How can you be "over" somebody? If your emotional feelings were so strong for somebody that you really wanted to be in a relationship, how on earth can you just suddenly decide you all the sudden don't have any feelings for that person? amirite?

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The voters have decided that Ross is right! Vote on the post to say if you agree or disagree.

Getting over someone is neither a decision I make, nor is it sudden.

It takes a LOT of time but it is most certainly possible. Especially if they're wrong for you, you have to tell yourself that the best thing for you to be happy is to move on. I used to be very much in love with my ex, however I knew he didn't feel the same way anymore. It took over a year and a half, but now I can say I have no feelings for him and not think twice. But I think another thing that helps is developing feelings for someone else

Anonymous +10Reply

idk, it's emotions... you don't "decide" to begin loving someone, and you can't "decide" to stop, either.

Because it's not a decision it just happens?

Once your feelings fade away for that person, you are over them. That's what it is, and if it didn't happen, everyone would be emotional wrecks over every person they've been in a relationship with.

You can get over people, just not suddenly. It takes time.

Livvies avatar Livvie No Way +5Reply

Believe it or not, some people have the ability to just "get over someone." It's called mind over matter.

Anonymous +4Reply

Time heals all wounds.

I don't think I'll ever be really "over" the boy I just broke up with, but I know that I have to move on to someone that's better for me. There will always be a special place in my heart for him.

sapphyres avatar sapphyre Yeah You Are +2Reply

Aww Ross had his heart broken.

Or you force yourself to stop liking them, thereby getting "over" them because you realize that it will never work out and want to stop torturing yourself.

Anonymous 0Reply
@Or you force yourself to stop liking them, thereby getting "over" them because you realize that it will never work...

You can't force yourself to like someone, you can't force yourself to stop.
If you've been forced (by yourself or anyone) don't dignify it as love.

Anonymous +1Reply

Excatly. I went out with a guy last year, and he was really popular. Just about everygirl wanted him, but i had him. they constantly flirted with him nd stuff. A couple months later, i broke up with him, [he re asked me out again 3 times] he moved away like 2 weeks ago, and i miss him. But the girls that use to obsess over him, always talk about how much they hate him and want him to be dead and are going to throw a "jakes gone party" it just frusterates me that they forget all thir other feelings for him, espicially when he didnt do anything to them.

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