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I agree. I took a common thought or belief by so many and put it in to a one line statement to generate some interest and buzz. My way of proving there can't be only ONE is when we lose a spouse or significant other, we are able to move on and find another.
I find the notion of a "soul-mate" completely ridiculous, and hearing about it makes me want to punch myself in the face.
LOL! Please don't. I was not trying to incite violence, only interest. My wife believes in soul mates and the love of a lifetime. I have loved more than once, but can't say 100% that I believe a person only has ONE soul mate or love of a lifetime. I think more women believe in it than men. Need to get a survey going on here.
I believe so I am not a religious person but I think everyone has a soul mate and they are bound to meet its faith. I don't know how people can have more than one if you are not with the first one anymore I don't think they ever were and they were just with the wrong person
I guess. But to me, I can't relate to how she was married 2 times before me, had a kid with number 2, love those 2 men while she was married with them, and now I am all of a sudden the love of her life! It is bizarre.
maybe she just feels the most connected to you
it's not that hard to believe
That's depressing as all hell.
What is? A soul mate?
No, the thought that we should only get one "true love." How very limiting. So many people have these idealized notions of what love should be like , and I think that they just set themselves up to be completely miserable when reality doesn't quite match the fairytale they invision.
I could accept that much easier than soul mate or love of a lifetime.
I think the whole idea behind "soul" would indicate going beyond stimuli.
What about the emotions and feelings? We so often refer to everything as "heart" and "soul" - and there seems to be an inner depth beyond just brain or even response to stimuli. And then the million dollar question of course - what is LOVE?
there is no such thing as true love.
Tell that to all the people who have experienced, know, and enjoy it every single day!
no one has ever done such a thing, love exists, but not true love nor soul mates. the belief that God, the universe or whatever natural or supernatural force you believe in has ordained that there is any one person on this earth that has been made for or belongs to you is extremely arrogant and ridiculous. to believe that there is a person in the world that you have full rights to be with because some natural or supernatural force says you do is preposterous. you are born with a natural right to seek happiness, not to have it given to you. there is nobody on this earth that belongs to you, you must find someone who chooses to be with you.
So can we say you are having a bad day, week, month??? You are free to express your views all day long to me - but I don't have to buy into or agree with them. You are obviously full of anger and hurt and your avatar is pointing a gun at me! So, if you admit that LOVE exists, then that would ultimately mean TRUE LOVE has to exist as well. There can't only be part, half, three fourths, or fake love. Somewhere in the mix, the real true thing has to exist. Finding it or it finding you may be difficult and another story. But please do not insult most of the world by referring to those who have found it as "arrogant," "ridiculous," or "preposterous." And who said anything about belonging to anyway? Love involves mutual respect and admiration. My wife is not my dog, bitch, or ho. She is my equal - my "better half" if you will. I don't own her and she does not own me. We choose to be with each other and our hearts are ONE.
A soul mate is someone who you deeply resonate with on levels that are sometimes hard to understand, but really need no understanding for what they accomplish. With so many people, and so many being so similar to others who may live across the globe, but somehow look and act the same, I'd say it's safe to assume there is plenty chance to meet someone exactly like your "one and only" soul mate, and, people being complex as they are, it's very possible to find someone who resonates as deeply in completely different ways.
Based on a comment you made last night on another post, it sounded like you pretty much believed there is only one true soul mate. But you disagreed with this OP. So where are you at on all of this now?
I never said anything was impossible, I only said that I might not love anyobody like that again. Finding someone to love like that is very difficult, and involves a whole lot of luck. But I think the odds are better than 1 in 7 billion
Well for your sake, and since I believe everyone should have a shot at true and rewarding love, I hope you find it again.
you could have multiple soul mates
all these different individuals could be your soul mates at the same time or at different times
I believe that one can have more than one.
A great conversation is can a person have more than one at the same time?
I suppose you could, but you'd have to choose between the them which one you are more compatible with.
So if you don't find that ONE and ONLY, then you are destined to be alone, unhappy, and miserable for the rest of your life?
I'm confused. Aren't you the one who made this post? You seem to disagree quite strongly.
Anyway, destiny isn't necessarily something that must happen, or something that is forced to happen. Some people see it more as the end result of what ultimately does happen, which may have been only one of many possibilities but was orchestrated by a higher power to achieve the end result. So even though your wife thought her previous husbands were her soul mates, maybe she was ultimately destined to be with you. And if you hadn't met her then maybe she would have been miserable for her whole life, but you were drawn to each other by fate, and now you will be together forever.
Or at least that's one explanation. The weird thing is, I don't believe in soul mates either. I have no idea why I wrote this comment, but I hope it helps somehow.
Yes, I am the one that posted. I simply took a commonly held idea by many and threw it out there for others to agree or disagree with. I personally don't agree with it. But I love good discussions, debate, and controversy. Not in an argumentative sense, but looking at all sides and aspects of an issue to broaden and expand my horizons.
And as far as destiny is concerned, if there is such a thing, then certain things MUST happen - that is the whole point of it. "It is what it is" or "Que Sera, Sera" (Whatever Will Be, Will Be) many ways of saying the same thing.
And my wife says she knows the others were not her soul mate or love of a lifetime. She claims you only KNOW that when you actually find or experience it!
I think that I wanna believe there's gonna be that one person that I meet and fall in love with and am with forever and ever blah blah. I really hope so. Most of my family members have been divorced at least once and I hate it. So I'm planning on meeting that one person.
Yeah, but the big question is - do we wait around hoping for it to happen, or do we go out and make it happen? And I was married to my first wife for 20 years and we said we would NEVER use the "D" word - which we never did until it came to the point where we could not come up with a solution to our mess. To this day, I am NOT for divorce, but even after looking at all the options and talking to many people, there did not seem to be a solution. And I know the divorce hurt my kids a lot.
I don't know what the solution is. My cousin and his wife just recently told us they're getting divorced and I was completely shocked. They seemed like they were fine. It makes me doubt everything. But I think someone mentioned fairy tales in the comments above and I think that's a big part of it. I grew up watching and listening to these fairy tales where everything ended perfectly and you lived happily ever after. I don't know. My boyfriend and I have talked about that stuff and it's kind of sad to think that one day he might not be in my life because I love him and he means a lot to me. But what if he's not 'the one?' I don't know.. I just rambled on about irrelevant things haha
The "ideal" of course is perfection. But that nasty thing called reality somehow gets in the way and throws us curves and twists we could not have possibly have prepared for. I am not excusing even my own undoings. I wanted the fairy tale, happily ever after - but it didn't work that way. And I think you are right about many relatives or siblings see the mess and it causes them to question and doubt everything. I have 4 children, and none of them seem to want children - and probably because of what me and their mom went through and did. I can't live in guilt or regret. I can only go on with who I am with and do the best job possible.
I'm sure their not wanting children isn't because of you. I'm sure you're a great father. Who needs a fairy tale anyway
Nothing wrong with wishing...............on a star, or a rainbow, or ???? Keeps the child in us alive and hoping for those days we can remember as "innocent."
True true. There's always hope!
OK, now I am on your page. That is why I posted the line. It is an idealized notion, as you put it, that I have never found to be quite true or believable. My wife is one of those people who believes I am her soul mate - even though I am her 3rd husband!
if she thinks you're her soul mate
then you're her soul mate
your soul mate is whoever you think is your soul mate