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Love is an emotion that you cannot turn on and off. Either you still love someone, or you never did. amirite?

17%Yeah You Are83%No Way
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No. If you love someone and trust them, and they repeatedly break that trust, and they change the things about them that they loved, it's okay not to love the person who they've become. You might still love the experiences that you had together, and the person they used to be, but it's perfectly normal to love someone for a while and then not anymore. I'm not just talking about romantic love, but also love between friends and family.

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Romantic "love", or natural love, is driven by emotion, which people tend to confuse with love. Rational love - real love - is not driven by emotion, but guided by principles. Indeed, one CANNOT "fall out" of rational love. But one CAN experience a falling out of romantic "love", since it's little more than infatuation.

In romantic love, a person loves everything BUT the other person. They love the romantic elements; the idea of being in love. When the romantic elements dissipate, they experience a fallout and interpret their experience as that of no longer being in love.

Conversely, in rational love, a person loves the other person. The romantic elements are a byproduct, that is, rational love is still there even in the absent of romantic "love".

Unfortunately, people are conditioned by society (though mediums of entertainment like books and television, i.a.) to believe that romantic "love" is the only form of love. It's sad. And a symptom of a bigger problem.

http://amirite.net/652115
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rational_love
http://www.divorceinteractive.c...antic_love.asp

Jamals avatar Jamal Yeah You Are +3Reply

I've seen firsthand how someone's love for someone else has gone down though.

I think you just love certain aspects of people, and they just lose that aspect.

AppAwesomes avatar AppAwesome Yeah You Are 0Reply

In my opinion anyone who voted "No Way" doesn't know the difference between love and infatuation

@StephanieIsAmazing In my opinion anyone who voted "No Way" doesn't know the difference between love and infatuation

People can grow apart and not love each other anymore. It's bullshit to say in your opinion, anyone who disagrees with you doesn't know any better.

@StephanieIsAmazing In my opinion anyone who voted "No Way" doesn't know the difference between love and infatuation

OP, you... are not an intelligent being. You kinda sound like one of those assholes who thinks knowing there is a difference between love and infatuation inherently means you know the difference.

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