This sounds like you are controlling. It's likely due to the standard of men wanting sex more than women; if a guy asks me for sex then that idea is solidified and I'm reminded I shouldn't want it so much So you want sex unless someone else tells you they want sex because that makes you not want sex? Is there such thing as a contrariansexual?

by Anonymous 1 month ago

They're called brats.

by SheepherderLivid 1 month ago

Lol you do have a point.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Reminds me a lot of reactance in psychology. You make up your mind to do the dishes until your parent or roomate tells you that you need to do them while you're walking into the kitchen to start, then it's like 'Well now I'm not going to!'.

by Appropriate-Air 1 month ago

Interesting perspective and psychologically you are spot on. My experience is that there are just not that many women that want to initiate sex. They seem to prize the feeling of being lusted after and enjoy the power of refusal. Not that refusing isn't stressful either, btw for women...or men. But it's also difficult for men (young especially) to not want to be all over a woman they are attracted to...like all the time. The power of that attraction is insane. It takes over the brain...

by Anonymous 1 month ago

The power of refusal is real. And even in my past relationships where I (shamefully) enjoyed the swayed sexual power dynamic, I still feel like I would have enjoyed them much more if I wasn't begged for sex constantly

by Anonymous 1 month ago

What do you mean "begged for sex", did your men hug your knees and cry? That's the mental image I got lol

by Commercial_Annual140 1 month ago

"Come onnnn we haven't had sex in days/weeks think about how I feel" try that mental image on for size

by Anonymous 1 month ago

My eyebrows are diverging so much I got a stretch mark

by Commercial_Annual140 1 month ago

I mean is not having sex for weeks with your partner normal for you? A couple days I understand, but weeks sounds like you aren't even sexually compatible?

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Yeah, begging is not sexy. But a coy look and smile, saying, "Any chance?" 🤔

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Shoot, that's not begging at that point. Thats just trying to manipulate you for sex, imo.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

You are the Bumble of sex

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Women initiating definitely isn't uncommon. Wanting to be the only one to ever initiate, which as a high libido woman this is where I normally am, isn't that great. How can I tell he wants it and isn't just saying yes because he feels like he has to? I rather have no sex if the alternative is pity sex. I rather we initiate equal amounts

by Tight_Buy 1 month ago

Not really it can get hard because of horniness (idk if that's a word but I'm making it one now) but it also 1000% gets hard randomly 9/10 at moments you really don't want it too

by Different-Painter840 1 month ago

What if he also prefers to initiate?

by Awkward_Baseball9260 1 month ago

That's called wrestling

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Bring out the Hell in a Cell and barbed wire 2x4.

by ijacobson 1 month ago

Something something the undertaker, mankind, 1998

by PopularTravel1366 1 month ago

Then we're incompatible, if he dislikes women initiating sex

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Thank you for your service 🫡

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Either one can initiate right?

by padbergcolin 1 month ago

Depends on the relationship between the two. I'm too emotionally complicated to enjoy male initiation. I just wanted to share my opinion and see how people felt about it, humans have super diverse sexual dynamics between different relationships. Communicate and have fun

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Perhaps it's something you should work on?

by Salt-Equipment2394 1 month ago

I like a mix of the two because I like feeling desired and I desire my fiance and want him to feel it

by Anonymous 1 month ago

This is the ideal situation, I feel like it's mostly one or the other with couples unfortunately. I don't think my opinion should be shared by everyone, just wanted to share it verbally

by Anonymous 1 month ago

As a dude, I prefer it too. I am dead clueless at reading signs so this helps idiots like myself a lot.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

In this world I need written approval in triplicate with TPS coversheet before I engage my mojo.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

If you need all that, I encourage you to choose different women.

by Commercial_Annual140 1 month ago

I need nuclear Nadal, chief weapons expert and procurer of women.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I feel the same. I have been in many situations where i feel "worn down" into sex. When i initiate, i know that i actually want to do it, instead of when i would just tell myself i wanted to when i wasn't feeling it. It's something I'm working on though.

by CarrotCold7282 1 month ago

yea you are easily an outlier.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

just be mindful that some men may feel the same way about you initiating as you do them. however if you're initiating it enough to keep a guy happy I highly doubt that will be the case with the majority of men

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I also like when the women initiates the sex too, it just helps me know she's very much into it which is a turn on, instead of the old age man initiating it and sometimes knowing the woman is not into it and is just been used as a "release"

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I don't feel bored but my sex drive is much different than my husbands. We do have an open marriage so it's a bit easier and not as much pressure on me. But I do like initiating since I have a lot of chronic pain, I only really want sex when I'm not hurting too much. I think my husband understands this now and he'll still let me know when he's wanting sex, but doesn't push me into having it if I'm not up for it. But he loves when I initiate because he knows I'm feeling better.

