+648 people say its shallow to go for someone for looks instead of personality. But to be honest, you gotta be physically attracted to them before you go and get to know them. Then if you find out they have a bad personality you become unattracted to them. So its not really shallow when it all starts because of looks. Amirite?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

For me it's like 1.) Get to know 2.) Good personality = gets more beautiful. b.) Bad personality = ugly. xD

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Haha. That's so true too.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I totally agree!

by Anonymous 13 years ago

It's like a book. We all know we completely judge books by their cover and will really only pick up the books that catch our eye aesthetically. However, what we're really looking for is a good book on the inside and if the story is good, you couldn't care less on the cover and just focus on the pages.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Not to mention, it's literally our instinct to go for looks. Look at the animal kingdom. Males have flashy, eye catching colors or are bigger or what have you to attract females. Everyone and everything wants the perfect mate. Personality is a factor, but unless you're blind it's significantly harder to be attracted to someone only on personality.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

(anonyyy<3): I was thinking the same thing. Pretty much every living thing is meant to be attracted to someone who looks good. But if they have a sucky personality then forget about it.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Unless you meet them first with no intention of being in a relationship and end up falling for them? Due to personality? Let's use our heads, everyone.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

this sounds like Diotome. sortof. :D

by Anonymous 13 years ago

There has to be a sexual attraction as well or else you can just stay friends...

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Agreed. I would never date somebody just because he was cute. But I would also never date somebody I found ugly. I need good looks AND a good personality. If that's shallow, oh well!

by Anonymous 13 years ago

It's not shallow to have to be attracted to your mate. The only problem is when people get physica right away it can blind them to other things. Things that they potentially can't live with.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

It's not shallow when you date because of looks. It's shallow when they have a good personality, but you break up with them because they look less good.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Good personality is the most important, but everone has their limits to how ugly a person is.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Yes, physical attraction is important, but you don't date someone for looks, that's shallow, you should choose someone you are attracted to and that whose personality you are attracted to.

by Anonymous 13 years ago