+220 Society has become too over reactive to how people parent their children (ex: they think spanking is abusive), amirite?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Words can not describe how much I agree with this post. Kids need discipline and not enough are actually getting it. Too many kids are total brats nowadays.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I think it's because you know your parents more than you know you're baby sitter. A lot of people are nicer to strangers than they are to their friends (not to say they're mean per se)

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I'm about an hour late on edditing time, but I don't think nice is a good word. More like... formal, well behaved, polite.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Spanking isn't always terrible, though it should be definitely used as a last resort.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I don't really think so. I'm fine with people spanking their kids, it's not really any of my business, but I think it's good that people take notice in other people's parenting. There are abusive parents out there, and if people don't pay attention to it, then it won't stop them

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Its not abuse. Even with animals they need some kind of physical contact not just yelling weather it be a spanking for a child or a tap for a pet. As long as it isn't like spiked belts or anything its fine.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I'm a fourteen year old boy and I've almost always been into BDSM. My favorite childhood game was called "Slave". Whenever my parents would threaten to spank me if I didn't behave, I'd get this wave of pleasure. I wanted to be controlled from a young age. If my parents were to start spanking again, I don't know if it would bother me because I've had it done by boyfriends and girlfriends before with a belt and everything, so my parents probably couldn't do anything worse. I think I was spanked once as a child. I was six years old and I don't remember what I did, but I remember liking it even though it hurt. I didn't understand why my brother cried when they spanked him. Considering I find it sexual to spank or be spanked, I would feel as though I'm sexually abusing a child, so I would NEVER use spanking as a punishment for children.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

That's an odd, but incredibly interesting story...

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I think I just died a little.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Out of curiosity, do you consider it sexual abuse because the child MIGHT be aroused, or because you WOULD be aroused?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I'm not the poster of that story, but I would assume that if he gets ANY pleasure from it, and it is regarding a child, then that is why it would be uncomfortable. It's a good decision he's made not to get that pleasure.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

AUsernameOf18Letters: You're not the first person to tell me that. Skr3wBall: Why, thank you. Bre: My sincerest apologies. partinobodycular: Both, really. I mean, if your father hit you and go off to it, how would you feel? Or if you got off to it, wouldn't it feel odd? Emyleigh: Thank you, that's pretty accurate.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

(I'm so going to get Downvoted for this) I think you shouldn't spank your kids. Ever. I mean, maybe I'm too crazy for reading about it a lot, but on the Dr. Phil website, he says you shouldn't spank kids, and he gives age appropriate punishments. Spanking just teaches Kids to hurt people to get what they want.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I agree with you after seeing dr Phil yesterday

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I was spanked when I was young. I don't remember the spankings themselves, I remember behaving when my parents asked if I wanted to be spanked. Throughout my life my parents have gotten hundreds of compliments on how well they raised me - not because people knew how my parents disciplined me, but because the results that everyone saw were so good.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I agree with you on many fronts, but 'because Dr. Phil said so' isn't exactly the most sophisticated reasoning.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I just figure that because he actually has a psychology degree, he probably knows what he's saying.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Yeah, I didn't say that argument had no validity at all, but Dr. Phil is still only one man.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Pretty much all children's psychologists agree with him.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Spanking //is// abusive. Children who have been spanked show signs similar to post-traumatic stress disorder, you know. If you need to resort to violence to discipline your child, you're not fit to be a parent because you have no idea what the fuck you're doing. And spanking can also dangerous to the parent. http://www.bhcmhmr.org/poc/view_doc.php?type=doc&id=14333&cn=462 http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/news/fullstory_126842.html

