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I don't understand why people think that having a gay child means that you have failed as a parent. Disowning your child means you failed as a parent. amirite?

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I was being hypothetical, goodness
Now once again, have a good day :)

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@mikeywaylover16 I was being hypothetical, goodness Now once again, have a good day :)

Disowning is not the same as giving someone up for adoption. It happens later in life, after the child is already grown up.

In my opinion, disowning is equivalent to admitting that you are so ashamed of your child that you can't even bear to be associated with them at all.

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@mikeywaylover16 I was being hypothetical, goodness Now once again, have a good day :)

Yes, hypothetically I would rather be raised by tolerant parents who had adopted me knowing I was gay than by homophobic parents who didn't disown me because they didn't want to be failures as parents. I don't understand why anybody would prefer the latter. You haven't responded to any points I've made in any real sense, you've just downvoted me and implied I was homophobic arbitrarily.

Hahahaha... ridiculous. Disowning your child DOES make you a bad parent. Having the wherewithal to KNOW you are a bad parent, doesn't make you a good one, in any circumstance, it just makes you a realist.

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Disowning a child doesn't mean you've failed as a parent, not all kids are fucked up because of their parents.

@Courage_Wolf Disowning a child doesn't mean you've failed as a parent, not all kids are fucked up because of their parents.

So disowning someone because of something that they have no control over is totally fine?

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@Courage_Wolf Disowning a child doesn't mean you've failed as a parent, not all kids are fucked up because of their parents.

So you're saying that if you had a child who was gay, and you couldn't give him/her the love and guidance he or she needs, you would disown or give that said child up for adoption? I'm sorry to say, but its people like you who I worry about. Have a good day :)

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@Courage_Wolf Disowning a child doesn't mean you've failed as a parent, not all kids are fucked up because of their parents.

It would take a while for the parents to find out their kid is gay so it would probably feel terrible for them to be disowned after getting used to their parents. Not many people would want to adopt a teenager (assuming that's when they come out) so it's doubtful they're going to go to a great new home. All because the parents hate the kid for something they're born with.

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@Courage_Wolf Disowning a child doesn't mean you've failed as a parent, not all kids are fucked up because of their parents.

Yes, that's definitely true. I suppose what I meant was that leaving the kid alone was better than showing him them that they hated him constantly. Obviously the ideal situation would be acceptance but that isn't realistic in many situations.

@Courage_Wolf Disowning a child doesn't mean you've failed as a parent, not all kids are fucked up because of their parents.

Yeah that makes sense. I see your point and kind of agree, but I still don't think disowning your child for something like this makes sense

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@Courage_Wolf Disowning a child doesn't mean you've failed as a parent, not all kids are fucked up because of their parents.

Disowning your child, regardless of his or her conditions is like God or our Creator disowning you! We have more faults in heart than a gay child, remember, we are all children to our Creator. What faults do you have, aside of not being gay?

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@Courage_Wolf Disowning a child doesn't mean you've failed as a parent, not all kids are fucked up because of their parents.

No, because I personally am not homophobic. Doesn't mean you need to discriminate against people who are doing what they feel is best.

@Courage_Wolf Disowning a child doesn't mean you've failed as a parent, not all kids are fucked up because of their parents.

"So you're saying that if you had a child who was gay, and you couldn't give him/her the love and guidance he or she needs, you would disown or give that said child up for adoption?"
This implies I am a homophobe, because you're singling out the child being gay as a reason I would not feel capable of raising a child, when that would have no effect,
If I had a child, and felt I personally could not raise said child for whatever reason, I would give that child up for adoption, yes, regardless of whether or not they were gay, because it would give them a better childhood as well as a better future. On the other hand, if I thought I was fit to raise a child, I would raise them myself regardless of sexuality. I'm just being logical when I say that if a parent is homophobic, it's better for them to let a couple that is more tolerant raise their child as opposed to raising them is a household where they would be possibly mistreated.

@Courage_Wolf Disowning a child doesn't mean you've failed as a parent, not all kids are fucked up because of their parents.

I don't see how you equate not making somebody a failure of a parent with being totally fine. If they don't feel they can raise the child with the love and guidance he or she needs because of the child's sexuality, I think disowning them and giving them up for adoption is a better choice.

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