+265 loving someone means being the best for them, the one that makes them happy and will stay true and faithful, but also giving them the choice to love you in return or choose another. Don't let your love walk away because someone else is "better" you need to rise up and be the one worth loving, the one they want to stay with, not the one who lets go without a fight, amirite?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

(I hope you aren't quoting something.) I disagree. You see, I'm kind of in a situation like this right now. I've liked this guy for three years at least, I'm not even sure when exactly I started liking him, and I started truly loving him about a year ago. He's the perfect guy for me, he's everything that I want and need and I can see myself marrying him and having kids with him and growing old with him. But, I'm not everything that he wants and needs. And I know that, and I'm not going to be in denial about it, or try to make myself into a different person because I want him to love me for exactly who I am now, right now. But I love him enough that I want HIM to be happy in the long run. And even though I would be, I don't think he would be. So, I'm (trying) to let my romantic attatchment to him go and let both myself and him move on from this. And

by Anonymous 13 years ago

all I can do is hope that he finds someone who will be as perfect for him as I know he is for me and pray that I'll still fit in his life somewhere as a close friend or sister figure. I mean every single word I just said. I really do. And pelase understand that even though I'm disagreeing with you, I mean that in a I have a different opinion so I'll share it, not you are wrong and let me inform of the correct thing.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

oh I understand what you're saying. This was just a thought that came after i'd seen the "if you love somebody you want the best for them even if it's not you" and as I was thinking about it, I realized though there's truth in the statement, it hides a clever lie. If you just think about it, it's a bit depressing and it makes letting the person go seem effortless. I wasn't implying that you have to change who you are for that person, i'm just saying that your love for that person should make you want to be a better you. I believe love changes you into more of you, if that makes any sense? It's a good change, like learning posture and when to breathe while singing, it improves the talent you already have. Love should bring out the beauty that's already there. Also, I believe if you love someone you want the best for them, because you like who they are and want them to be themself, and you don't like to see them hurting. This should apply to yourself too in reverse, you need to love ...

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I think I understand what you mean, and I do agree with that.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

FINALLY! An intelligent conversation without bashing, just an agree to disagree, and seeing each others point. Good for you, ladies.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

whoever said the OP was a girl?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

If you're dating the person, of course you need to put up some kinda fight, but if they don't fully love you or have curiosity about someone else, whether you fight or not, they're always going to have that curiosity. You don't want to be with someone when in the back of your mind you're wondering if they're fully commited. You need to know when to let someone go. I've been with my bf for over 4 years. At about the 2 year point, he strayed. I knew something was off by the way he acted and when he finally admitted it was someone else it was like a weight off both our shoulders. He explored. 3 days broken up in our entire relationship...lucky for me he realized I was what he wanted. But yeah, we're stronger than ever. But I've told him a million times if he ever thinks he'd be happier somewhere else to please go. And we've had an extremly honest relationship ever since. :)

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Oh, and he didn't cheat. He also didn't do anything with her when we did break up. We broke up because he thought he'd rather be with her but when he was 'free' of me he didn't want to take anything further with her anyways. In my opinion honesty is number 1 in a relationship (dating or friends) so never be anything you're not for someone else. Don't hide things. Be 100. Someone may get hurt from honesty. But lies hurt worse.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

If you love something, set it free. If it's meant to be, it will return.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I agree with you wholeheartedly. That was the situation with my current boyfriend and I and though neither one of us wanted to break up in the first place, being apart made us grow up and now we're stronger than ever.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I have told my girlfriend many many times that if she's ever not happy, to leave. It would hurt me to see her go, but I want her to be happy. She brings out the best and worst in me. I love her. Sometimes you gotta put someone you love's happiness in front of your own. If you can't do that, it's not really love. She does the same for me, so I know we're going to work out in the end. We'd never change for each other, but we would go to certain lengths to make each other happy.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

tl;dr lol

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I should show this to my best friend..

by Anonymous 13 years ago

wow I totally forgot I wrote this, I had to read the first comments to make sure this was what I wrote. I really didn't think I would ever see it again. For the most part I still think the same way. Love is worth fighting for, and you shouldn't change yourself, but you should realize your own worth. The most you can do for someone is be faithful, choose to love them, and respect them, just for who they are. But I guess sometimes they can't do the same...hmm I guess this is just one of those things you can think about forever... Anyways, I think i'm still going to choose to love to the best of my abilities. I wrote this when I was single, but now I am in a wonderful relationship with a faithful guy. Even though it's long distance and sometimes I think he could find someone closer to him, I remember he chose me, and I chose him. While i'm with him, I don't want anybody else, and i'll fight for him...until we can't be together anymore, and if that day comes, I wish him the best.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

oh and I'm not afraid of disagreeing. Obviously my perspective is limited. I have my thoughts and opinions, but I can't possibly know what anyone else's thoughts are completely. The beauty of communication, empathy, and relationships is making connections with other human beings. I'm glad this started an intelligent, polite discussion, which seems so rare on the web. Plus, it's not like my statement is perfect. So I expect others to have a different view on things. I think everyone's input has been wonderful. I'm glad this found it's way to the homepage and was seen, and not for credit for me, but this came from my heart and I think that all of you who commented have been great, really helpful. If any of this has made you think, or touched your heart in any way, then i'm glad. It's very humbling to think that even just a handful of strangers have read my words, and for a moment thought about the same thing. We sure do live in an amazing world. Bless you all.

by Anonymous 13 years ago