+85 It's hardly worthwhile to take and put someone else's happiness and well-being over your own, considering that some people won't go out of their way to help you when you're a bit under the weather. Sure it's nice to help a friend or two out, but there is no point in making sure you meet every bit of their expectations or needs if they barely think of you as a friend or a good person to be around, amirite?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I disagree, if you go out of your way to help a stranger, hopefully they will be inclined to help someone else afterwards, makes this world a bit less selfish.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Good-hearted actions shouldn't really be driven by whether or not you get something in return...

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Only if being a charitable, goodhearted person is not worth much to you.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I don't think any of you are understanding these posts.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Could you explain what it is that you mean for those of us who may not understand? To me this just seems to be suggesting that there's no point in being overtly kind to anyone because chances are they will not be kind to you in return. Is it not sometimes worth being kind for the sake of being kind, or because you care about them without any expectation of compensation?

by Anonymous 11 years ago

When I wrote this post, I was implying how some friendships can be one-sided. One person benefits from your attention and time and then leaves when you are burnt out. I'm not talking about strangers. I am not implying that it's pointless to help out a stranger. I am saying that you shouldn't go out of your way to make all your 'friends' happy if you are barely a passing though or concern.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

So the key skill here seems to be being able to tell who your real friends are, and not waste time and energy on those who are not?

by Anonymous 11 years ago