People are allowed to change without being call a hypocrite

People can change, I don't consider them hypocrites if they showed growth. That being said, someone with "rules for thee, not for me" attitude will always be a hypocrite.

by Hudsonerika 1 year ago

to me this is one of those issues where people judge humans they know irl much different than "humans who are usernames and faceless" like, listen to someone speak about their problems and growth and you have empathy. Read someone's text and it's just so easy to launch into a diatribe of self righteousness

by Shayleesimonis 1 year ago

Technoblade got hate one time for ... having an edgy teenager phase (he said bad word to minority)

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Best answer. Wish more people would understand this.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

^

by Hopekovacek 1 year ago

You added nothing to the conversation

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Idk when people ask me for gym advice I tell them to do different things than I do because my training doesn't fit everyone does that make me a hypocrite

by Kutchraheem 1 year ago

You're not asking them to adopt different ethical behaviours though, are you? That's the difference.

by Tinaleuschke 1 year ago

Sometimes a hypocrite is nothing more than a man in the process of changing. Dalinar Kholin, Oathbringer by Brandon Sanderson

by Ortizretta 1 year ago

Was wondering if someone was going to drop this gem of wisdom

by IndependenceDry 1 year ago

The first step to solving any problem is acknowledging that one exists. In order to change as a person, one has to want to change. It is not enough to say the right things alone, especially if one's actions are harmful.

by Ortizretta 1 year ago

I feel like they have to prove they have changed though. Like my first Gf cheated on me with my friend. Came crying to me 3 years later (we hadn't talked the whole time) cuz her boyfriend at college cheated on her with her roommate. Hard for me not to laugh at the hypocrisy there cuz like I have no reason to believe she had changed as a person. She's just feeling what she caused me to feel and doesn't like it now.

by darylcorkery 1 year ago

Lot of people who have zero empathy, probably not even able to imagine what the betrayal felt like till it happened. Serves them right though.

by Moniquenicolas 1 year ago

I think there are contexts where you can "change" and still be a hypocrite. Lauren Boebert used to be on welfare, and without it she wouldn't be where she is now - a congresswoman who opposes welfare programs. She climbed the ladder and now she wants to pull it up behind her. You could argue "well she used to be on welfare, but now she isn't and she changed her mind" but it's still hypocrisy.

by Ok-Doughnut 1 year ago

Who is Lauren Bobert? Which city is she the MP of?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Yes, everyone's wrong but you.

by Tinaleuschke 1 year ago

Have you heard of the high elves?

by Twatsica 1 year ago

Chronically online thinking.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

A lot of people unironically believe that people can't change. The idea that someone can learn from their mistakes and improve themselves is a myth to these people. I follow a lot of those people.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Hard to believe that this could very well be an unpopular opinion but it doesn't make it untrue. People can change, for better or worse. When it comes to the court of public opinion, you'll always be judged by the number of times you dirtied your diaper as a baby vs being the greatest human that humanity has to offer. Yes that's an exaggeration but it gets the point across.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I think part of the issue is that people are starting to turn and face the strange ch-ch-changes. Don't tell them to grow up and out of it.

by Brandon30 1 year ago

Word. If you're flip-flopping on something you said a week ago, that's questionable. Something you said/did a decade ago? That's called growth/change.

by yesenialeannon 1 year ago

Damn straight.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Agreed!!! Social media likes to push this "no coming back from this" or this "once a ___, always a ___" mentality like we're machines programmed one way and are incapable of change.

by dthompson 1 year ago

Makes me think of that quote from Walt Whitman "do I contradict myself? Very well then I contradict myself. I am large, I contain multitudes"

by Anonymous 1 year ago

People can change, this is true. If they honestly change their stance on something and no longer do the opposite then they aren't hypocrites though. Hypocrites are the ones that will continually claim one thing while also continually doing the opposite.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Anyone who belittles another for changing their beliefs is a bigot.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Also you shouldn't take the definition of "hypocrite" to the T. A smoker telling you not to smoke is technically a hypocrite, but it's not really fair. They're addicted and they're giving you useful advice to not make the same mistake as them.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

That's not being hypocritical. That's giving advice. Being hypocritical requires them to you know, view or imply they would view you behaving that way critically.

by Tinaleuschke 1 year ago

Of course people can change but when it's a big issue or they made a big stink about how they were right and everyone else was wrong, they should be humble enough to admit they were wrong and give apologies where needed.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Being a hypocrite is far from the worst thing you can be. Contradictions in our own beliefs and knowledge are part and parcel of being human.

by bobbie73 1 year ago

If they are willing to renounce their previous ways and acknowledge they've changed, yes. If they say one thing and do another, hypocrite. If they claim they've changed but their actions are inconsistent with their words, hypocrite. If they refuse to disavow past behavior or opinions, have they really changed their views?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Also depends how much you attone and help those you previously hurt before.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

