But the first time they met was unsafe. We all know the whole story of how it can be someone else behind the screen. My friend is in relationship with a guy who live in America, he's 20 and she's 15. She cheats on him and never tells him, we can assume the same for the other side. She has to lie to him about where she goes because somehow he controls her over the internet?! She plans to meet up with him next year and lose her virginity for 'the first time'

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Just because your friend's relationship was fake, you can't assume that every internet relationship is like that.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

This isnt just based off their relationship, but if a relationship is just over the Internet all it is I'd a cyber relationship. They will lack the whole part of a relationship which is being around each other and enjoying one another's company's. When one of them breaks down in tears, yes they will be able to type it. But that is just not enough.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

But that doesn't mean it's not real. And also, there are other means of communication besides texting.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

'Unsafe' =/= 'not real.'

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Um. Skype.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It honestly always seemed childish to me, like "oh we met in a chat room and now we're dating and playing house how cute"

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Exactly! It's just not realistic

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I don't think other people should decide if another person's relationship is real or not.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I'm shallow as a particularly shallow puddle, so this doesn't work for me in a variety of ways. How can you have chemistry with someone you've never met? How can you be physically intimate with someone over Skype? It just seems like half a relationship.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Not everyone needs to have physical contact to be happy. Just talking to them is enough for some people.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I can't get my head around that. I have a massive sex drive, and I honestly can't see the point of a relationship without at least some physical contact. The emotional side is nice too, but the physicality crosses the line from friend into partner.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

The point of the relationship is just that they make you happy. In a way, I think it's more real than a relationship irl. You get to know the person more and you learn to love them based on their personality, not their looks. There's a bigger emotional bond I think. I'm not a very physical person, though, so it's okay for me. I guess it probably wouldn't be for everyone.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Yeah, I don't think you have the right to decide who's relationship is "real" or not.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I have friends that met over the internet, dated online for about 2 years or so, now they live together and are getting married. They complement each other very well.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Do they also compliment each other? ;)

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Sometimes. They just do it all =P

by Anonymous 12 years ago

...it definitely depends on the circumstances. There are some websites I go on where everyone's "dating" someone else, but it's all like, online for fun, but if the couple is skyping and serious about it and shit, there's no reason why two people who met online can't be in a legit ldr. Cheating happens in offline relationships, too; you can't use one example to generalize about all of them.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Relationships come in many forms. Sure, online relationships can be unsafe (like, if you haven't Skyped or anything and you don't know if you're dating a pedophile or whatever) but there are many types of relationships. Like, a lot of people I know think that open relationships or polyamorous relationships aren't "real" relationships, and I just want to slap them. Like, just because they can't comprehend what these types of relationships are like, doesn't mean that they aren't as "real" as other types of relationships

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I think any situation where two people love and care for eachother can be classed as a relationship, regardless of the circumstances.

by Anonymous 12 years ago