+1,133 Virginity is more of an accomplishment than a failure. It's not hard to lose it; there's always some promiscuous or drunk person who'll have sex with you. It's so much harder to contain your hormones and emotions and maintain your integrity, especially if you're with someone you really like, amirite?

by Anonymous 15 years ago

i agree, but i "no way" for the too serious tone.

by Anonymous 15 years ago

Sorry, I forgot sex was something silly and not to be taken seriously.

by Anonymous 15 years ago

That's not exactly what Amirite is about.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Amiritie is about whatever the hell we want it to be about, as is any website dominated by user generated content.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

True.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

lol at noobs trying to tell Will what the sites about no

by Anonymous 12 years ago

lol at anon trying to tell me I'm a noob with terrible grammer

by Anonymous 12 years ago

lol at noob trying to deny being a noob and making fun of anons *grammar * because well all know anons care SO much about that.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

This isn't funny anymore. I actually have an account. I'm not going to take any anonymous user trying to call me anything seriously.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

What does having an account have to do with anything?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

In my opinion, having an account shows that you care a bit more, and are willing to have all of your posts and comments connected to one identity. I am one person saying all of this, but I have no way of telling if you left all of these comments, or if they're all from different people. But you're right, that point is irrelevant to this, and I didn't mean to rank on anons (even though it really sounded like I did), I was just trying to say that I really don't care about this whole thing anymore.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

All these purity ring people. Don't spread that all over here geez. Try to make it seem like it's so cool and the right thing to do. I know I'm not supposed to have sex, don't need to pledge it or wear a ring for it

by Anonymous 15 years ago

(DJ W): agreed, but this post had nothing to do with purity rings.

by Anonymous 15 years ago

He didn't mention a ring, but it's still relevant because the ring represents a promise to save yourself.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

(DJ W): Yeah, Beyonce, Rocky didn't mention anything about a ring. I like the concept of holding out. Sex is supposed to be the pinnacle of love, not just anyone should get it.

by Anonymous 15 years ago

Thank you, someone agrees with what I'm thinkin.

by Anonymous 15 years ago

I agree too. t's a nice thought to wait and be with the person you really lvoe and trust the first tie as opposed to sleeping with someone in a drunken stupor or something.

by Anonymous 15 years ago

definitely! that's the point

by Anonymous 15 years ago

but if you wait for the first time to be with the person you love, it will be scary and painful. i would want sex with the person i love to be something i'm comfortable with and will enjoy.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It won't be scary and painful if you both love and trust each other totally.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Nah, I'd still be scared of doing it badly/not knowing what to do to satisfy him, and it'd still be physically painful, since it always is the first time.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It's a myth that it is always physically painful the first time.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

yeah

by Anonymous 15 years ago

just because you do it in a drunken stupor with someone you don't love doesn't mean it'll ruin it for when you do it with someone you do love

by Anonymous 12 years ago

What makes sex the pinnacle of love? It's just a human function. It would make more sense if marriage was the pinnacle of love. Marriage means you truly love and cherish the person. Sex, however, is just another human urge. Love doesn't control sex, your hormones do. If we weren't sophisticated, humans were meant to have more than one sexual partner. Marriage is one way we are sophisticated and it's a way that we're unlike animals. Animals can have sex but not love each other, and they don't really "love" like we do. I don't understand why we made an animal function the pinnacle of //human// love.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Just like us, the animal function evolved into something more than animal. Our thoughts more than physical and our desires more than temporary. Marriage is the pinnacle of love, but sex is meant to exist within, and as part of, that pinnacle.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Okay well then explain to me exactly how human sex is any different from animal sex. The only difference I can think of is that in human society, sex is //viewed// as extremely sacred and all-important. Is the actual process of intercourse any different than it was for humans a million years ago? No. The core is still the same. Society was one that evolved. So, stemming off that, we became sophisticated enough to have marriage. That proves we are different from animals. Since love as we know it exists only within the human species, the pinnacle of the very same love should do that as well. And no, sex is not //meant// to exist within marriage. It only became the norm after society developed. In reality, the time you first have sex really has no significance in life, unless you choose to. But you can't choose for someone else.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It's none of your business if some people wear a ring or not. And it shouldn't bug you if a site for sharing opinions contains a few posts or people who want to spread their opinion about abstinence.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It was implied

by Anonymous 15 years ago

No, it wasn't.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

its really not an accomplishment. its a choice. OP's projecting his ideals on everybody.