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Spanking isn't abusive. The purpose of spanking isn't to cause a child pain; it's to teach them a lesson. In the first link you give, the article itself states that there is no proof that spanking actually CAUSES mental illness. Lots of kids get spanked. Lots of people have mental health issues. There's no significance in that they overlap. Correlation doesn't imply causation. My 3 siblings and I all got spanked as young children, and we turned out fine. Spanking is not a form of violence; it's just another style of discipline. Also, considering that by the time my younger sister came along my parents had been parents for about 15 years, I'm pretty sure they knew what they were doing by that time.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Spanking is not something parents should have to do often. If you teach the child at a young age that bad consequences accompany bad actions, then the fear of punishment should be enough to deter the bad behavior. Granted there are different types of punishment, spanking is a type of positive reinforcement and both positive and negative reinforcement are crucial in punishment and operant conditioning for a child.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Spanking is painful. You hurt someone. It's violence, there's no way around that.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I was spanked once as a child. After that, I hardly ever misbehaved, and I have turned into a functioning member of society. It seems that the kids who don't get spanked have no respect for authority.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Hasty generalization.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I understand that what I said could be taken offense to, and I retract the statement, I just think that so many kids today have little respect for those around them, and I think they could use more discipline.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

But discipline doesn't have to include violent reactions. A believe a parent once told me, "Never react when you're pissed or sad," and that's good advice. Spanking is normally in the heat of the moment. Personally, I'd rather a parent and child debate it more like a family courtroom and think of a punishment, but that's just fantastical thinking and that would never happen. Though it would be the most responsible, educational, and rational way. Just time-wasting I guess.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It may be "the most responsible, educational, and rational way", but the most effective? Depending on the age of the child, sometimes sitting down and talking to them just doesn't work. Try to sit down with a 4 or 5 year old and explain to them the logic of things. Unless the kid is a genius, it probably won't go well. It's kinda like a recent POTD, about how humans are born as animals and we "train" them into decency. When a child can fully understand the concept of right and wrong and consequences, then spanking is not the right form of discipline, but until then, mild pain is the easiest and clearest way.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Talk to them like a genius, they will become a genius. I believe pain the way out for those who don't want to take the time and properly discipline their children, but to each their own. It's just an opinion.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I don't know how I feel about this. I was hit as a child when I did something wrong. It didn't even have to be that bad but my Dad went straight to hitting and yelling at me. I know that my Dad loves me, but I still cringe when he gets mad. It instilled fear in me, and I'm not sure that that was his intention. However, I don't think that "I don't want to be hit" is my justification for not being a total dick. I am (mostly) polite and non-bitchy because my parents told me what was and wasn't acceptable. I was a little shit as a kid, and I understand that sometimes my parents would get frustrated. No child and no parent is perfect. Sometimes our baser instincts get the better of us and we snap. I know that's not much of a justification, but my Dad loves me. He cried when I told him how scared I got sometimes as a kid. This probably make no sense at all and is a wall of text, but it's 12:30am. tl;dr I'm conflicted about this post.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

As a teen who was spanked as a child, I just thought I'd let you all know, that I am not "emotionally scarred" or anything like that... I've always imagined that I could never raise my hand and hit my own kid (when I have one) but my mother assures me that I will.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Something I've noticed about these types of posts is that the people arguing against spanking seem to think that all parents who do spank their children rely //solely// on it as a form of punishment, which isn't really the case. I'm not saying that there aren't shitty parents out there, but it's possible to be for spanking and use it as a last resort. I was spanked as a child, though rarely. My parents also lectured (when I was old enough to comprehend), took away my allowance, grounded me, and doled out chores. The thing is not all kids are the same; the type of punishment that works for one will not necessarily work for another. Seriously, parent blaming aside, some kids are just fucking jerks and don't listen for shit. I'm not advocating beating the tar out of them, but I honestly think mild physical punishment is necessary every now and then.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

3 of my sisters died from excessive spanking. Educate yourself, ignorant fool.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Died of excessive spanking? That's not spanking, that's beating. The post clearly is referring to actual parenting and a spank. Not killing your kid, do you see the difference?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

yes, it was an actual spank, just intense amounts of them

by Anonymous 12 years ago

That is called beating. You can use your open hand, your thumb, your fist, your feet, whatever. It's still a beating. Not a spanking or parenting.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

ew not her thumb thats gross but no it wasnt beating it was different trust me i was there.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

What? I'm saying it doesn't matter how you hit someone if they die it was a beating. Beating: "1.A punishment or assault in which the victim is hit repeatedly."

