On the same note. Maybe that woman who makes those depressing commercials for homeless animals should put that effort into getting children adopted

by Anonymous 11 years ago

As much as making and birthing a a baby myself would be a great experience, and would create a deep bond with my baby, that same bond could be forged through adoption. I feel as though there is a sort of stigma attached to adoption. I would love to give a homeless child a home, but I know that, for some reason, my family and friends would look down upon that... it sucks.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

That's an interesting point...i have never sensed or heard of any negative stigma towards adopting a child...i wonder where that stigma comes from

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I have never thought about it, but it makes a lot of sense. The kids themselves are often upset when they find out, and the parents often find it to be a big deal when they finally tell them.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Yes there is that issue. I was thinking, myself, when would be the best time to tell your adopted child that he or she is in fact adopted...tough issue

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I disagree. Other than purity of breed (and even then, some adopted dogs are pure bred) there's no disadvantage of adopting. It's just a pet and nothing more until you form a bond yourself. On the other hand, having your own kid makes it yours. Your DNA, your descendant, It's a being that is truly yours. When adopting a kid, there's nothing inherent that makes it yours and until you form a bond, it's just another kid. I wouldn't adopt unless I or my future wife can't have a kid. (the not dad thing below doesn't apply here) That being said, I might take in kids if I had enough money, or fund an orphanage or something, but I wouldn't be their dad, just a caretaker or something.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Yeah, but people are smart enough to figure that out on their own. If they're having a blood relation is that important, they'll simply ignore those commercials, just like people who'd rather buy a pet at the store. However, if they're on the edge, and able to be just as attached to their own biological kid as they are to an adopted one, why not push them toward the option that gets a kid out of the orphanage? In the end, it's always going to be their decision.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Two thumbs up. Exactly what i was thinking

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Yes what you say is true but it doesn't mean the effort shouldn't be at least equivelant. Not everyone feels that need to have a child with their own DNA.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Agree completely. I plan on adopting when I am older. Some of my closest friends were adopted from Bangladesh when they were infants and live a wonderful life here in the States. I hope I can do the same for another child because I think the positives outweigh the negatives.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

I'm glad to hear others have the same thought process as me on this topic. But about adopting from another country..it gets a bit touchy at that point for me. While country borders shouldn't matter (every orphaned child deserves an equal chance at being adopted) i think it would be more beneficial to get a child out of an orphanage in ones own country before bringing another person into the country. My whole reason for adopting before breeding is to decrease the number of children cared for by the government and our tax dollars and give them a better chance to be successful when they are grown and on their own. Adopting from another country isn't going to help that situation.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

You bring up a valid point. My reason for wanting to help the children in my native country is purely personal. I've seen the orphans begging in the streets for spare taka, I've visited the poor rural kids who work for hours in the fields, and I've bought flowers from little girls who live in the city who bring in extra money for their family. I could've easily been one of them if the cicumstances had been different. That's basically why I want to help the children there; most of them are in far worse conditions than underpriviledged kids here in the US and I want to give at least one a chance to live a wonderful life here. Back to your original point though; it's true. I support adoption within the nation as well, as there are thousands of foster kids here who need a permanent home.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Oh, I see you're talking about your native country. That is a perfectly good reason. I was thinking more along the lines of people with no attachment to a foreign country.

by Anonymous 11 years ago

Thank you for respecting that. I appreciate it. And I agree completely. It's definitely better to try to adopt within the country if you can.

by Anonymous 11 years ago