People need to get over it. The friend zone doesn't exist. Either they like you or they don't. Don't be friends with someone you like. Make sure there's mutual attraction from the beginning. It's that simple.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

This is based upon the ladder theory. So this comment actually makes a lot of sense.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Spoken like someone who has never been friend zoned. You don't know what it's like to be there for a girl day in day out getting all the smileys and hugs and 'God I love you so much why can't all guys be like you' only to realize you are also the guy she tells you things she wouldn't tell the guy she liked like 'God I hate when I'm on my period, I'm a mess' and you realize while youre getting the hugs and the smileys, the guy who cheated on his last girlfriend is the one getting the winky faces and the long drawn out hugs that end with the eye contact you wish she gave you. Its not that the friendzone is hell on earth, the reason guys hate it is because once friend zoned, you CANNOT be unfriendzoned. Maybe you don't want the sexual component. Maybe you just want the winky faces, the mutually enjoyed long hugs, the holding hands, and the light kisses that say 'I love you too' with no needed words. Its something that needs to be experienced to understand

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I've experienced it plenty of times, and eventually I understood that I needed to get out of that mindset. Though we tend not to consciously think of it this way, the "friend zone" mentality is based upon a belief that nice, gentlemanly behavior and loyalty should be rewarded with some of the things you described.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

You've obviously never been in my position. It's not always basically being some girls doormat. For me guys have always just been my friend (no shopping with me or being emotionally tortured like you have) and then out of the blue they say they love me. No outward signs at all like flirting. And then they get mad that I don't like them. That's not giving me a chance actually. I might have liked him if he was more playful but he treated me like one of his bros then out of nowhere hey I think im in love with you. It's very unsettling and strange from this side of it too.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Don't be friends with someone you like? I fail to see your logic there. If I like someone, but they don't feel the same way, there's no reason why I can't just be friends with them.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Excuse me don't be just* friends with someone you like. If you know you like them in the beginning flirt with them. Don't hide your feelings and hope they have the same feelings then be pissed off when they don't.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

There's no reason that you can't, but there's no reason that you should. You shouldn't put yourself through that.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I don't think that's actually the case. It's usually just guys who are too afraid to ask girls out, so they blame it on being friend-zoned. Even though if that were true, it happen to a lot of girls as well/

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Its less that the end goal was her body, more when they say "God I wish all guys listened like you/ Wish i could find a boyfriend that treats me nice/ (or any other thing that relates to the guy in friend zone). Its a term to describe how a guy may seem like the perfect match by the standards she sets in his eyes but is stuck as a friend no matter what his advances. So its less hating that you got to be friends, more hating that he knows it could work/thinks it could. Also, maybe girls shouldn't assume that our end goal is your body?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I hate how people complain that something doesn't exist because it hasn't happen to them or they have never noticed it

by Anonymous 13 years ago

lol. this is funny because its complete and utter bullshit. 1) If the guy was a "good guy" he wouldnt have just been going after the girls body. 2) The friendzone is real. I've been there. Still there in fact. Its cold and fucking dark. Its amazing I can even type this message. 3) When a girl (or bitch... yeah, preferably bitch) flirts around and then gets angry when guys want to be with her... FUCK HER. Thats is what the friendzone is all about. There is a difference between being friends with a guy from the beginning and slowly leading him on because of the attention and then dropping into the "You're the best friend I could ask for." pit of shit. Now I just made myself upset... Look what you've done with this post!

by Anonymous 13 years ago

In my experience, being friendzoned is not so much a matter of a girl trying to lead the guy on as it is her being naturally nice to the guy, and so the guy thinks she's being flirty.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

1) Good guys don't have sexual desires, or feel attraction to people? 2) The post didn't say it wasn't, just that you can't be friendzoned unless you start out the friendship with the endgame of a sexual relationship in mind. 3) Saying most girls who flirt or act friendly are bitches? It's a real mystery why you're single mate.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

You can start out a friendship and then later realize that you would like a dating relationship. (yes sexual relationship, but there are several differences between friendship and dating)

