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We still live in a society that tries to make women feel bad for liking sex, amirite?

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I was talking to my brother about sex and told him I am pretty much always in the mood to have sex with my boyfriend. And he was confused and asked "but do girls even like sex?". He hasn't had a girlfriend and is still a virgin so he thought that girls actually don't like sex because of what he knows from the media and everything.

It's because people can't get passed their own biases and old school stereotypes. It's not that women don't like sex as much as men, it's that they aren't as likely to have sex. Evolution kinda fucked women over as far as that goes.

Evolutionary and biologically speaking, the male's orgasm is the only one that matters. However, the woman's orgasm is also necessary to encourage women to have sex. There is a technique readily observed in many mammals in which the female in a group will have sex with many males due to the males' tendency to kill children that are not his. By sleeping with all the males, one cannot be too certain whose child it is, and therefore it will not be killed. As such, women are able to have multiple orgasms that are harder to attain in order to encourage them to mate will all of the males, instead of mating with a few and not being horny anymore. With civilization, monogamy has become the norm, and the female orgasm has become even harder to achieve due to only one partner instead of many. Surveys and studies have shown that the likelihood of a person having sex is directly related to their perceived chance of orgasm. Men can achieve orgasm under virtually

@Mike_Hawk It's because people can't get passed their own biases and old school stereotypes. It's not that women don't like...

any circumstance, whilst woman have a much harder time due to the reasons described above. Following that, men are the ones who will actively have sex with almost anyone they find attractive, while women are much more conservative about it; generally speaking. It was a case of mistaken causality and possibly a protection of the male ego that the stereotype of women not liking sex was born. Regardless of why women don't have sex, that is still considered normal for women, and so women who admit to liking sex are treated as abnormal. And finally, as with many things in our culture, abnormal is automatically synonymous with bad.

@Mike_Hawk It's because people can't get passed their own biases and old school stereotypes. It's not that women don't like...

Wow, that's interesting. I read this book once about body language and it said some things kind of about that.

Graverottis avatar Graverotti Yeah You Are 0Reply

yes

C_ZAR1s avatar C_ZAR1 Yeah You Are 0Reply

i disagree.. sex is so socially accepted in todays society. it's weird if you're not taking a part of it by the time you're a teen.

Pugs avatar Pug No Way -6Reply
@Pug i disagree.. sex is so socially accepted in todays society. it's weird if you're not taking a part of it by the...

Yes, but then you constantly have people saying that having sex is wrong and judging women for having sex, especially before they are married. Even if it is with one partner who they love. Sex in general is more accepted, but I don't think women liking sex is accepted quite as much.

@Pug i disagree.. sex is so socially accepted in todays society. it's weird if you're not taking a part of it by the...

it's based on my moral values. i respect yours even if their different. i'm not trying to offend you or anything.
i want to share something so special with only one person in my life. and i hope they do the same. the only guarantee is marriage for me. people (even me) think they find 'the one' and end up with their heart broken. i want to wait to share myself with someone who loves me, and it's not just lust.
a lot of other factors play into it (including my relationship with God). and yeah i know how ridiculous this sounds. but like your post, a lot of people have tried to make me feel bad for thinking differently than the rest of society.

Pugs avatar Pug No Way +12Reply
@Pug i disagree.. sex is so socially accepted in todays society. it's weird if you're not taking a part of it by the...

i view sex before marriage as wrong, guy or girl. but it's not my place to judge.

Pugs avatar Pug No Way +2Reply
@Pug i disagree.. sex is so socially accepted in todays society. it's weird if you're not taking a part of it by the...

And why do you think having sex before marriage is wrong? Is it wrong to express your love for another person in a physical way? To give yourself completely to someone you truly love and will spend the rest of your life with, even if you haven't yet made it legal through a marriage?

@Pug i disagree.. sex is so socially accepted in todays society. it's weird if you're not taking a part of it by the...

Just because you want to wait doesn't mean it is wrong not to. Saying it is wrong to have sex before marriage is judging. Saying it is your personal choice to wait until marriage is not. I do not say it is wrong to wait until marriage, so you should not say it is wait not to wait. It's different for different people. I personally waited for the person I knew without a doubt that I am going to marry, and we are getting married in a few months. It's not wrong that we didn't wait until we are married, just because it is different from what you believe.

@Pug i disagree.. sex is so socially accepted in todays society. it's weird if you're not taking a part of it by the...

But we are talking about a specific thing, not about legal stuff. Why would I judge homophobic people that do not act on their homophobia? If they do not act on their homophobia, then how would I even know if they are homophobic? Telling someone they are free to make their own choices is not the absence of judging. She can actually judge all she wants, but the part I don't like is how she says she isn't going to judge, and then immediately judges the decision I make. Just because it is not the same decision that she made doesn't make it wrong, and telling me that what I do is wrong is judging me. It doesn't matter how you spin it, it is still judgement.

@Pug i disagree.. sex is so socially accepted in todays society. it's weird if you're not taking a part of it by the...

Not exactly, but it does not help if she says she isn't judging and then judges. I do not tell her that her decision to wait is wrong, so I expect the same respect and for her to not tell me that my decision is wrong.

@Pug i disagree.. sex is so socially accepted in todays society. it's weird if you're not taking a part of it by the...

I never said her religious beliefs did not effect me, and I never told her to stop believing that way. I said that her telling me my decision to have sex before marriage is wrong is judgmental.

@Pug i disagree.. sex is so socially accepted in todays society. it's weird if you're not taking a part of it by the...

