I agree but that speaks more to how we raise young boys without positive affirmation that they view any compliment as a sign of attraction that statistically it tends to be them who experience this.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I dont think I've heard people say this is gendered. It's just something that some people do. A little bit of a lack of social awareness.

by kingkertzmann 1 week ago

Perhaps not said outright, but I personally have never heard any talk besides the women giving compliments, men being attracted dynamic.

by Anonymous 1 week ago

You've never seen / heard of the girl who thinks every guy is hitting on them? They usually get defensive for no reason though, "I HAVE A BOYFRIEND!", "that's nice ma'am but can I please have your name so I can put it on your coffee order?"

by kingkertzmann 1 week ago

Well in this scenario, the man isn't giving a compliment, the girl is perceiving an advance by a man and assuming a defensive position irrationally. This is not what I was referring to where a compliment is exchanged, and the kind gesture is confused for attraction by the receiving party. Usually this is portrayed as the woman giving compliment, man receiving, but I propose this is a natural human response, but the conditions are met more often by men

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I strongly agree !

by Anonymous 1 week ago

I'd agree here. I like to compliment men because I know that guys are starved from compliments. Being openly gay, I do get the Sense they think I'm attracted to them. Which is fine, I think it's great they think highly of themselves, because they should. But I'm not going to go further than complimenting your appearance. I've also complimented girls who responded that they have a boyfriend. Okay? I have a husband, if you want to make this a competition.

by Clear_Audience 1 week ago