by hegmannbrayan 1 month ago

I mean hey, I prefer when they initiate too. Makes it a lot easier and helps to know they want it. I can understand the mentality the other way around too though - it's gonna be different for different people anyway

by Anonymous 1 month ago

This opinion is expected to be unpopular with whom, exactly?

by Anonymous 1 month ago

those that are stuck in the 1930s

by Runolfsdottirau 1 month ago

Finally a sensible answer ha. Girls should also be the one to hit on men. Girls control sex, so if a girl hits on you you know it's on. When a guy hits on a girl he's still kinda unsure about sex so he trudges on

by Anonymous 1 month ago

My sex drive is definitely a lot higher when there's no pressure or expectation. If I can trust that I'm not going to be propositioned or pressured, I'm much more relaxed, and I get turned on a lot more and I will be doing the propositioning for sure lol.

by Hudsonmarcia 1 month ago

So brave.

by Bradley56 1 month ago

lol bruh

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Hopefully, it was sarcasm.

by Commercial_Annual140 1 month ago

I don't think this is popular enough.

by Neat-Tradition 1 month ago

Any sisters?

by Big-Pay-9227 1 month ago

Ew a man initiating 🤢

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Hey big guy

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Once in my life ld like a woman to initiate lol Hell I'd settle for sex again before I pass

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I require enthusiastic consent say yes a lot

by mdenesik 1 month ago

I gotta admit, I don't like initiating sex as a man. I mean, I will for the sex, but I kind of wish it didn't feel overhanded, even if I'm soft.

by Prudent_Pineapple970 1 month ago

Your turned off by the people your turned on by being turned on by you. Got it! Is eye contact allowed 🤣 or just a high five at the end?

by Open_Succotash 1 month ago

I'd prefer it if my wife was this way too. For me, personally, it makes me feel wanted ya know? But it is what it is, love her to pieces and sex is an added bonus. I'll initiate when she says the phrase "Wanna have sex tonight" otherwise it won't happen! 🤣🤣 Don't get me wrong, there always hugs and kisses and beautifuls thrown out every day. To be fair though, we have 4 kids and have had plenty in the past. Still prefer it daily, but hey life's life. Not really losing out on anything other than an amazing experience!

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Woman here and I like initiating too. I like feeling like I can just turn a guy on like that.

by Brentbarton 1 month ago

Then have fun with all the simps in your life. You might as well turn into a dominatrix and have a bunch of gimps on hand.

by Responsible_Slide741 1 month ago

I like initiating sex and pursuing guys. I don't like it the other way around. Makes me feel not only in control, but I feel like the guys appreciate how vocal I am about it

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Have you ever initiated it as a man?

by Afraid_Resort_5703 1 month ago

Well romance tends to work better if the woman initiates it, more often than not the more a man desires a woman and the more he pushes for sex the more turned off the woman would tend to be, so it does make sense. Romance works much better for the man if it goes at the woman's pace.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Daily Korma farm.

by ijacobson 1 month ago

Okay so that is awesome and god would 99.999% of men love it if most women did… but much like making the first move at a bar or being the first to talk on a dating app we're so damn used to it it's what we expect of ourselves. Something about when a woman takes charge and as a man we get to feel like she's in control is absolutely irresistible

by Anonymous 1 month ago

RIP your inbox

by Calm_Patient 1 month ago

I don't prefer initiating sex as a woman, I find it hard to hide my balls. ⚽️⚽️

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I've not been with someone that didn't meet me half way in the beginning, but that's probably normal. I am very turned on when my partner initiates sexual interactions. It makes me feel wanted and desirable. I would enjoy returning the favor if it was desired. If my partner needed to initiate sex every single time, no matter what and my sexual needs are satisfied, that would be more than cool with me.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I feel this

by Gradygracie 1 month ago

You should

by Ernsergraham 1 month ago

Will you marry me? I want my wife to initiate because the sex is soo much better when she's already in the mood. She says that she's uncomfortable initiating but says she wants it often, but not always when I want sex. Just incompatible sometimes. You sound awesome.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I don't prefer it per se, but in my relationship, I (woman) do 90% of the initiating, just because that's our dynamic. I'm fine with it. Kind of ramps up the excitement the times he does initiate, tbh.

by Alarming-Animator429 1 month ago

This is interesting!! I'm only five months in with my current lover dynamic and I'm interested in seeing if me mostly initiating will excite me more when he does

by Anonymous 1 month ago

lol the last time mine did, it ended up with sex on the kitchen counter at our big ages, so I meannnn...

by Alarming-Animator429 1 month ago

Guys shouldn't mind this.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

You are already a very rare creature if you do and any man would feel amazing to get that kind of validation .

