When you've been dating somebody for 11 months and they tell you they don't see a future in marriage and you are the type of person that sees life as starting at the point of marriage, it makes you feel lower than shit, amirite?
Or he starts talking about a future after 3 months, and once you get used to it, after 18 months he tells you that he can't see his life with you. Best not to talk about futures, because once you do it ends up being complete bullshit.
There's getting to know someone, what they like, what they believe, or don't believe, what they want to do in the future, simple stuff like that. Then there's saying stuff like "When we're living together..." "When we're older and we get married..."
The guy I was with for a year and 1/2 was really into architecture, so he would say stuff like "Our house will look like this..." and at first I didn't like talking about our house in the future, but I got used to it and I talked architecture with him. After seriously talking about houses, it's seems unfair that I got so into that future, and then he just leaves.
That being said, if both people are clear about what they want and are comfortable and honest about the future, it's a very important conversation to have.
Oh my God, why are there not many more sane people with your thought process on Earth! Or why have I only come across those that don't have one like yours. Cruel world
Life doesn't start at marriage.
It starts when...Well, when a mommy and daddy love each other very much...
Not 8 months and 28 days?
9 months after that to be exact
inb4 abortion argument
Or he starts talking about a future after 3 months, and once you get used to it, after 18 months he tells you that he can't see his life with you. Best not to talk about futures, because once you do it ends up being complete bullshit.
There's getting to know someone, what they like, what they believe, or don't believe, what they want to do in the future, simple stuff like that. Then there's saying stuff like "When we're living together..." "When we're older and we get married..."
The guy I was with for a year and 1/2 was really into architecture, so he would say stuff like "Our house will look like this..." and at first I didn't like talking about our house in the future, but I got used to it and I talked architecture with him. After seriously talking about houses, it's seems unfair that I got so into that future, and then he just leaves.
That being said, if both people are clear about what they want and are comfortable and honest about the future, it's a very important conversation to have.
Maybe it'll give you an opportunity to share your feelings with him and see if he can accept your ideas, or you his?
Oh my God, why are there not many more sane people with your thought process on Earth! Or why have I only come across those that don't have one like yours. Cruel world
This is oddly specific.
I want to vote on this but I only dated the guy for ten and a half months.