Also, it is not about winning, it is about respect. I respect her enough not to judge her for her decision and I expect the same amount of respect from her.

@Pug i disagree.. sex is so socially accepted in todays society. it's weird if you're not taking a part of it by the...

i made it very clear i'm not judging you.
why are you judging me for having different beliefs? if you like chocolate cake and i say its gross to eat such a thing, am i judging you? no, i just won't eat chocolate cake because i think it's gross.

Pugs avatar Pug No Way +1Reply
@Pug i disagree.. sex is so socially accepted in todays society. it's weird if you're not taking a part of it by the...

I am not judging you for having different beliefs. I said it is great if you decided to wait. However, telling me what that what I am doing is wrong is judging me.

@Pug i disagree.. sex is so socially accepted in todays society. it's weird if you're not taking a part of it by the...

Oh, and as far as the chocolate cake metaphor goes, you are not telling me it is wrong to eat chocolate cake. You are saying that you choose not to do so, which is completely fine. But you are telling me it is wrong for me to have sex before marriage and that is in fact judging me.

@Pug i disagree.. sex is so socially accepted in todays society. it's weird if you're not taking a part of it by the...

How about you stop hiding behind anon and leave this to me and her. She stopped replying to me, I said nothing else to her.

@Pug i disagree.. sex is so socially accepted in todays society. it's weird if you're not taking a part of it by the...

But by saying that it is straight up wrong is passing judgement on others. And you just said you were not judging me or anyone else for it.

@Pug i disagree.. sex is so socially accepted in todays society. it's weird if you're not taking a part of it by the...

@Cherryblossom, it still stands that telling someone the decision they made is wrong, is judging them. I do not judge her for her decision to wait, and I expect the same respect from her. She should not tell me my decision is wrong just because she prefers to wait.

@Pug i disagree.. sex is so socially accepted in todays society. it's weird if you're not taking a part of it by the...

I think that's great that you found someone, congratulations! My personal belief is that it's wrong. I'm not viewing myself higher than you or anyone else, it's just what I believe.

Pugs avatar Pug No Way -1Reply
@Pug i disagree.. sex is so socially accepted in todays society. it's weird if you're not taking a part of it by the...

Lol you're telling me that I'm doing something wrong right now.. Is that judging?

Pugs avatar Pug No Way -2Reply
@Pug i disagree.. sex is so socially accepted in todays society. it's weird if you're not taking a part of it by the...

Let's clarify here. OP stop being a butt hurt bitch. She very calmly stated her beliefs and that she disagreed with but was ok with other beliefs. Stop criticizing and JUDGING her and leave her alone.

Anonymous -2Reply

No we don't. We (wrongfully) make them feel bad for have sex. We as men don't believe in women that say they like it as much as men.

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@No we don't. We (wrongfully) make them feel bad for have sex. We as men don't believe in women that say they like...

Women give off that vibe a lot because that is what is expected of us. We are not really supposed to like having sex so we can't really act like we do.

@No we don't. We (wrongfully) make them feel bad for have sex. We as men don't believe in women that say they like...

Double standards. An average women walks into a bar and yells 'Who wants to have sex with me!' shell get half a dozen offers from guys who... Want sex. If an average man walks into a bar and yells the same thing he'll get looks of disgust, people will assume he's either drunk or perverted, and he'll possibly get thrown from the bar. I don't know what the facts are about how much men are slaves to their sexual appetite compared to women but in modern day society women give off the vibe that they have more restraint, and therefore must not want it as much.

@No we don't. We (wrongfully) make them feel bad for have sex. We as men don't believe in women that say they like...

I don't believe that women actually think that men think they are not supposed to like sex. We as men don't forbid it, in fact most men would embrace it. I don't think there's anyone to blame for why women think they are supposed to not like sex

@WinniethePooh http://amirite.net/32403

It's not funny. The only reason why there are stupid sayings like that is to put women down for their sexuality. The analogy was made up because people in society feel that they should have control over a woman's sex life but not a man's.

SpearmintMilks avatar SpearmintMilk Yeah You Are +22Reply
@WinniethePooh http://amirite.net/32403

Yes well done, you've just proved the post to be true.

SpearmintMilks avatar SpearmintMilk Yeah You Are +18Reply
@WinniethePooh http://amirite.net/32403

I'd like to also add that the patriarchal religions did a number on the establishment of gender equality that's never been sufficiently righted. In fact, the US is taking huge steps backward. banning birth control, trying to ban abortion rights, trying to take away protection for domestic violence victims, the glass ceiling and unequal pay also still exist. This ontop of rampant institutionalized misogyny like the example of "slut-shaming" in this thread and the continued devaluation of women's domestic contributions, laborwise. All these issues stem from the underlying belief women are inferior and bed to be controlled by men.

Trishs avatar Trish Yeah You Are +10Reply
@WinniethePooh http://amirite.net/32403

I'm not talking about sleeping around. I am talking about liking sex. Not necessarily having a ton of sex with a ton of different guys, but just liking to have sex in general.

@WinniethePooh http://amirite.net/32403

Have they actually banned birth control? I had heard something about it but I never heard if they had actually done it.

@WinniethePooh http://amirite.net/32403

It varies by state,, so it'd depends where you live

Trishs avatar Trish Yeah You Are 0Reply
@WinniethePooh http://amirite.net/32403

Guys (girls): chill. It's not my post. I don't even agree with it. I just thought it was funny. Didn't mean to get everyone up in arms

@WinniethePooh http://amirite.net/32403

I know. I just thought this was funny and sort of applied

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