+375 Abstaining until marriage sounds really stupid until you think for a second that someone else might be fucking your future wife or husband right now, amirite?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It's just sex...

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Honestly I think you should test drive before you buy per se.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Good for them??

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Because that's the absolute worst quality you can have in a spouse, someone who actually enjoys having sex ...

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I have to agree as someone who's abstaining. It's supposed to be something you "enjoy" but how are you enjoying it with your spouse if it's something you've already done a thousand times with countless other people? By then, it's lost its.... glamour, I guess, for lack of a better word coming to mind.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It's different when you love the person; it never loses glamour, it never gets old and it never gets tiring. I don't care if you've had sex 1000 times or not when you find the person you love you will feel like it's a brand new experience each time, every time.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Oh cmon, I want someone experienced!

by Anonymous 12 years ago

That's a difficult scenario to even try to imagine, because I don't know if I even ever will get married, never mind who to. And what, if you met your future wife/husband next month, fell in love or whatever, and then discovered they'd had sex previously, would you dump them or something? I just don't see what's so bad about the person you marry in the future having sex with someone other than you, like 20 years before you marry them. What difference does it make?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I think, if both you and your spouse abstained till marriage, it doesn't matter if you are both inexperienced, because you guys can grow together and learn what the other likes. I think abstaining from the practical sense to avoid pregnancy, and std's is good enough. Some people seem to forget that every time you have sex with someone, a piece of your heart goes with them (even if it's just a one night stand), so wouldn't it be better to "give your heart" to your loved one that you plan on spending forever with?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

lol. Piece of your heart? People don't ejaculate from their hearts...

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I was with you until you started talking about the plot of a future lifetime movie.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I think that's very sweet. A lot of people take sex too lightly. It's a very emotionally involved experience. I'm saving it for marriage because it's something you can give to someone that nobody else can ever have. It's special, and shouldnt just be thrown around.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

@chapstick me too. I assumed the people on the comments would be saying the same thing... Abstainance!

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Yeah! So many people forget that your body is yours and no one else, and you shouldn't just need to give it away. I mean I look at every couple in my life that has abstained from sex until marriage, and they are incredibly happy and have been in relationship's for 20+ years. I'm not saying you can't have a meaningful relationship with someone if you have premarital sex, but I truly feel that your virginity is so important to keep until marriage

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Why is your virginity so important? It's imaginary.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It's the principle behind it. If you can save it then that shows you have self control/ will power and you have patience. Not to mention getting to know your significant other without the physical allows you to be friend first, which is what makes a relat

by Anonymous 12 years ago

...tionship last. (sorry stupid phone cut me off)

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I see what you are saying but I don't think not having sex means you have more discipline or self control. Many people have sex because they think it's a good thing to do, not because they don't have the will-power to resist the temptation. I also don't think having sex means you can't have a personal friendship or relationship with anyone.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I don't think abstaining from sex or NOT abstaining from sex is wrong or stupid. They both have their reasons, and when to have sex isn't something you can be "right" or "wrong" about. It's just a matter of personal preference.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It comes and goes. Right now, it's not nearly as "sacred" (if you will) as it was in passing years, so people don't take it as seriously.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I don't care one bit. I'm glad he is getting some experience while he can.

by Anonymous 12 years ago