I've never understood the no-dating-your-friend's-ex rule. It's not like someone can control who they fall for. Even so, what does it matter? You're no longer dating the person, and wouldn't you want your friend to be happy?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Of course people can't help who they fall for but there are a few reasons a person might be angry if their friend dated their ex: 1) If they broke up on bad terms, the last thing they want to do is see their ex all of the time when they're hanging out with their friend. 2) If ... bad terms, there's always the //idea// that the ex could try to ruin the friendship purposefully. 3) Was the friend expressing his/her feelings towards the ex when you were dating them? If so, your friend isn't very trustworthy and this could have been a reason for the ex breaking up with you. 4) Jealousy. I don't currently have feelings towards any of my ex's yet when I see any of them with another guy I get this feeling like, "damn it, that could still be me." It's stupid, but I can't control it. I would hate to imagine if one of those guys were a friend. That would mean that the special intimate times the girl shared with me are now being shared with him. I don't think it's wrong to date a friends ex. You don't own them and they can do what they want, but if you know your friend might be upset by it, then you should show respect towards your friend by not dating them.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Because your ex is not a pair of pants or leftover lunch. You had, or sometimes have, an emotional attachment to your ex that you often don't have to inanimate objects. I think it's stupid to be mad that your friend is dating your ex, but I don't think this is a good comparison.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

This comparison only works if you dumped your ex, not if you were dumped by your ex. Because then you're not giving them a book you got tired of, they're taking that book you still wanted. Either way, I also think you shouldn't get mad about it, but if ou want to include that situation it probably needs to be worded differenty.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I don't really care, but I do see the reasoning behind it. Your friend broke up with them, so they've judged them as unworthy, and you want to second guess them?! If thye were broken up with, she is the enemy. The prince wouldn't marry the female assassin who killed his father would he? This works for guys too, butI don't know if girls are more or less sensitive about this sort of thing. That's an exaggeration of what I think most people think. There's a way to give your permission, usually used when it just didn't work out, of no fault of either.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

At one point or another we cared what "the ex" thought, and now they're thinking that they like your friend better than you and we usually take break up's, regardless of reason, very personally.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I believe it depends If he breaks up with you ,then yes I would b mad, but if I broke up with him then it's ok

by Anonymous 11 years ago