by Anonymous 15 years ago

For most guys I knew, it wasn't even a choice.

by Anonymous 15 years ago

were they kidnapped and tied to a chair?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It wasn't for a want of trying, just didn't work.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I'm pretty sure this a place where you post your ideas, thoughts, theories and I don't know... ideals??? And people vote? Yeah, I think that's how it works. He's prefectly within his right to post this just as you're perfectly within your right to vote 'no way' to it.

by Anonymous 15 years ago

I agree with the first thing you said, but not the second.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Hes prolly some hardcore christian.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Or someone with a mindset different from your's.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Thats preposterous. We all know that the only kind of people out there are Christians and this guys clones.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

i dont think i understand. how does the guy not choose?

by Anonymous 15 years ago

what? how is one asking how the guy doesnt have a choice an exhibition of one not taking the concept of sex and its consequences seriously, sir?

by Anonymous 15 years ago

you misinterpreted what ZuRG said, sir

by Anonymous 15 years ago

Its not something to be embarrassed or proud of, if you are a christian, then i suppose you have gone against your beliefs. I think that sex can destroy teenage relationship if it isnt ready for it, and having sex with someone who you actually like is better than some drunk chick.

by Anonymous 15 years ago

please explain to me what zurg meant, my liege.

by Anonymous 15 years ago

If sex isn't on the menu, then you won't be having sex no matter what your beliefs are.

by Anonymous 15 years ago

how is sex not on the menu? what does that even mean?

by Anonymous 15 years ago

It means when someone's not interested in having sex with you. Or one of us is a rapist. If you don't want to have sex, then you won't be having sex. If you want to have sex but there's nobody to have sex with, then you still won't be having sex = not a choice.

by Anonymous 15 years ago

oh, I get it now. It would've been clearer if you had said option rather than choice.

by Anonymous 15 years ago

excellent explanation. roll on, brother.

by Anonymous 15 years ago

Sometimes I want to smack someone across the face with a Reply button, but then I realize their comments are two and a half years old and I get over it.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

too bad, i'd really like to see you smack someone in the face with a reply button :P

by Anonymous 12 years ago

does sex really have to be based on love and intimacy? it's fun, it feels good, and it is actually good for you just gotta be responsible about it i hate how people make a huge deal about "make sure your first time counts" and blah blah blah shut the fuck up let people make their own choices

by Anonymous 15 years ago

Yes, sex is meant for love and intimacy. The world has screwed it up, like they've perverted everything else.

by Anonymous 15 years ago

oh really?its actually meant for reproduction, and to encourage reproduction, it feels good. since reproduction can be prevented during sex, it can be done for fun, reproduction,because you love each other, or any mix of those.its not JUST love and intimacy.stop trying to change the world man just let people live their life instead of trying to be the next fucking ghandi or some shit.

by Anonymous 15 years ago

We're not just animals. Sure, everything physical we do has a bodily function, but we have a higher intelligence and unmistakable personalities that heightens everything we do. Eating fulfills our hunger, but we also eat because we love the taste of food. Sleeping restores our energy, but we also sleep because we like the feel of a soft, warm bed. Sex may result in reproduction, but if that was its sole (or even its main) purpose, we'd just have sex with anyone to create babies. As it is, sex is an extremely intimate thing, which is why it can easily destroy a relationship or damage a person emotionally if abused.

by Anonymous 15 years ago

you missed my point completely

by Anonymous 15 years ago

As to your other point (you made two), just because I'm stating opinions doesn't mean I'm trying to "change the world" or something.

by Anonymous 15 years ago

i know i got carried away with the changing the world thing, im sorry im just saying that if you do it just for fun with someone, and do it responsibly, no harm no foul, and no love involved.why should you have to love someone to have a good time with them?you can but do you really have to?

by Anonymous 15 years ago

And I'm saying sex and love are as linked as the night and the stars. However, when we place sex above love, we get lust, which is the enemy of love. "Having a good time" may sound nice, but what you're really doing is saying you care more about that person's body than their personality, or about your future spouse, really. Lame analogy, but imagine this amazing cake made especially for you, waiting out there for you, you don't know where. But you keep tasting these other pies, thinking you're just whetting your sweet tooth, but really your dampening the amazingness of having your own special pie.

