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A lot of guys complain about having a "high-maintenance" girlfriend, but the opposite can actually be worse, if the girl is so independent and strongly opinionated and self-motivated that she doesn't even seem to need you and you don't get any input on decision making, amirite?
A girl that is independent, opinionated, and self-motivated is actually really attractive.
Having a boyfriend/girlfriend isn't about throwing all your responsibilites onto them. You can be very independent, very opinionated, and very self-motivated and still have a boyfriend/girlfriend in the same way you can have a regular friend, it's just that they're your romantic interest.
Independence is being free from control. You can be in relationship without either sides being controlling.
Being opinionated doesn't really contribute to whether or not you want to be alone, it just means you're more likely to speak your mind and maybe be stubborn about it.
Being self-motivated is good in almost every situation. In what way should you rely on your boyfriend/girlfriend to motivate you?
He's talking about the extremes, where it becomes she's the master of not only her own world, but yours too. You make all the sacrifices, and compromise means she gets what she wants and you don't have to waste your breath complaining.
EXACTLY, I wish I had said it more like that in the original post.
But I'm saying it can be too much
Still doesn't make it a good thing to be HM.
I get what you're saying entirely. You need balance in a relationship. Otherwise, you feel useless. Everyone wants their significant other to rely on them every once in a while; it's that trust factor. Everyone wants to feel needed and important :P
Medium Maintenance
Since when is it my job to "take care" of my girlfriend?
"You don't get any input on decision making." That's not any of the adjectives you used earlier, that's disrespectful.
Besides, I kind of NEED someone who is very independent. I happen to be independent to the point that I actually need to limit my contact with other people.
Cuz it's only ok for da menz to be those things
I know the OP didn't mean to say that, but if it's bad for a girl to be those things then it's bad for a guy to, it doesn't need to be gender specific in the second part of the post (first part kinda does, not many girls complain about their bfs being high maintenance.)
The opposite of high maintenance is low maintenance.
Neutral would be no maintenance. Low is opposite of high, none is neutral.
That's the neutral. the opposite of 1 is -1, not 0. The opposite of start is stop, but the opposite of move is move backwards.
Then the point still stands that it's not the opposite. I just thought low and none were close enough for something as arbitrary as this. It's sort of is. If high maintenance means you have to devote a lot of time and money etc, and this is you're not allowed to put in time an money, I'd say that's the opposite.
Neutral is when you don't have a side, low maintenance isn't neutral maintenance no maintenance is neutral maintenance. Low is the opposite of high. And none of the "bad quality" words are the opposite of high maintenance. And I'm not saying I think like this, but it seems like the way OP talks about having a girl with those qualities makes it seem like someone with those qualities is high maintenance, which definitely isn't the opposite of high maintenance.
No. Not having to and not being allowed to are very different.
If high maintenance is putting a lot of time and money into something, not putting a lot of time into something is the opposite of putting a lot of time into it. Opposite of a lot is a little. If low and nothing are close enough, then you're saying the opposite of high maintenance isn't no maintenance.
How is that even relevant? Why are we even arguing about this haha?
Not allowing maintenance...?
She doesn't let you do shit.
That's not maintenance but I see what you're saying.
In this case, needing a lot of maintenance is the positive extreme, not needing maintenance in the neutral and not allowing maintenance to take place is the negative extreme.
I think a lot guys (myself included) like to feel needed when they're dating a girl., even if it's simple things like opening doors for them. If the girl decides she won't give the guy any opportunities to show his "manliness", the guy might not want to be in that relationship...
By manly I meant playing the role of "the provider"... and that's what opening doors is