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The spankings your parents gave you when you were a child would be considered abuse now. Amirite

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Well-one of them certainly would!

It seems as though parents are afraid to correct/spank their kids nowaday, and that's a shame. No wonder some don't respect authority.

@StarzAbove It seems as though parents are afraid to correct/spank their kids nowaday, and that's a shame. No wonder some...

Yeah totally Starz I think I smacked my daughter twice when she was a child, I didn't have to belt her repeatedly or any of that stuff cos she knew damn well who was in control.
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@Ada Yeah totally Starz I think I smacked my daughter twice when she was a child, I didn't have to belt her repeatedly...

The same in my household. My kids knew who was boss, we spanked them when they got out of line which wasn't very often. We were the parents and they knew it. And I'm proud to say they both turned out very well, neither one ever rebelled against us.

Some of them almost surely would be, yes. I wouldn't have "reported" my parents, but I do not think hitting children in anger is a good thing.

I did receive a few that would probably be considered that now. I don't feel that way. I deserved them. I thank my parents now for giving them to me.

I had to pick out my own tree branch but worse than that was getting my mouth rinsed out with soap lol

Back when I was a kid they belted the sense into you not out of you.
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I feel like it's gone from like beating to belting to spanking to yelling to strong coercion to polite suggestion. Polite suggestion doesn't work I'm afraid :P

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@Positive I feel like it's gone from like beating to belting to spanking to yelling to strong coercion to polite suggestion...

I disagree. It worked in my case and does for my own children. I know that might not be all cases but you can catch more flies with honey than you can with vinegar

@Lil_Princess I disagree. It worked in my case and does for my own children. I know that might not be all cases but you can...

hmmm, maybe you're right. I haven't thought of that. If it works for you that's wonderful! :) Do whatever works best! However I have seen lots of people ignore their children running around supermarkets literally playing with lighters

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@Positive hmmm, maybe you're right. I haven't thought of that. If it works for you that's wonderful! :) Do whatever works...

Not gonna lie, I have seen that myself. When I do have my kids my cell phone says in my pocket especially when out and bout.

@Lil_Princess Not gonna lie, I have seen that myself. When I do have my kids my cell phone says in my pocket especially when out...

Maybe it depends on the child's mentality. Some kids have undiagnosed illnesses others may just be unsocialized

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@Positive Maybe it depends on the child's mentality. Some kids have undiagnosed illnesses others may just be unsocialized

Now that I agree on. I have a son with autism and sometimes it can be difficult. Some are so quick to call bad parenting but unless you personally experience it you can imagine what even one day is like

@Lil_Princess Now that I agree on. I have a son with autism and sometimes it can be difficult. Some are so quick to call bad...

Oh sorry that your son has autisum, must make it hard for you? I see so many children just spinning out of control I mean really, kids crawling on the floor like animals and screching. I can't understand why people allow that. The kid could hurt himself or others .

@LorraineTwevlehundredRaineTwelvehundred Oh sorry that your son has autisum, must make it hard for you? I see so many children just spinning out of control...

It is difficult. I don't have full custody of my kids. For the most part he does well but he is easily influenced especially by his dad. If his dad talks shit bout me then he doesn't want to visit. It made mothers day a sad day for me

https://news.utexas.edu/2016/04...y-researchers/

Anecdotal evidence with a sample size of one is meaningless. Let me quote a few passages for anyone who doesn’t want to read the whole thing:

“The more children are spanked, the more likely they are to defy their parents and to experience increased anti-social behavior, aggression, mental health problems and cognitive difficulties, according to a new meta-analysis of 50 years of research on spanking by experts at The University of Texas at Austin and the University of Michigan.”

“Gershoff and co-author Andrew Grogan-Kaylor, an associate professor at the University of Michigan School of Social Work, found that spanking (defined as an open-handed hit on the behind or extremities) was significantly linked with 13 of the 17 outcomes they examined, all in the direction of detrimental outcomes.”

“Gershoff and Grogan-Kaylor tested for some long-term effects among adults who were spanked as children. The more they were spanked, the more likely they were to exhibit anti-social behavior and to experience mental health problems.”

“The researchers looked at a wide range of studies and noted that spanking was associated with negative outcomes consistently and across all types of studies, including those using the strongest methodologies such as longitudinal or experimental designs. As many as 80 percent of parents around the world spank their children, according to a 2014 UNICEF report. Gershoff notes that this persistence of spanking is in spite of the fact that there is no clear evidence of positive effects from spanking and ample evidence that it poses a risk of harm to children’s behavior and development.”

“Both spanking and physical abuse were associated with the same detrimental child outcomes in the same direction and nearly the same strength.

“We as a society think of spanking and physical abuse as distinct behaviors,” she says. “Yet our research shows that spanking is linked with the same negative child outcomes as abuse, just to a slightly lesser degree.””

So who do we believe? Individual non-scientists who have no stronger argument than “I was spanked and I think I’m okay”, or scientists conducting a meta-analysis of 50 years of studies involving 160,000 children?

I was never spanked. I just got punished.

@hootowl I was never spanked. I just got punished.

I never got spanked either, but my sister did about every day because she was always late for supper. We both turned out OK so there you are.

I didn't get them but I was wise enough to respect my parents.

@Lil_Princess I didn't get them but I was wise enough to respect my parents.

Same. I was never spanked either. I'm sure for some kids it's the only form of punishment that works, but my parents never felt the need for it.

@Tibby Same. I was never spanked either. I'm sure for some kids it's the only form of punishment that works, but my...

My parents were bout communication. Taking the time to explain right and wrong along with the consequences of my actions.

While I wasn't a perfect kid they knew yelling and beating me wasn't the solution.

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