If the person's situation changed, then no. They're just picking whatever side their on and didn't learn anything. Burn them at the stake. But if a person's situation hasn't changed, and they're educated themself. Then yes, it's fair to have a change of heart.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

It's because it's always suspicious when someone changes their position on an issue suddenly. Trust tends to be earned when behavior is seen to be consistent.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

You are 100% correct!

by Acrobatic-Gap-8932 1 year ago

Yes. This isn't unpopular nor is changing being a hypocrite.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Sure, but given that people grow and change, maybe people should have 'a little bit more humility in the present. If someone is outspoken and aggressive about something and then they change, then the hypocrisy is the rigidity of belief, not the belief itself.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

People don't know what that word means anymore and just throw it out when anyone implies their lifestyle has negative consequences.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

As long as they can acknowledge any wrongdoings and hurts done in the past

by Cruickshankname 1 year ago

It really depends on how it's handled. A person who used to do Y in the past should have some empathy, be understanding how others might do it now. IF PersonX comes out with vitriol and hatred against anyone doing Y, then they're a hypocritical asshole. Change is allowed, sure. But if someone begins alleging superiority, then it becomes a personality flaw. That's a case of "I was shamed when I was doing Y, so now I'm going to shame others who are doing Y now!" a toxic vengence-paid-forward mindset, like an abused child becoming an abusive adult, dysfunction breeding dysfunction. I mean, motivation doesn't matter, but that's one way it comes about.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Absolutely. No one is ever under any obligation to be the same person they were even 5 minutes ago.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I wouldn't call someone a hypocrite if they speak out against a behavior they used to partake in, as long as they acknowledge that they've done it and they know it was wrong of them to do it. That said, while it's good to grow, and learn, and change your behavior over time, people aren't obligated to forgive you for stuff you did to them back in the day, they don't have to let you back into their lives just because you say you've changed. Changing doesn't negate past behavior.

by Princerunolfsso 1 year ago

They can change but they can't criticize others for stuff they did in the past. That makes them a hypocrite.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Changing should be welcomed and encouraged, growth comes from knowledge and curiosity, if you aren't willing to listen to well-reasoned arguments, do your research and change your opinion as a result, then you are a very small-minded excuse for a human.

by Substantial_Coach514 1 year ago

I wonder how the red/blue pill communities will react to this? Because the majority (coughFreshandFitcough) will go on about one thing and live a life of another. The die hard followers are also the problem for buying into their BS. I understand some names have products to sell, and in some cases certain information can be altered, however have transparency and integrity. Don't lie just to sell something because people will find out, and your name(s) will be ruined. Same with politicians - you've been in office longer than some have been alive, and you did what for your country?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Yeah a hypocrite is someone who still does those stuff

by Anonymous 1 year ago

There are certain things that aren't exactly forgivable.

by Ggulgowski 1 year ago

But that's quite literally what hypocrisy IS. Just because you don't like the word doesn't mean it's not appropriate.

by revahagenes 1 year ago

I guess the questions I have here are: what is accountability? Who gets to define that? And who's in charge of "enforcing" it for lack of a better term? In your example, what would accountability look like?

by Outrageous_Equal_721 1 year ago

I mean, assuming the man has already been through the legal punishment by the time he's professing to have changed, I don't really see how he can further be held accountable. And if he hasn't, I would assume enough time has passed that punishment would need to be retroactive, and the laws surrounding domestic violence don't really work like that. Assuming he doesn't face legal consequences, as is sadly often the case for domestic violence, I think taking accountability would really only look like acknowledging his mistakes and trying to be better in the future.

by Outrageous_Equal_721 1 year ago

So are we supposed to hunt everyone down with a ledger of all the wrongs that they have done? Then what? Punish them? What kind of crazy delusional thinking is that? This is why the law exists. This is why crazy crackpots like yourself aren't allowed to dole out "justice". You have no idea what justice is or the appropriate action to be taken. You sound like a crazed lunatic with a massive chip on his shoulder about society and "everyone that has wronged you"

by boyerbernard 1 year ago

You've taken my example to the extreme. Like very extreme. Like what's next. Cheaters DO deserve a second chance. Not going anywhere with this debate.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

You seem to see the world as very black or white. That will limit you severely in life if it hasn't already. You also seem to have quite a bit of repressed rage so ill end it by saying have a good day buddy.

by boyerbernard 1 year ago

Yes. I see the world in a certain way. I've experienced things you haven't. I've had people get away with things done to me that should be punishable. Some things aren't forgivable.

by Anonymous 1 year ago