You can't get addicted to sex; however, you can get addicted to the feeling of an orgasm because it is a type of high. But you can get an orgasm through masturbation. So... Using sex addiction as an excuse to cheat is dumb. amirite?

An orgasm during sex is exponentially better than during masturbation.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Well you have a significant other for a reason.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

But what if your SO doesn't ever want to have sex?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Well then there's a deep underlying issue. Tell them you need sex. If they flat out don't want sex then you get a divorce or something idk you're the one who chose to marry a prude lol....

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Women change over time.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Okay but you just to still marry her. You need to stick by her not matter what or get a divorce. You're trying to justify cheating.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I don't think most guys would marry a pride. It's something that happens over time. You're oversimplifying.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

1. Learn to spell. 2. I'm not saying they don't, i'm just pointing out that cheating is not right unless your wife pretty much tells you that you can.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

That was obviously a typo. It's the mark of a desperate and defeated opponent to resort to an ad hominem argument.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Did you not see the 2nd part? It really isn't, I just said it to piss you off. You're trying to justify cheating by coming at me. Sure women might not want to have sex anymore but what if it was the other way around. Would you enjoy your wife fucking another man just because you don't want to have sex with her as much? Everyone knows woman change over time. So they should expect at some point in a marriage there won't be as much sexual interaction.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I think it's the responsibility of both to keep the other happy. If one is not doing that and knows that they are withholding something that their spouse is desiring, then they shouldn't complain when their spouse goes somewhere else to get it.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

But they shouldn't do it in secrecy that's what I'm saying. Breaking your beloved wife or husband's trust and breaking their heart is not worth the pleasure.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Not if they're knowingly holding back something they know you need. On some level, they likely know you're going to go somewhere else for it when they don't give you what you need.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Have you ever been in love with someone?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Absolutely. I loved my ex wife very much.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

If a woman refuses sex with her husband, there are two possibilities. It may be revenge for the way you treat her, or for something you have/haven’t done. Or it may be that she has found you to be inadequate as a lover, & prefers to satisfy herself alone. It is most unlikely that she does not desire the release of orgasm, & if you were to set up a secret camera in her bedroom (I would NEVER condone such a thing!) I can virtually guarantee that you would witness her giving herself more pleasure than you were ever willing, or able to!

by Anonymous 1 year ago

says Mike Hawk, haha

by Anonymous 13 years ago

If there is a such thing as a "sex addiction" EVERYBODY would be addicted to sex. It's stupid how people just don't own up to their mistakes. Take Tiger Woods for example... He claimed to be addicted to sex so that it wouldn't look like it was his fault that he cheated on his wife. This is non-sense.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Why couldn't he just have sex with his wife if he's so addicted?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Exactly!

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Maybe his wife didn't want to have sex as often as he did. My ex-wife only wanted to have sex about once a month, and sometimes less than that.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Wow, you'd better tell all those psychologists that they're wrong and it doesn't really exist then. Quick! Your superior knowledge is needed before these professionals who spent years in school make any more errors because you happen to disagree.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Psychology is mostly made up of theories, you know. Also, it was Tiger Wood's lawyers who told him to claim he has a sex addiction so he could try to lose the negative reputation following his scandal.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Theories like the THEORY of evolution?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

So let me make sure I understand this right: you're saying you know more about this subject than any of the experts? And I'm not talking about Tiger Woods. I don't care what his lawyers supposedly told him. I'm talking about the existence of a disorder.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Being an expert on something doesn't mean you're always correct or that you never lie. If you do any research on these experts who claim that sex addiction exists, you'll see they come to no definite conclusion. All I'm suggesting is that people don't want to own up to actions that were their own fault, so they try and find someone or something to blame it on.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

And what are your credentials to make this assertion?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I have the ability to research DIFFERENT points of views and THEN form my opinion, rather than just accepting the first thing I'm told.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

So you're saying you have no formal credentials? No medical school nor medical training? And yet somehow I'm supposed to believe that you are more credible than a professional? I understand that professionals aren't right 100% of the time, but I still trust them over someone with zero training in the field such as yourself.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

So let me get this straight: the THEORIES of psychology are wobbly because they're just theories (and because you don't agree with them). However, the THEORY of evolution, which is also a THEORY, is somehow ironclad. Riiight.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Read what FliyingGuineaPig said below... the thing with science is that it's constantly proving and disproving things. Like cell phones giving you cancer. One minute, they say cell phones give you cancer and the next minute they say that they've proven it to be wrong. How hard is that to understand? I'm done arguing with you, Anon.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

There was never a credible conclusion that cellphones caused cancer.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

In a scientific context, a theory is something that's backed up by significant evidence. The scientific-word equivalent for what most people mean when they say "theory" is a hypothesis.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Then why is a medical theory (which is science) more flimsy than a scientific theory like the THEORY of evolution? These people are saying psychology is always changing because it's only theories--like the THEORY of evolution.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

It's not. It's just as un-flimsy. Psychology doesn't change because the word for their conclusions happens to be "theories", it changes because they find out new stuff all the time. Psychologists and scientists would usually know what they're talking about, because they wouldn't say that a theory/hypothesis/conclusion is true unless it's backed up by evidence, works in tests, and fits in with other things that they already know are true.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

We used to believe everything Freud pulled out of his ass was real and scientific, but now we know that a great number of his theories were probably wrong. Psychology is still evolving.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

So what? Does that mean that you're right and the experts are wrong?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