by Anonymous 12 years ago

NO IT WAS DIFFERENT OK ;_;

by Anonymous 12 years ago

colebowl you are dishonoring sergio's dead siblings as well as my own

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Really you are being very inconsiderate, and insulting my parents and calling them child-beatears. I want an apology.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I really doubt 3 of his sisters were spanked not beaten to death. But I'm sorry about your sibling. Still though, I'm allowed to point out isolated incidents like that are not at all what the post is talking about.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

wow. now youre claiming their deaths never happened. im...im speachless

by Anonymous 12 years ago

No you're not, you're saying words right now.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Okay colebowl you better apologize because sergio has every right to sue you for emotional assult

by Anonymous 12 years ago

And he's typing you genius

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Thank you wat. and colebowl, im crying right now. this is cyberbullying. stop. please

by Anonymous 12 years ago

don't worry I already phoned the authorities. I can still call them off if colebowl apologizes which judging by her cruel nature is very unlikely.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

lol these are the same people ya?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

We are both victims if that's what you mean?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Now youre laughing at them? be gone, troll! YOU CANNOT HURT ME ANYMORE

by Anonymous 12 years ago

No, he just knows the pain i feel.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

hah

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Stop laughing. you are either a troll or seriously messed up in the head.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Stip laughing at us :'( Im reporting you

by Anonymous 12 years ago

OK, I don't mind.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Oh hey look, here's some more stuff of Sergio being two people. http://amirite.net/729671

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Im not two people i swear.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

And here http://amirite.net/727474. Looks like these two accounts back each other up.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

neither am I

by Anonymous 12 years ago

You legit think i switch between two accounts that fast?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Colebowl i suggest you apologize to these men.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It takes about 5 seconds. Then about 10 or 20 seconds to type a sentence.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I really suggest you apologize, you have come across as mean and insensitive,

by Anonymous 12 years ago

lol

by Anonymous 12 years ago

What?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It's funny, so I laughed. Out loud. But not really cuz no one ever really does when they say lol.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Whyd you laugh? You should be apolojizzing.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

See first words in last comment.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I'm sorry, but must you vote up your own comments? http://amirite.net/718948 And colebowl never said these deaths didn't happen.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Yes, because I agree with my comments.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Also, "I really doubt 3 of his sisters were spanked not beaten to death." Yes she did.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

but still colebowl never said the deaths never occurred that's an unfounded accusiation. It's also not cyber bullying either. You get offended by what coloebowl said, it's expressing an opnion. Not bullying. also, linked post.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I read it but I don't care, frankly. And sorry, misunderstanding.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Yeah I don't care either. Thought you might though. Frank, you must be two people.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Why?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It's a joke. cause you're frank. also, I have two accounts on a site that i can operate through two different browsers for the purpose of undercover spying for my group.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Oh but I'm not two people, really.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Let me be frank. It's a joke.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I know but I've been accused of that before and it drives me insane.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I don't like now knowing you are against gay rights(would you call it con-gay?) and oh well :P

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Where do you get that assumption?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

http://ctrlv.in/104821

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Nope, and yeah it is inspect element. Nice try, though I must say I am not a troll. I don't judge you and call you a troll because you support gay rights, do I?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

No you do not. it'd be great if we could delete our comments and pretend this never happened. I'm not a troll either.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Well I think we should leave the comments. I am against going anon and deleting my comments.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Anon? Well, anyway. why don't we agree to disagree.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Doubting something happened isn't claiming it didn't.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Thank you Eisenstein

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Yeah, comment deleted. You guys rock.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Way to stand up for what you believe.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I think a lot of will believe differently once we're actually parents. Sure, we can use our experience as being a kid as some sort of justification as to whether we think spanking is okay or not. But until we're actually parents, trying to make our kids the best version of themselves, can we really get the psychology of it all?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

When I got hit as a child, I used to think that I was like the only one who did bad things that it me spanked, and yes I did deserve it. But the thing was, I learned my lesson. And my parents knew when to stop, and they always told me they felt bad, that they didn't like doing it. I knew they loved me. They stopped once I was like 9 and I'm 14 now. And all my other friends got hit too. I turned out fine and I don't think it's a problem, I think kids need it sometimes to know their restraints

by Anonymous 12 years ago