It's pretty unfair but yeah, it's completely justifiable.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I don't really think it's unfair. Someone should be allowed to be as picky as they want about who they date. I would never date someone who isn't Atheist. That doesn't mean I hate religious people. Hell I'm friends with a creationist. (Like the Earth is 7,000 years old kind) I just couldn't date one. It's far to large of an aspect in my life. Another way of looking at it is some people won't date those of a different race. The person isn't necessarily racist. They just might not be attractive to the other races. They shouldn't be frowned upon for that any more than someone who is attracted to the same gender. Personal preference is just that. Personal.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Sure, not dating outside your race isn't racist, but it is //unfair//, they're not getting an equal chance because of something that is beyond their control. If you and someone else would be a perfect match except that you're not of the same religion, and they want to date you but you turn them down, that's an unfair reason, yeah you have every right to do so, and it's a reasonable thing to do, but that person is being treated unfairly.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Given that I have that viewpoint I doubt a religious person and I would ever be a perfect match. And the race thing is an attractiveness issue. They could be best of friends but if the person isn't attracted that doesn't make it unfair. It's just a cold fact of life.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I've actually thought about this a lot. I date people I intend to marry, and I don't think I could see myself spending the rest of my life with someone I couldn't talk about religion (or my lack thereof) with, well talk without agreeing. Although, that doesn't mean I wouldn't give a religious person a chance. We would most likely be friends first and if their views were just too much for me, we wouldn't date.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Truuninja: I don't think they COULD be your perfect match because of religious views. Religious beliefs affect too much of your personality for that to work out.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Religious beliefs do not affect personalities. As a fellow atheist I'd like to ask you to not make the rest of us look ignorant by saying things like that. They do affect their lifestyle in a major way if that's what you meant, but definitely not personality.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Oh shit I meant lifestyle, not personality.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I'd like to add that it is never unfair to not date someone. It's unfair to lead someone on if you aren't attracted to them, but as long as you don't try to give someone the wrong idea you aren't being unfair.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

@Truuninja By your logic, I'm also being "unfair" by not wanting to date a guy who lives very far away.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I prefer someone who is open about talking about their beliefs and values in a thoughtful and serious way, whatever those beliefs may be. I couldn't date someone who didn't take life's big questions seriously, but I might be able to date someone who disagreed with me

by Anonymous 11 years ago

It's reasonable, and I get why people do it, but I wouldn't. Mainly because there are like 5 Jews where I live.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I would always prefer to be in a relationship in which I'm not being judged for my religious beliefs, and where I'm not judging my partner either. I think that's perfectly reasonable.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

It sounds like you're saying that everyone with a different religious belief from you is going to judge you. That may just be in my head, and I'm probably wrong...

by Anonymous 11 years ago

No I didn't mean everyone, but some people are quick to judge others when it comes to religion.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

If religion/lack of is a big part of your life, I can see how you would refrain from dating people with conflicting beliefs. I'm a Christian and I've dated a Jewish guy before. Our beliefs were similar and we respected the way each other feels and thinks.

by Anonymous 11 years ago