by Ggrant 1 month ago

i'm to scared to initiate anything, even a conversation, let alone sex

by Peggie86 1 month ago

Doubtful any man will object this opinion

by vaughnjones 1 month ago

I feel you sister. I ALWAYS initiate and take on a soft dom role

by Anonymous 1 month ago

if you don't ask then you will never receive. So as a man I always intimidate. Except for make up sex which is usually a women initiates in my experience.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Being a guy, I don't have that option. Phrasing is so odd.

by DryWerewolf 1 month ago

You're the real MVP. I don't wanna make women feel pressured but there's a point where they'll assume you aren't interested, every person is different so it's tough to gauge at times lol

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Truly Unpopular

by Anonymous 1 month ago

i prefer women initiate too, just so we're clear and i dont end up in jail

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Ok, do not DM me! I repeat DO NOT start something :-)

by christysenger 1 month ago

I prefer it too

by bblanda 1 month ago

Need more women like you 😭

by SpiritualBag 1 month ago

Me too

by zeichmann 1 month ago

IDC who initiates as long as we have sex 💀 Like you, I have a high sex drive. Mine is even higher than my man's. I think he's had to turn down sex from me a lot more than I've ever turned down sex from him because he just can't keep up 😭

by Anonymous 1 month ago

This isn't an opinion

by ygutmann 1 month ago

I prefer when a woman initiates too. I call it "aggressive consent" and there is nothing sexier on the planet. The feeling of being wanted is always better than someone just making themselves available.

by florenciomaggio 1 month ago

The world need more of you

by dhand 1 month ago

This is how it should be . Not sure why there's a majority resistance to women wanting sex? If women are people too as man , women as do men like to have sex

by Typical-Ability 1 month ago

DM me please!! 😄

by Anonymous 1 month ago

That's hot lol

by Kind_Reporter 1 month ago

Hmm ok

by Sageraynor 1 month ago

Well I feel you are the smaller percentage of women that wants sex. And when I say want sex, I mean actually wanting sex. I feel men always have to initiate sex because women will claim they love sex, until a man shows they want sex a lot. Now don't get me wrong, I've met a few women that gave me a run for my money and two that made me call timeout because I basically couldn't get my damn pants off fast enough. But again, women like you are more the minority because most will be the opposite and decline men more often than initiate

by IndividualSpell 1 month ago

This isn't an opinion. It's a fact about you.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Well my intimacy one every 3 months would turn to once every 3 years if she d initiate.. 😌

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Except for the fact that "the standard" you speak of about men wanting it more is completely untrue a lot of the time. That is what you call a stereotype. Something mostly only said by women 🤷

by Common_Yoghurt 1 month ago

A girl once told me she would give it to me anytime I wanted. I let her get away

by Emeliaprohaska 1 month ago

You uh ... You're a dream come true

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I wanna date you then😉

by Anonymous 1 month ago

You want the guy to initiate 0 times? I'm not much of an initiator, but I don't think 0 is possible for me. Would I just signal somehow instead of actually initiating? Like absentmindedly rubbing my inner thigh while perusing my phone?

by Lempi16 1 month ago

Where I've landed as well, as a dude. By default the person with the lowest drive should initiate, otherwise you're just setting up for confrontation. Luckily I'm old enough it doesn't really matter a lot.

by MindConscious3796 1 month ago

I prefer initiating sex as an orangutan.

by IndependentNo8117 1 month ago

Oh behave

by Anonymous 1 month ago

You sound like my kinda woman

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Glad my woman loves it

by Brilliant_Regret 1 month ago

You are a unicorn mu lady

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Are you free on Saturday? Just kidding but to be serious I think that's a good quality to have. Women can have such finicky (understandably) sex drives so it's great when she initiates.

by Weak-Following 1 month ago

Tbh I think it's more natural for the woman to initiate. We can look at quite a few other mammalian species out there (as well as some non-mammalian) and see plenty of cases where the females have some sort of signal that they're eager and receptive.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I don't think different species are a good reference for human relations. Way too many different sexual dynamics are at play in nature lol. But humans seem to be pretty diverse and i think it's good to discuss the diversity we see

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Don't get me wrong – there are definitely more complex elements to our relationships. I just think sometimes we have a tendency to go against our own instincts and natural patterns because we see ourselves as so far above the animal kingdom that we can't draw a few parallels. Our chromosomes may be built different, but we're still made of chromosomes.

by Anonymous 1 month ago

Come on lil' guy, where's my escargo slurp slurp

by Anonymous 1 month ago

I mean thats sexy. Especially when my gf grabs my middle finger and put it inside her vagina during bedtime while her eyes closed.

by GarbageOk5201 1 month ago

We need more women like you

by Anonymous 1 month ago