I can't answer on that without knowing more of the situation :(

by Anonymous 11 years ago

That's what I was thinking. If the parents take the money for themselves and the person is a teenager, that's wrong. But if the person is living at their house as an adult and the parents are paying for their food, I agree they should help chip in. I also think that the parents are justified in taking half of OP's money if they're putting it in a savings account for them that OP will receive later or will go toward college or something useful.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

How much money do you think they've spent on you in your life?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

But think about how much of their money they give to you: food, clothes, shelter, heat, electricity, a car, school fees, allowance/chore money, gas, your phone bill, water to flush your deuces and wash the dirt off your face, and countless other luxuries that most people can't imagine having access to. If you think about it, they're being pretty gracious by not asking for a full return on investment

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I may be wrong but isn't that kind of what you accept that you have to do when you have a kid? "Hey, I'm pregnant. I'm gonna be paying for this kid's shit til he/she is 18."

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Sure but that doesn't mean that they owe it to you. The law says they have to give you food shelter and clothing. Everything else is a luxury. I'm not saying an ideal parent wouldn't give their kid these things but instead of whining about having to contribute to the family, think about how much (extra) they give to you

by Anonymous 11 years ago

No, it's not gracious that they don't expect a full return. Having a child is a huge decision and part of that decision is accepting the fact that you are responsible for providing those things for 18+ years of your child's life. Yes, it would be nice if they pitched in but once again it was your decision to have unprotected sex/you wanted a child, so it's up to you to provide for them.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Provide doesn't include a cell phone, car, nice clothes, and the law even says that utilities aren't required. Be grateful and quit thinking your parents owe you everything they give you. They do that because they either love you or wish you would shut up. If your family needs your help think about how they help you before you start crying about it

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I do help my family, you don't need to be so stuck up and self righteous. When did I ever say that things like a cell phone or car were required? I sure as hell don't think those things are owed to me and just because I don't think I should repay the thousands of dollars my parents have spent on me (which sounds ridiculous if you think about it) doesn't mean I'm ungrateful.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I wasn't directing that at you but rather the OP and more so people in general. I don't think you should have to pay back that money either. I'm just saying if your parents are asking for your help to pay for YOUR crap, suck it up and be a man!

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Once again, you're their responsibility and that entails buying you things; it's all dependent on your socioeconomic group. For arguments sake the family we're describing seems well enough off so that it shouldn't be a big deal for the kid to chip in but it's unlikely that the family //desperately// needs the money.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Whether they need it or not is not the question. If your parents ask for part of your income to contribute to the family's, it's your responsibility to do so. I know that if I refuse to help my family (usually physically because I'm broke) they take away the things they give me to make me appreciate the ways they've helped me. They don't pay for my phone service, I don't have a car and when I get one I have to pay for gas. It isn't their responsibility to make you comfy and pampered, they do it of their own love for you. Show some courtesy and return the favor for whatever reason

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Okay I think you're missing the point, this is useless anyway.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

If it's your money, don't let them take it.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

i made attempts. but oh well.

by Anonymous 11 years ago