+46 You're not and cannot be friends or best friends with your romantic partner, amirite?

by Joanie56 2 weeks ago

Are you the rulemaker for how relationships should be?

by ahalvorson 2 weeks ago

So what if you have sex with your friend but you're not dating

by khahn 2 weeks ago

How is it hypocritical lol

by khahn 2 weeks ago

I mean i think that is just the most appropriate word to use since they aren't your romantic partner either. You're just arguing semantics

by khahn 2 weeks ago

It's not semantics, you cannot be sitting on two chairs all the time.

by Joanie56 2 weeks ago

Your relationship with other people is not comparable to chairs lol It is semantics, you think the same concept should be called something else. At the end of the day it's a friend you have sex with, whatever ya wanna call it

by khahn 2 weeks ago

I know it's not, you need to read between the lines.

by Joanie56 2 weeks ago

So why use it then 😂

by khahn 2 weeks ago

Because it's a metaphor depicting someone who doesn't know what he or she wants so he or she is "sitting" on two options.

by Joanie56 2 weeks ago

The definition of a friend is someone you have a good relationship with, by definition then, this can be a romantic partner. Sounds like all you're romantic partners hurt you or something

by Greenholtebony 2 weeks ago

No they did not, this isn't about me.

by Joanie56 2 weeks ago

Could've fooled me

by Greenholtebony 2 weeks ago

No idea what OP's on about. This feels like a 'type this out before bed' kinda thing

by Anonymous 1 week ago

OP typing this out "oh boy my super rare unpopular opinion is gonna blow up by morning!"

by Hcruickshank 1 week ago

That's kinda sweet

by Anonymous 1 week ago

It depends how genuine the friendship was to begin with.

by Joanie56 1 week ago

This is a you thing.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Yes it's my unpopular opinion, literally.

by Joanie56 1 week ago

No, it's just something you suffer from because of apparent immaturity, not really an unpopular opinion.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Nah my wife is my best friend, the energy in my home is a pendulum between best friends having a sleep over, laughing and playing... and steamy time

by Ready-Practice-9851 1 week ago

Is this a religious attitude or...

by Ordinary-Inflation 1 week ago

No, it has nothing to do with religion.

by Joanie56 1 week ago

Eh I definitely had sex with a lot of my friends when we weren't dating. And my best friend has always been a woman since I was a kid. I eventually ended up marrying one and we've been best friends together for 10 years now

by Ok-Individual-8861 1 week ago

So you can be best friends with your partner, which I know from personal experience. I have 'broken up' with friends in the past, we've had disagreements and never spoke again. I think there are more layers to a romantic relationship, being friends, lovers, caretakers. If one starts to fall apart then sometimes the others fall with it, sometimes not. When you're in the beginning few months to a year of a relationship and you break up then you're losing a friend and a lover. It's sad but not as bad. When you're yk, 6-7+ years into a relationship, maybe even a marriage and break up, then you lose one of your best friends. That really hurts.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Of course they are more layers to a romantic relationship but being friends isn't one of them.

by Joanie56 1 week ago

It just seems like you've had bad relationships, to be honest.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I have not, this take of mine has nothing to do with my personal relationships.

by Joanie56 1 week ago

Are you saying that your opinion has no basis in reality? Asking because my opinion is based from my personal relationships, because as you experience things it changes your perspectives. I'm just wondering what experience, if not personal, caused you to form the opinion? Like you might not believe in lions, until you saw one, then your mind would be changed. I think this logic applies here. Nothing I can do to convince you but hope that one day you get to see a lion for yourself, I guess.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Yes my opinion definitely has basis in reality, that's why I'm sharing it. Years of observation caused me to form this opinion.

by Joanie56 1 week ago

Observation of one specific relationship? Celebrities? Some people are in relationships and absolutely hate eachother, it's not uncommon. It doesn't mean that a different person in a different relationship can't be friends with their partner y'know?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

No, it's years of observations of many different relationships. Not celebrities, just regular people. I don't care who celebrities date.

by Joanie56 1 week ago

Right. I'm not trying to devalue your opinion, I just want to understand where you're coming from but I feel you might be a little defensive right now. I apologise for saying your opinion wasn't based in reality, I hadn't considered the possibility of seeing others' personal relationships and forming an opinion that way. What happened in the relationships you were observing that made you think they weren't friends with eachother?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

You should have things in common but you shouldn't be and can't be best friends.

by Joanie56 1 week ago

Why not? What's the issue with platonic compatibility?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

It's superficial and deceitful.

by Joanie56 1 week ago

You're gonna need to explain that, cause a friendship nor a relationship aren't meant to be either of those things.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

That's not an explanation, just a question answering a question. So why is it superficial and deceitful?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

What exclusive benefits do you think come from friendship that couldn't happen in a relationship?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Ive had sex with multiple of my friends lol

by Simone83 1 week ago

Then you are no longer friends.

by Joanie56 1 week ago

Why?

by Simone83 1 week ago

Because actual friends do not have sex with each other and if they do then they are weird and hypocritical about what they are.

by Joanie56 1 week ago

I think you need to expand on this argument. How and why is this hypocritical and weird?

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Because friends are one thing and romantic partners are another thing. Mixing the two doesn't work and leads to problems eventually.

by Joanie56 1 week ago

Is that your experience? Because I've had different experiences and it doesn't align with your argument.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

It's not my experience, I've seen it with other people constantly and it never works.

by Joanie56 1 week ago

My experiences contradict your observations then. I'd change that "never" to "rarely" but that doesn't mean people shouldn't try if they want.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

You do know that having sex with someone doesn't mean you're a romantic partner right? Sex is an act, romance is an idea. They're not even the same things. You can 100% have sex with anyone and not be romantically involved with them. What do you think a one night stand is?

by Greenholtebony 1 week ago

You're just changing the definition of words to fit with this idea of yours. Your arguments basically boils down to "If an exception to the rule I've decided to make is pointed out, then I'm just going to decide that it's not valid so I don't have to consider it."

by Natural-Display-5750 1 week ago

False dichotomy, the Oxford definition says that they are typically exclusive of each other, but the mere fact it says that implies that they don't have to be

by Natural-Display-5750 1 week ago

Very odd

by Simone83 1 week ago

I had sex with a friend once but because of the basic rule of friendship they immediately burst into flames. Now my friend is gone. Why don't they warn people about things like this?!

by SignificantDuck758 1 week ago

if you were friends, then you would stay on good terms as actual friends after a breakup but most (former) couples do not This seems to be the only reason you have given. However when two people have a bitter falling out, they generally don't stay friends. Even people who were just friends and had no romantic relationships. Also you seem to have a very rigid definition of friendship.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

Can't wait until OP finds out about friends with benefits

by tremblaykathery 1 week ago

You can call it your unpopular opinion and you are certainly entitled to it. However I find it weird to have an opinion about a word that has a widely accepted definition friend noun 1 a : one attached to another by affection or esteem She's my best friend. I have been married 29 years and my wife is my best friend regardless of your unpopular opinion.

by Mediocre_Assist 1 week ago

You realize a relationship is more than just the sex right? Like you can have sex 14 times a day and you still have to find a way to fill in the other 12 hours with that person So how do you hangout with someone without being friends?

by Hcruickshank 1 week ago