It's not impossible. Just because they're experts doesn't mean they're always right.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I'd still believe what they have to say over anything a bunch of yahoos on the Internet have to say.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

You realize it's impolite to give your own comment a thumbs up while doing the reverse for the person you're arguing with?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

What does that have to do with the argument? Do you have nothing to defend your side and are therefore trying to change the subject by attacking me based on your unfounded suspicions?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I agree with your reasoning, there is no argument. However, I have good reason to believe you're giving yourself thumbs up. Also, I stick by my original comment.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

What is your reasoning?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Everyone can be wrong.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

So "everyone can be wrong" is your reasoning for your unfounded claim of me voting down all your posts and voting mine up? That's not very convincing.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Specify what you want reasoning for instead of trying to score points off of obvious miscommunication.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

You claim to have good reasoning for your unfounded accusation. What is it?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Why do you care? I'm obviously wrong no matter what I say.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

So....you're admitting you were making it up?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Like the THEORY of evolution?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

"If there is a such thing as a "sex addiction" EVERYBODY would be addicted to sex." I disagree. If this logic were to be applied to any other sort of addiction it would prove untrue. For instance gambling addiction- I've gambled and I haven't become addicted to it, but I know someone who has. As well as smoking cigarettes; I know people who only smoke occasionally without a real addiction.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

You don't have to have sex to get the urge to do it. It's what instinct plants in our minds to keep us reproducing.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

our instincts also cause the pleasure centers of the brain to trigger when we win a gamble. This pleasure is what we are addicted to, technically we can become addicted to anything pleasurable.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

You can desire sex before you ever have sex. It's call hormones. There is nothing that makes people have the desire to gamble until after they actually start gambling.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

but we still have the [hormone based] desire to win, which is in essence gambling. But either way, whether or not you want it before doesn't mean you cannot be addicted.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

What data are you basing this conclusion on?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I am basing it on the fact that teenage boys start having the desire to have sex while they are still virgins. Hormones make them want to get laid, but most of them can compensate by touching themselves.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I believe that you can be addicted to sex, but it shouldn't be an excuse to cheat. If you're addicted to sex, you should have sex with your partner, no need to cheat.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

What about when your partner doesn't want to have sex?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Be single.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

That's a little oversimplified. I'm talking about when you're settled down, married with kids, etc, and all of a sudden your wife isn't as interested in sex. You propose I walk out on my family?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

You propose cheating on your wife?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I never said that. My point was that the people who just wave their hand and say "have sex with your wife" aren't taking into account the fact that some women lose interest in sex over time. On the same note, your dismissive "be single" fails to acknowledge that such an action could tear a family apart.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

If your wife doesn't want to have sex anymore you have two choices... you leave her or you deal with it. I don't see other options, it is better to leave your family than stay and cheat.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

How do you come to this conclusion? Would you give your father this advice if he were in this situation?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Yes, I would. You think I would rather know that my father is cheating on my mom? no, I would rather see him single so he could do whatever he wants & my mom could meet a better man.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Liar.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

You can disagree with me but that doesn't mean I'm lying.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

It's easy to be an armchair quarterback and tell people how they should tear up their families when you're not the one being affected by it. I have a very hard time believing you would so easily be willing to disintegrate your own family if you were truly faced with that situation.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

& I can't believe you rather have the husband cheating on the wife just for the sake of not splitting up, you think that doesn't disintegrate the family? you think the kids and the wife are not affected by it? Oh, maybe you think the husband will keep it a secret and no one will find out, yeah because that always works.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

If the wife isn't keeping her husband happy, I think he would naturally look for his needs to be fulfilled elsewhere. And you do realize that sex does not automatically equal having an affair, right?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

oh right, everything has to be the wife's fault, I feel soo sorry for the husband nobody understands him hes not getting laid boo hoo )': he just had to cheat, he had no choice... how weak.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

You're trying to take the conversation in a whole new direction. This is not what we are discussing. I suspect this is because you know I am right.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Nope. Its because I think you're ignorant.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

So since you know you're wrong you call me "ignorant" out of desperation? Not very impressive. You can admit you're wrong; we won't think less of you for it.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

You're just proving my point of you being an ignorant, you need to accept that people have different opinions than you and that doesn't mean they're wrong, keep talking if you want.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I don't dispute the fact that sometimes people have different opinions. However, I dispute your stance that you're right since you claim it's your opinion. There are some times when people are wrong, and claiming it's an opinion won't make them right.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I would.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

You'rr lying.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

There is no excuse for cheating. Just admit you were weak in the moment, apologize, and deal with the consequences.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

What about when you don't have a choice?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

by Anonymous 13 years ago

What do you mean?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Like when your wife decides she isn't interested in having sex anymore.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

You still have the choice of not having sex with other people. If you care enough about her to not leave her over an absence of sex, then you'll just suck it up and masturbate hardcore I guess. If it's that big of an issue for you, divorce her first, then do as you please. With regards to cheating, it's really the dishonesty and sense of betrayal that hurts most, not the sex itself.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

This is easy to say when you're not the one facing it.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Why do you repeat the same shit that makes no sense? You always have a choice, your logic is full of fallacies and I suggest anon trollers to get the fuck out.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

You can get addicted to the action of sex, just like you can get addicted to any given substance or behaviour, especially if it feels good in any way. (Ever see the show My Strange Addiction? Apparently people have been addicted to eating toilet paper and stuff.) I do agree that it shouldn't be an excuse to cheat, though. As with any other addiction, a sex addiction could be overcome through therapy, right?

by Anonymous 13 years ago