Obviously it needs a standard definition. What I mean about other people defining yours is that it's YOUR marriage, what you do, how you go about your married life together, can't be wrong. You define how your marriage is gonna be. An apple has a standard definition. But maybe I think I want my apple to be crunchy and sweet. Maybe you want yours to be bitter. No one can tell you exactly what kind of apple you want. The struggles you go through in a marriage are personal, the things you do together are personal. The only thing that's public about it is that people know you're married, but the actual marriage and married relationship is deep and private. At least I hope those things are kept private, cuz when they're not shit just gets annoying.
What does that have to do with other people getting involved in defining yours? And no it's not. Marriage wasn't created by religon. People who don't believe in a higher entity don't get marrieg so that it can endorse their togetherness.
I've said it before and I'll say it again. The whole point of a marriage is for a larger entity to endorse your togetherness.
Obviously it needs a standard definition. What I mean about other people defining yours is that it's YOUR marriage, what you do, how you go about your married life together, can't be wrong. You define how your marriage is gonna be. An apple has a standard definition. But maybe I think I want my apple to be crunchy and sweet. Maybe you want yours to be bitter. No one can tell you exactly what kind of apple you want. The struggles you go through in a marriage are personal, the things you do together are personal. The only thing that's public about it is that people know you're married, but the actual marriage and married relationship is deep and private. At least I hope those things are kept private, cuz when they're not shit just gets annoying.
I agree. Sadly, this is Amirite, so expect your comment to be voted down mercilessly.
What does that have to do with other people getting involved in defining yours? And no it's not. Marriage wasn't created by religon. People who don't believe in a higher entity don't get marrieg so that it can endorse their togetherness.