+37 "Our marriage is a celebration of equality in our relationship forever and therefore our child's last name will definitely be hyphenated with both our names to celebrate feminism because feminism is moving away from sexist traditions. But you still have an obligation to spend 3 months salary on a rock and give it to me for free to satisfy tradition." I think it's fair that when your buying a diamond for no reason other than traditions sake youre buying the right to your child's last name too, amirite?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I don't quite understand. The quote said "hyphenated with both our names", how is that not giving your child your last name as well?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

if you want to buy a ring, buy a ring. it doesn't make you entitled to anything though...

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Um can you imagine trying to get engaged to a girl while being a guy and not having a ring? Most women would resent you and call you cheap for a long time

by Anonymous 12 years ago

That's not related to what I said

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Don't be slow, yes it is. You are pretending there's an option to but a ring or not, but in reality society has told men they will buy a ring end of story. It's a double standard

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Don't be accusatory. I'm not pretending anything. Do whatever the fuck you want. Anyone can do whatever the fuck they want. You don't HAVE to buy a ring; no one is making you. Your soon-to-be wife doesn't HAVE to change her name. That, though, wasn't my point before. I said that buying a ring doesn't make you entitled to having your wife change her last name. Who cares if it's a double standard? The world is full of double standards and you pick this one?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

So that's your view? There's discrimination everywhere so let's not do anything about any of it?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Nope I don't think that

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Often the man will buy an expensive engagement ring without consulting the woman... engagements are generally a surprise you know, not something like a wedding or a child that is meticulously planned out by both parties.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I just don't get what happens when two people who already have hyphenated names want to get married and want to keep their names. Do they have a quadruple hyphenated name? :x

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Sarah (Smith-Jones)-(Johnson-White)

by Anonymous 12 years ago

What happens when your kid gets married? Will their kid have three hyponated last names?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Even though I'm okay with my future kids having their father's family name, the reason you mentioned for that is pretty stupid.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

The point was that the only reason women can give a man for why he should buy a ring is 'tradition' but if the man said it's tradition to give the child his name she would scoff and tell him not allowing mixed race marriage was a 'tradition' and traditions are bullshit

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I don't really care if the child has my husband's last name, I'm just happy I can keep my own.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

But you shouldn't be allowed to

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Why shouldn't I what?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I wonder what it's like if two people with parents who thought like this had a child. Like Emmet Robins-Marie and Erin Thomas-Patel had a son named Melissa Robins-Marie-Thomas-Patel. Would they even be allowed to have a middle name? XD

by Anonymous 12 years ago

And what if we take it one step further and say that Melissa Robins-Marie-Thomas-Patel got married to James Sampson-McCarthy-Lewis-Thompson. Would they then have a child named something like Rosie Robins-Marie-Thomas-Patel-Sampson-McCarthy-Lewis-Thompson?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

A son named Melissa?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I accidentally a word :(

by Anonymous 12 years ago