Why can't you just compliment people where they deserve compliments? If someone has nice hair and you like it and they did it well, say so. If they have nice shoes, say so. If they have nice eyes, say so. If they are smart, tell them. Why not compliment someone?
OR compliment them on something that they actually had to work for and earn themselves and CANNOT be granted by genetics that they had no control over (E.G You're quite intelligent)
Intelligence is partially genetics. A lot of it does have to do with working hard and applying yourself but most of your capacity for intelligence is genetics.
Nope, it still works. The brain is always functioning, but it'll never be as useful as a brain that someone took the time and effort to fill it with knowledge. Likewise, that tank may still be there and be "full", but it'll never be half as useful as a tank that someone put the time and effort into filling it with water.
It's both nature and nurture - some individuals are naturally very intelligent, and only have to work little to reach their potential, whereas some may be born around average, and learn and study to become more intelligent.
And, I agree with the person would said to compliment them on something other than looks, like their achievement or character.
Also, for the sake of discussion, looks can be somewhat nurture. Like, obvious we can't help most things - eyes, skin colour, nose shape, but a person with good nutrition and exercise habits will generally look more attractive than a person without them.
Yeah, I've just been reading a lot about social constructs vs biology - that is, is how we are the result of genetics, that we were born this way and couldn't be anything more, or that all babies are born with a clean slate (for the record, it's a bit of both, although some situations more than others, and some individuals more than others).
Like, if you have two people with high IQs that have a child, and that child has a high IQ, it is because of genetics - that he inherited it from his parents, or because having smart parents, he would have been brought up listening to them have intelligent conversation, and in a house with lots of books, and other exposure to to cultures, education and sciences.
I don't really think they're started as a clean slate, Piaget said that babies just learn differently up until a certain age, but that's a good point about the kids with intelligent parents
And with looks, we all know, don't judge people by how they look, but with clothes, you're more likely to think better of someone first impression, straight off the bat, if they wear neat clothes, than just dirty ones they threw on.
And, clothes can say a lot about a person - like how they wish to be viewed, like in teenage subcultures like hip hop and goth.
"Good evening, madam, I feel that it should be noted that my brain's pleasure center is responding rather well to the very even lines of your scalp keratin. Also, your mammary glands are producing an equally pleasant response to my brain, as well as my very erect penis"
Why can't you just compliment people where they deserve compliments? If someone has nice hair and you like it and they did it well, say so. If they have nice shoes, say so. If they have nice eyes, say so. If they are smart, tell them. Why not compliment someone?
Contact lenses?
"You have beautiful eyes" does get annoying after a while
My big titties are natural!! compliment away !!
OR compliment them on something that they actually had to work for and earn themselves and CANNOT be granted by genetics that they had no control over (E.G You're quite intelligent)
Intelligence is partially genetics. A lot of it does have to do with working hard and applying yourself but most of your capacity for intelligence is genetics.
A tank could have a capacity of a thousand gallons of water, but it'll stay empty until someone makes the effort to fill it.
Lovely metaphor MrRight!
Thank you very much!
True, however your IQ is your ability to learn, and problem solving, so you can have an incredibly high IQ and have relatively low intelligence.
I think you meant to reply to fastpitchgoddess.
Nice metaphor but it's wrong. It's full of air. "It is empty of water till someone makes the effort to fill it." That is correct.
Nope, it still works. The brain is always functioning, but it'll never be as useful as a brain that someone took the time and effort to fill it with knowledge. Likewise, that tank may still be there and be "full", but it'll never be half as useful as a tank that someone put the time and effort into filling it with water.
v.v I was kidding, I was talking about the tank not the brain. I was just proving MrRight wrong.
Well, you really didn't. You tried, but the metaphor still works.
It's both nature and nurture - some individuals are naturally very intelligent, and only have to work little to reach their potential, whereas some may be born around average, and learn and study to become more intelligent.
And, I agree with the person would said to compliment them on something other than looks, like their achievement or character.
Also, for the sake of discussion, looks can be somewhat nurture. Like, obvious we can't help most things - eyes, skin colour, nose shape, but a person with good nutrition and exercise habits will generally look more attractive than a person without them.
You make a very good point about looks. I've never thought of it like that.
Yeah, I've just been reading a lot about social constructs vs biology - that is, is how we are the result of genetics, that we were born this way and couldn't be anything more, or that all babies are born with a clean slate (for the record, it's a bit of both, although some situations more than others, and some individuals more than others).
Like, if you have two people with high IQs that have a child, and that child has a high IQ, it is because of genetics - that he inherited it from his parents, or because having smart parents, he would have been brought up listening to them have intelligent conversation, and in a house with lots of books, and other exposure to to cultures, education and sciences.
I don't really think they're started as a clean slate, Piaget said that babies just learn differently up until a certain age, but that's a good point about the kids with intelligent parents
And with looks, we all know, don't judge people by how they look, but with clothes, you're more likely to think better of someone first impression, straight off the bat, if they wear neat clothes, than just dirty ones they threw on.
And, clothes can say a lot about a person - like how they wish to be viewed, like in teenage subcultures like hip hop and goth.
Don't they have bionic eyes now?
And "You have nice eyes" is the biggest cop out/cliche.
I have naturally straight hair. I would find it creepy if someone complimented my boobs, though.
Who goes up to someone and is just like "hey nice tits =D" I dont think boobs should be in there..
not here in america anna lol
Ever seen the movie, "Thir13en Ghosts"?
Haha it happens to me all the time :) mostly by my girlfriends though :/
I cant compliment what i havent seen >.>
everyone has pretty eyes. its not that great of a compliment.
I think straight hair deserves a compliment, that shit is hard work sometimes.
hey, i really love your straight hair and large chest appendages.
you truly are a beautiful piece of God's handiwork.
lolwut
Let's go even FURTHER with that line of language
"Good evening, madam, I feel that it should be noted that my brain's pleasure center is responding rather well to the very even lines of your scalp keratin. Also, your mammary glands are producing an equally pleasant response to my brain, as well as my very erect penis"
you can artificially create a black eye!!
If someone says I have nice eyes, it makes me think that all the stuff I put effort into e.g my hair, they don't like.