But heterosexuals flaunt it all the time. With their holding hands it public, wearing wedding rings, talking about their spouses, and fitting straight stereotypes. It's disgusting! I'm OK with straights but I wish they wouldn't keep shoving it in my face like this... ^^^ That sounds ridiculous. OP, you sound ridiculous in this post. It's blatantly hypocritical. People shouldn't have to change how they act through fear of "being stereotypical" - that's another way of controlling behaviour no better than wanting people TO fit expectations. Straight people can act however they want without it being attributed to their heterosexuality. Gay people should have the same freedom. If you don't allow them that, maybe you're not as 'completely fine' with it as you like to think.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Actually I don't think that's what they mean. You can hold hands, kiss, talk about your significant other (gay or straight I don't want to see any of that, but some people are fine with it). I think what they mean is making sure EVERYONE knows they're gay. It's annoying gay or straight.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

They're complaining about when gay people fit the "gay stereotype", or when gay people "flaunt" (or, as you said, let everyone know). However, people make no such complaints when straight people do the EXACT same thing. What is wrong with letting people know you're gay? Nothing. It's a part of a lot of people's identities. Maybe they want people to know so they a) don't make assumptions like (for a man) assuming they have a girlfriend/wife, b) don't get asked out by straight people, c) DO get asked out by any interested other gay people, d) avoid awkward situations where people will make a gay joke, e) to weed out homophobes in advance. There are loads of other reasons, just like how there are loads of reasons people will assure others they're straight. If someone is suspected to be gay, no one thinks twice if they assure others that no, they're straight. But "straight" is considered the default. People are always suspected to be straight; no one considered everybody gay unless "they conclusively prove/say otherwise". But if a gay person tries to assure everyone that they aren't actually straight, suddenly this is "flaunting it" and being really annoying? It's a double standard.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

It's not a double standard when speaking to me. If someone comes up to me and says "Hi. I'm Mike and I like pussy" I will think they're a freak. People don't do that. That's not the norm. If someone says "Hi. I'm Mike and I like penis" I will also think they're a freak. But if someone comes up to me and says "Hi. I'm Mike" then I see Mike hitting on a guy, I'll think "Oh. Mike is gay" then continue talk to Mike. Who cares if you get asked out by straight people? Straight people get asked out by gay people. I have been. It's a simple matter of saying "Sorry I'm straight/gay". If gay people can't take a gay joke, then fuck them. I have to take jew jokes all the time and I enjoy them. There are multiple girls that think I'm gay and I let them. That's the same situation as straight people saying they're straight. It doesn't happen. They take the chance that girls will think they're gay and some won't and they'll be fine. Shoving your sexuality in someone's face is fucking annoying no matter what your preference is.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Yes, but people only complain about it when it's gay people. People all the time say they'd point it out with straight people too, but THEY DON'T, because they often don't notice. This post also complains about gay people who "fit the stereotype", which is stupid. Like I said, no one complains about someone being a "stereotypical straight person". Also, you don't mind people thinking you're gay? Good for you. Some people aren't you, though, and prefer to set things straight (pun definitely intended). Same with gay people who want others to know they're gay. There's nothing wrong with itif they don't make a huge deal. Maybe just telling people right off the bat saves awkward assumptions, or telling people when in a group saves them having to say it over and over individually later. Complaining that gay people should have to take gay jokes? Now, that DOES make you a jerk. If you're making a joke out of something that causes a lot of people trouble, and they don't like it, stop. Stop demeaning other people for a cheap laugh, then making THEM the bad guy when they don't tolerate it.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

If you cannot laugh at everything, you cannot laugh at anything.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

But wouldn't kissing your same-sex SO in public ensure that everyone knows you're gay? Can you be more specific? What do you mean by "making sure EVERYONE knows they're gay"?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Well for example, a gay kid I was friends with on facebook made a status at least once a week that said "I need penis".

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Had he been straight and his status been "I need pussy", what would your reaction be? Would you say "I wish people didn't let EVERYONE know they're straight"?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Pretty much, but not quite as polite.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

If you don't mind me speculating, I'm guessing you wouldn't bring up a straight person's sexual orientation at all if they made a fb status like that.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I definitely would say something about it.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Okay, I'll stop assuming anything about you. But sometimes I feel like if a straight person does something, it's obnoxious, or annoying, or attention whoring, but it's never "flaunting" their heterosexuality. But if a gay person does the same thing, it's somehow pushing their gayness on people.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I hate everyone equally, regardless of race, relgion, or orientation. (I'd say both are attention whoring, though)

by Anonymous 11 years ago

At the risk of flaunting my homosexuality, I saw your attention whore video and you're hot. (Also funny)

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Oh dayuuum. Thank you sir. I appreciate it.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

by Anonymous 11 years ago

lol self esteem boost complete.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I'm trying to figure out if I could convince you to become gay. The video of you in a dress is encouraging.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

My apologies, but I don't think my preference will change.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

" With their holding hands it public, wearing wedding rings, talking about their spouses, and fitting straight stereotypes." I'm pretty sure they didn't mean doing things with their significant other that would show their sexuality, I think it would be more like wearing straight pride bracelets and introducing themselves as straight and guys acting all macho and girls acting all giddy and unicorn puppy dog and rainbow and pink loving. But I do agree with your later points in the a b c d e form.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

It would be annoying if they were purposely trying to fit the stereotype, but some people just naturally do fit it. It is annoying when people's sexuality becomes such a big part part of their identity that they introduce themselves as gay, though. "Hi, I'm Jon, and I like boys." is kind of weird. But hey, if Jon wants to wear a pink beret and talk with a lisp because that's just how Jon rolls, that's cool with me.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

You can get annoyed all you want, but I don't care. I will continue to flaunt my relationship. I will keep making Facebook statuses about how in love I am. I will take my partner on fancy dates, and I might even propose to her in front of a million people. I will hold her hand and take kissy face pictures in photo booths with her. I might even put the pictures on my bulletin board for the world to see. You have the right to get annoyed and I have the right not to give a fuck.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Don't worry. People hate when straight people do that shit too.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I think what OP meant wasn't that they flaunt their relationships, because that's great and they have every right to. But it's annoying when their sexuality encompasses their entire being. Like, they do what they can to fit the stereotype and it becomes their entire personality. I know some people are naturally like that, and that's cool, but when you force yourself to fit the "gay persona" just because you're gay, it can be a little irritating. "Homosexual" is a sexuality, not a personality type.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

i don't think anyone should flaunt any sexuality. i think that all displays of affection should be kept private, regardless of the genders of the participants.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

It's not about flaunting affection. It's about flaunting the fact that they're gay. Like when "Hi, I'm gay" is an introduction.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

oh, well, i couldn't care less about that.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Does anyone actually do that? I went to a hs full of gay guys and I have never heard "Hi, I'm gay."

by Anonymous 11 years ago