Mom, you need to stop accepting the excuse that I am full or don't like the food, and realize that your 89 pound daughter needs help, amirite?

You're blaming your mom because she believes what you say? YOU'RE in the wrong here, don't try pinning it on someone else.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

An eating disorder is a mental illness just as much as it is a physical one. Some people don't even realize they have one, and some people are too ashamed to ask for help. You're very right that she shouldn't blame her mom, but I don't think someone with an illness is "in the wrong". They do need help.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Having an illness doesn't mean you can't be wrong about something, and OP is clearly wrong about how she should deal with her problem.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Woah, how did I end up on sixbillionsecrets?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It's not your mom's fault if she trusts you. You're taking her trust for granted and giving her lies....

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Maybe she just doesn't assume that you lie to her all the time, and actually believes you when you tell her something. You're complaining that she's trusting her own daughter. Okay then. If you want help then just fucking ask for it. Why must people always have to make things more complicated than they need to be?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

No, she doesn't need to do anything. If you want help, ask for it.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

You need to start eating. Why the fuck should your mother have to look after you? I assume you're not a child, so you know that food is good for you. At the end of the day, if you want to eat you'll eat. Why blame your mother for your own eating disorder?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

A lot of of people believe that you are the one that is 89 pounds and needs help. When i first read this, i thought maybe you were talking about your sister. Could you clear it up for me? (and anyone else confused like me)

by Anonymous 12 years ago

"Mom, you need to stop accepting the excuse that **I** am full..." If she's not talking about herself, she didn't word the post correctly.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Ah, it was a misread on my part. Thanks!

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I agree with the others - if my relative/friend was really thin, but constantly said she was full or hungry, I'd chock it up to a fast metabolism or small appetite rather than eating disorder. Please get help, if you're still at school/college go see the councillor, but don't blame your mother for believing your excuses.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Full or not* hungry

by Anonymous 12 years ago

counselor*

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I had a problem similar to this where I always considered purging and I would go for days without eating sometimes. I waited for a long time to ask for help. Believe me hinting never works. Just ask to sit down with her and talk about it and get professional help (therapy). You can't expect her to figure out how to fix the problem if she can't pinpoint it.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I did the same thing, and the only reason I'm healthy now is because my mom noticed and decided to take me to the doctor. "At the end of the day, if you want to eat you'll eat." Yeah, it's not that easy. I've gained thirty pounds and I'm still considered thin. If my mom hadn't intervened, things wouldn't be going as well for me. People on this site need to chill.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

But if she believed you then there wouldn't be a bunch of extremely hot girls walking around??? Can't have that now, can we? troll

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Being stick think and emaciated isn't cute, hon. I know you were trolling, but there's a time and a place.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

All comments on this are either red or neutral. Post has more than twice the number of YYAs then NWs. This is why I like this site.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

My parents know how most of these disorders happen in a girl's teen/preteen phase. So, ever since I turned 12, my parents make sure to stuff me like there's no tomorrow.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

You clearly are aware that you have an eating disorder, so why don't you just tell her?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I understand that telling your mother about your eating disorder is not as easy as it sounds, but if you are able to post about your problems on the internet for the world to see, you should be able to talk to your mom. And getting people to YYA your post is not going to help you. Talk to your mom about it, you will be happy you did.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Guys, it's not OP's fault either. If you've suffered from an eating disorder and got to the point where you realise it isn't right, you'd know how hard it is to be torn between not wanting to tell anybody and wanting help at the same time. It's very easy to blame those around you for not noticing. You feel like if even the people closest to you don't care or notice, why would anyone want to help you. Yes, it's not her mothers fault either but try to see this from OP's point of view. It's not as easy as "You need to start eating...you know that food is good for you. At the end of the day, if you want to eat you'll eat" comments like this are silly, not everyone's thought processes are the same. You think people with eating disorders don't KNOW that they should be eating more? Ofcourse they do, they just can't.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I had one where I would starve myself for days on end and I would step on the scale everyday this went on from the time I was in the sixth grade to my eleventh grade year. When I noticed not eating was doing nothing for me I stopped. It is possible to stop yourself from destroying yourself.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

You do know that not everybody is the same? You were able to help yourself and that's great, but not everybody can. Some people need help.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I didn't claim everyone is the same. It was more of a suggestion for her to help herself since she can tell all of us as opposed to telling her mother.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I disagree with most of the comments on this post. If your kid is dangerously underweight you should take them to a doctor, like my sister was really really underweight and she turned out having an overactive thyroid and there are other medical conditions that cause weight loss and loss of apatite. Also if I had a daughter or son who was really underweight and never seemed to be eating I would be very suspicious that they had an eating disorder and I would let them know that I would support their recovery.

by Anonymous 12 years ago