by Anonymous 15 years ago

how would eating other pies take away from how good my special cake is?how good it is isn't gonna change whether i eat only my cake, or the pies and the cake?sexual desires are always gonna be there, whether you're with someone or not, and masturbating all the time just doesn't cut it.sex does not have to be based soley around love. now if you'll excuse me, i have school tomorrow and im tired so im going to bed

by Anonymous 15 years ago

Do you have to have sex with them to have a good time with them?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

you're my hero :D

by Anonymous 15 years ago

Actually we are just animals. Don't get me wrong, I agree completely with this, however, we're mammals-making us animals. :D

by Anonymous 15 years ago

We can lump ourselves into the Animal Kingdom because of similar functions and habits, but it does not make us animals. ;]

by Anonymous 15 years ago

We can eat simply because we like the taste of food. We can sleep because we like the feel of a bed. That also means we can have sex because we enjoy it. It doesn't necessarily have to include so many emotions. If someone made the conscious choice of eating simply because they like food, it's okay for someone to have sex simply because they like sex.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I think if you were to actually go out and have sex for recreation you'd find that there's no way to get around the emotional aspect of sex

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I've done it a couple times... I like sex. I don't need to like the person emotionally, I just need to be sexually attracted. Some people can have sex with no emotions and some people can't.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Fair enough, do your thing

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I would probably never go do that. Even though my comments may not make me seem like it, I think I'm going to stay abstinent. However, I recognize that as MY choice. I would be upset if someone were to shoot me down for it, because they would have no reason to. This is exactly what's going on in this post. People are saying it's shameful and weak to not be a virgin if you're not married. I think that's absolutely ridiculous. You're right. //I// would never go hook up with random people because //I// would get emotionally attached. That doesn't mean I can speak for other people. If someone has the capability to do that, and chooses to go hook up, who am I to condemn them for their personal choice? I don't view sex as some taboo subject that needs to be hushed. It's a personal desire and if you want to embrace it, that's perfectly okay with me. Honestly, we're in the 21st century now. It's time we realize sex is NOT the work of the devil.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Well said, but it is going both ways on this post. People are bashing staying abstinent, too. I respect your opinion, I just have a different one

by Anonymous 12 years ago

And also I think the score speaks for it all. I know most people are going against what I'm saying in the comment section but the majority are agreeing with this post, like me

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It's not that I don't respect people who choose abstinence. I just dislike how this post is worded. My choice to be abstinent has //nothing// to do with an internal struggle with temptation. It has everything to do with my level of comfort. I don't want to connect with someone on that level if we have a chance of separating. It's not that I'm fighting an everyday battle with a sexual demon inside me. If one day I decide that abstinence is not for me, it'll be alright. I'll view it as just another choice, not as a defeat.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

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by Anonymous 12 years ago

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by Anonymous 12 years ago

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by Anonymous 12 years ago

http://www.myfacewhen.net/view/444-sticking-out-tongue

by Anonymous 12 years ago

for you I only have one quote "Can our mind evolve to be something other than an extension of our animal needs" -Julian Casablancas

by Anonymous 12 years ago

THANK YOU

by Anonymous 15 years ago

(Anonymous 2.0): You're welcome lol.

by Anonymous 15 years ago

go rape an african elephant you good for nothing sadist

by Anonymous 15 years ago

wat

by Anonymous 15 years ago

I think it's a private choice for someone to make. I personally would want to be emotionally involved with a person I have sex with. But as long as someone is in a financially and situationally stable situation so they know that if something happened, than it's their say.

by Anonymous 15 years ago

rocky is a virgin

by Anonymous 15 years ago

Yep. Even if I wasn't, my opinion wouldn't change.

by Anonymous 15 years ago

NOT ANYMORE

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I hate bible bashers.

by Anonymous 15 years ago

Good thing I'm not one.

by Anonymous 15 years ago

Except you're a slut-shamer. Which is worse.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

No?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

No it's not worse, or No you're not a slut-shamer?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

AMEN TO BEING A VIRGIN! :D

by Anonymous 15 years ago

Word up!

by Anonymous 15 years ago

I'm a virgin, but I don't //feel// like a virgin after seeing this: http://ctrlv.in/84044

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Every time I see that picture I have to love the comment. It's fantastic.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

oh really?.... http://ctrlv.in/84044 smirk

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Hmm. Interesting.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

How the hell is being a virgin an accomplishment? Sex isn't a great feat of heroism, it's just a personal choice. I totally respect other people's choices and I think abstaining from sex is a very responsible thing to do for many people, especially young people. But most people have sex because they choose to have sex, not because they are to weak to refuse. Not having sex does not make you a better person and it's a really stupid thing to be proud of.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

