Still doesn't make it a good thing to be HM.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

A girl that is independent, opinionated, and self-motivated is actually really attractive.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

But I'm saying it can be too much

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Having a boyfriend/girlfriend isn't about throwing all your responsibilites onto them. You can be very independent, very opinionated, and very self-motivated and still have a boyfriend/girlfriend in the same way you can have a regular friend, it's just that they're your romantic interest. Independence is being free from control. You can be in relationship without either sides being controlling. Being opinionated doesn't really contribute to whether or not you want to be alone, it just means you're more likely to speak your mind and maybe be stubborn about it. Being self-motivated is good in almost every situation. In what way should you rely on your boyfriend/girlfriend to motivate you?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

He's talking about the extremes, where it becomes she's the master of not only her own world, but yours too. You make all the sacrifices, and compromise means she gets what she wants and you don't have to waste your breath complaining.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

EXACTLY, I wish I had said it more like that in the original post.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I get what you're saying entirely. You need balance in a relationship. Otherwise, you feel useless. Everyone wants their significant other to rely on them every once in a while; it's that trust factor. Everyone wants to feel needed and important :P

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Medium Maintenance

by Anonymous 12 years ago

The opposite of high maintenance is low maintenance.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

That's the neutral. the opposite of 1 is -1, not 0. The opposite of start is stop, but the opposite of move is move backwards.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Neutral would be no maintenance. Low is opposite of high, none is neutral.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Neutral is when you don't have a side, low maintenance isn't neutral maintenance no maintenance is neutral maintenance. Low is the opposite of high. And none of the "bad quality" words are the opposite of high maintenance. And I'm not saying I think like this, but it seems like the way OP talks about having a girl with those qualities makes it seem like someone with those qualities is high maintenance, which definitely isn't the opposite of high maintenance.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Then the point still stands that it's not the opposite. I just thought low and none were close enough for something as arbitrary as this. It's sort of is. If high maintenance means you have to devote a lot of time and money etc, and this is you're not allowed to put in time an money, I'd say that's the opposite.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

If high maintenance is putting a lot of time and money into something, not putting a lot of time into something is the opposite of putting a lot of time into it. Opposite of a lot is a little. If low and nothing are close enough, then you're saying the opposite of high maintenance isn't no maintenance.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

No. Not having to and not being allowed to are very different.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

How is that even relevant? Why are we even arguing about this haha?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

In this case, needing a lot of maintenance is the positive extreme, not needing maintenance in the neutral and not allowing maintenance to take place is the negative extreme.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Not allowing maintenance...?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

She doesn't let you do shit.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

That's not maintenance but I see what you're saying.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

"You don't get any input on decision making." That's not any of the adjectives you used earlier, that's disrespectful. Besides, I kind of NEED someone who is very independent. I happen to be independent to the point that I actually need to limit my contact with other people.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Since when is it my job to "take care" of my girlfriend?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I think a lot guys (myself included) like to feel needed when they're dating a girl., even if it's simple things like opening doors for them. If the girl decides she won't give the guy any opportunities to show his "manliness", the guy might not want to be in that relationship...

by Anonymous 12 years ago

By manly I meant playing the role of "the provider"... and that's what opening doors is

by Anonymous 12 years ago