Its impossible to tell someone you dont respect them with out coming off a little disrepectful, amirite?

you do it all the time and where does it get you johnny?

Yes, but I believe there’s a difference between respecting someone and not respecting the choices they make or the ideas they have; which is not ultimately in our control.

I personally believe that respect for someone is developed and earned over time, we're not ultimately in control of how others make us feel or how those negative feelings manifest so we tie it to disrespecting them as opposed to acknowledging the pain or stress they've caused you.