Actually, it is being weak in a way. Lust is a really strong sensation and very difficult to resist. So if you DO resist it, especially in the face of opportunity, it is strength.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

No. Having sex does not make you weak. Sexual attraction is not something that needs to be "resisted" anyway. If you want to have sex in a safe, healthy, fun way there is no reason not to go ahead and do it. Also, that kind of implies that everyone who has sex is weak and that's just wrong and sort of judgmental. Sex is a just personal choice, it's not a heroic deed or anything. That being said. Having safe healthy sex can sometimes be a scary, intimidating and of course, embarrassing, so I don't think it's shows weakness. No matter what you choose: abstinence or otherwise, it takes a great deal of responsibility, judgement, and courage to make responsible choices about sex.

by Anonymous 13 years ago

He's saying resisting lust is strong. Not resisting all kinds of sex. If you really love someone, having sex isn't a bad thing at all. However, banging someone because they've got a big shlong or big breasts because your brain was going "BANGTHEMBANGTHEMBANGTHEM" is pretty weak to your own desires.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

yeah, but i think fEMMAnist's point was that the post kind of generalized sex and made a judgement about every kind of sex, not just lust

by Anonymous 12 years ago

So... people should be applauded for not being rapists? Gimme my fucking medal.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Okay so the next time you want to eat food don't because giving into the strong sensation of hunger is WEAK.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

because I totally bang people for breakfast, lunch, dinner, and multiple snacks within the day. And I'm pretty sure you can't compare the desire to eat a cracker with the desire to sleep with a human being that looks damn fine and is an easy catch.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Actually, I am. I completely am comparing the desire to eat a cracker to the desire to sleep with some one. Why do we eat crackers? Because we're hungry. Because we have the desire to survive. Why do we have sex? Because we're hormonal. Because we have the desire to pass our genes on to the next generation and ensure the human race survives. They're both //human instincts//. Care to explain why comparing the two is illogical?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Yes, but if you do not eat that cracker, you will end up starving and dying. Last I checked, people do not die from lack of sex.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

You are right. People do not die from lack of sex. Maybe we can even go as far and say that because people don't die from lack of sex, as they do from hunger, the instinct to eat a cracker is stronger than that to reproduce. Still, I stand by what I said. They're both human instincts. Maybe the one to eat is stronger than the one to have sex, but if they're still both instincts, why is it logical to completely abstain until a government issued piece of paper for one and stuff yourself whenever for the other? Why is it such an immorality to simply give in to the same desire that gives you hunger?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Not doing something that makes you happy in the face of opportunity for the sole reason that you want to be able to say that you resisted it is stupid, not strong. There are plenty of legitimate reasons not to have sex, but it doesn't make you any stronger than those who do.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

The only mentality I see behind this reasoning is "Jesus loves me for being a virgin! I am special! I am strong for holding out!" You are not special. You are not significant. If being a virgin is a big accomplishment to you, you have no worth. You are just as shallow as the whores you hate. Why not try and do something actually useful and special? How about discover a cure for a disease? Or maybe get into archaeology and discover some things about ancient races and extinct species? Or even just getting a degree and getting a job to contribute to society? Being a virgin contributes /nothing/ to society, to knowledge, to your friends, to anything. It is a personal moral and if you think it's hard to be a virgin, then you have just as much sexual frustration as a whore. I'd suggest masturbation, but I think your'e too much of a prude Christian to even consider the terrifying horrors of touching your penis. Maybe if you didn't think of sex as this taboo, big topic, you wouldn't have this whole Special Snowflake Syndrome thing going on, which is pathetic. I bet you're one of those people that are all bothered by unmarried people fucking. That's doubly pathetic if you actually are.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Setting the goal (to stay a virgin) is a choice but achieving the goal is an accomplishment.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Setting a goal to have tons of glorious sex and then achieving that goal is also an accomplishment.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It is.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

@TailsTurrosaki you just sound like an asshole. "You are not special. You are not significant." Actually, when there are very few people who are able to hold out for the person they love, it is special AND significant. You know the saying "if it were easy, everyone would do it."? Perfect example. Giving in to having sex is easy, staying a virgin is not. Your comment was totally unnecessary, and it made me want to punch you in the face. You could have gotten your point across without sounding like a bastard.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