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I understand that, but the term friendzoning just implies that the person who doesn't want to date is the bad guy. I just don't understand how someone can be at fault for not reciprocating feelings, somehow that makes them bitches/players or unfeeling? One cannot make feelings appear where there are none, and the implication seems to be that if someone does something that a boyfriend or girlfriend would do, for example always being there to comfort someone, they are entitled to the relationship. If you aren't doing something with that endgame of dating in mind, you wouldn't be bitter about it when it didn't happen. If you invested time into a friendship for the sake of friendship, when she didn't reciprocate feelings of attraction, you might say, "That really sucks, I wish she liked me back," or "That's okay, I'll pursue someone else." You definitely would NOT be talking to your friends and saying that she's just another friendzoning bitch who doesn't date nice guys. I don't understand that leap at all, UNLESS you were investing in the friendship for an ulterior motive.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Ah the hurt party is always gonna wine and bitch at first.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I understand that, but having an entire way of thought around the term friendzoning is a little unacceptable; it isn't a real thing. All it means is knowing someone who doesn't want to date you. I definitely understand feeling hurt about it, but there are a million things to be hurt about. I know girls who have had one guy cheat on them, and decide that the entire male race are pigs. This is just as ridiculous, and the same sort of leap in logic as friendzoning, except the guy actually did something wrong. I also know that there are girls who will string a guy along because A) they truly don't know how to let them down easy, or B) they worry that the guy is only interested in them for a relationship, and keep them on the hook that a relationship might work so that they don't lose them. Obviously those who fall in the B category are being little shits, and they are at fault.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I agree with everything you said.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Wasn't this post already made? Wtf?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Several times.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

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by Anonymous 13 years ago

A true good guy will see that it isn't going to work out so why should he hurt the girl by constantly trying to win her over. the girl most likely knows that he likes her but doesn't want to see him hurt which is hurting her. guys that think they are in the friend zone- i know there is always exceptions, but be a friend to her by just being a friend do not try to win her.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

This one annoys me so much. Like a guy who thinks that when a girl says "I want a nice guy" what she means is "I am willing to have sex with the next nice guy I see" And I mean if you're only friends with a girl because you want to sleep with her, how much of a nice guy can you be?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Exactly. Girls are not machines you can put niceness coins into until sex falls out. "Friend zone" is just "knowing someone who doesn't want to fuck you."

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Does such a machine exist?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Alas, it does not.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I'm sure Japan is working on it.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I cannot favourite this post enough.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Since when were all relationships more than friends pure sexual?

by Anonymous 13 years ago

I think people misinterpret the "friendzone". It's just when a girl likes you as a friend and nothing more. It happens all the time. It's not because the guy is a "nice guy" or some shit like that. It's because the girl just doesn't like him that way. Simple as that.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

On a different note, some guys do not just be friends with a girl to date her. They become friends with her and realize they really have feelings for her. And telling her is difficult because when she rejects you, the friendship just kind of turns to fuck and you have nothing. Sure she'll say "I just want to be friends", but you won't be friends like you were. It's not the girls fault in any way that she doesn't have those feelings, but it isn't just as simple as telling her your feelings.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

lol at your pic

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Nigga my pic is drop dead sexy

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Girls need to get over the thought that guys only want their body. Guys want to date them for other reasons besides sex. Like, you know, the same reasons girls want to date guys... It's attention these girls want so the guys give it to them ad for some reason don't date them because they are too much of a friend. It's like 'WTF? I'm everything you look for in a guy" It just doesn't make sense.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Please tell us what a guy benefits from being in a relationship with a girl that he doesn't get from being a close friend.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Um, love? Yeah, guys can feel that too.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Oh yeah, good one, because no one loves their friends.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

We do, that's the point. But the girl doesn't love the guy the same way, which of course, isn't their fault, I realize that, but it still sucks being so close to someone who doesn't love you the same way.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Yes, the term "friendzone" is abused quite often, okay? Some guys just complain about that because they want to have sex with their hot friends. But, there are situations, where the friendzone actually does exist. Not all guys just want sex. We're not fucking dogs, it's just as sexist to presume that all we want is sex. Sometimes, when a guy tries to become friends with a girl BEFORE asking her out, the girl will mentally categorize them as a friend, and will not dare to date them. It does happen.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

The friendzone wouldn't be half as bad if girls didn't use their guy friends as a way to satisfy their obviously attention-starved egos with no intent to actually befriend them, as well as receiving free meals. It's even worse when they make posts like this complaining about it when they literally have no right to do so. I didn't know if you heard, but taking advantage of guys who show even the mildest of interest and later telling them that they are mindless freaks for doing so is generally not acceptable. "Hurr stop generalizing women" Then stop generalizing guys. I'm fucking sick of girls trying to give moral sermons about how guys who utter the word "friendzone" are pigs.

by Anonymous 12 years ago