It's not that i don't want to lose my virginity. It's just, I'd rather not lose it to some drunken chick. I'd rather lose to someone i care for and have feelings towards. It sounds pretty cliche. But teenagers aren't like that nowadays.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Sex is sex is sex is sex. Do it if you want. Don't do it if you don't want. You do it. Somebody will judge you. You don't do it. Somebody will judge you. Make your choice as if nobody is judging you, but yourself. I personally would rather have my first time with someone I really care about (of course that's not the only reason I'm a virgin, obviously). I respect if someone else wants to do it for the pure pleasure. Again, it's up to you. I make my choice because I hold sex in a romantic view, some don't share that view and that's okay.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Thank you.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

My school teacher once talked a little about that with us. She said that teen mothers are too common here in America. She said that when a person is with their special someone, they feel as if they have to give it up to them to prove their love or whatever. She said that in reality, if you think about it, it's the duty of the boyfriend to keep his girlfriend safe. That also means to keep her safe from the hardships of being a teen mother- which can almost be guaranteed. She told us that their really is no such thing as "safe-sex." Because for a girl, the odds, even with protection, are still way too high that she will get pregnant.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

First of all, your teacher saying any of that is mind blowingly inappropriate. Second, if you use two different types of birth control, the chance of getting pregnant is effectively zero.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Your teacher is an idiot. No wonder our education system sucks.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Being a virgin is easy. Being sexually active is easy. It's all about personal choice and values.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Have sex or don't have sex, but always be responsible for what you do. I don't care about whether or not someone's a virgin, and other people really shouldn't either. It doesn't really change anything. Don't judge other people for something that arbitrary.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

And SEX! smirk

by Anonymous 12 years ago

What the actual fuck. So purity should be praised, and having sex means you have no integrity? I'm sorry, but this is really fucked up. Abstinence, constant sex, sex with someone you love, none are better or more of an "accomplishment" than another. For fucks sake, it's not competition. It's personal choice.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Oooohhh, it is hard to lose it. I would if I could.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Ugly slutty chicks. Shouldn't be too hard.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

well i guess for some people it can be an accomplishment but i wouldn't consider losing your virginity a failure...it just depends on your personal values

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Well I would never say that it's a failure, but it all depends on the circumstances. For some people it may be an accomplishment, but others may have no reason to keep their virginity. Is it an accomplishment for a married 35-year-old woman to be a virgin?

by Anonymous 12 years ago

The only reason people are so chased is because of what society thinks about sex. If anyone deserves praise then it's the people with the sense to decide what's right for them without needing society's approval. Plus if you think that having sex is as easy as just going out and having sex then I would argue you are mistaken.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

I don't understand how this post has such a positive score, when it's essentially saying someone who chooses not to have sex is stronger in that regard than someone who chooses to have sex. When is it ever okay to judge people by their personal, sexual lives? Virginity isn't an accomplishment. It's an abstract concept that some people choose to put value in.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

My friend told me about this girl who was like "yeah I had buttsex, we put out butts together" Just thought I'd share...

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Both options are actually somewhat difficult. To be a virgin you must "resist temptation" and social pressures, and to not be a virgin you have to be responsible about what you're doing and who. There are emotional impacts, and those need to be considered in both cases. They both also have less difficult options. If you're a virgin simply because you've never had the chance, then it's a lot easier than if you have a boyfriend/girlfriend of many years. If you're having sex without birth control and not preparing for the consequences, then it's an easier choice. I just have to add that it doesn't matter if a person loves sex and has various partners, as long as they know their partners aren't STD positive and their being safe, what's wrong with it? Either way it's a personal choice, and as one person said, one choice is not more noble than the other.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

gay

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Makes sense.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

HAVING YOUR VIRGINITY OR NOT DOESN'T FUCKING MATTER. You people keep trying to ensure some special snowflake syndrome on yourselves and it just doesn't fucking matter. Sex is sex. Virginity is virginity. There is nothing sentimental or special or original about either and I'm sick of you shallow teenagers even bothering to worry about it. Get the fuck over yourselves, Jesus Christ.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Yeah, Jesus. Get the fuck over all of yourselves. I didn't know there were multiple of you, but still.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Took me a while to get it. Nice catch there.

by Anonymous 12 years ago

^You're all whiney bitches

by Anonymous 12 years ago

Lol, yeah you definitely have integrity just because you didn't have sex.

by Anonymous 12 years ago