We're told not to judge a book by its cover but also that first impressions matter, amirite?

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It's because while you shouldn't judge others by first impression, others probably will judge you.

Well yeah. One says you shouldn't judge people based solely on first impressions. The other says that a lot of people in the world unfortunately don't follow that rule so you personally should make a good first impression. It's exactly the same as telling kids not to steal and teaching them to not leave their stuff out where someone can steal it.

Book designers be crying in a corner

Do what I say not what I do

Boknows12s avatar Boknows12 Yeah You Are +6Reply

No paradox here. "First impressions should not matter, but they do"

you are told that you "shouldn't" judge a book by its cover, but that first impressions matter because "shouldn't" is different from "didn't"

The world is full of things that are contradictory but still true.

Achilles982s avatar Achilles982 Yeah You Are +4Reply
@Achilles982 The world is full of things that are contradictory but still true.

In this case that's not a contradiction.
The first sentence is a prescription, we are trying to shape a person or society in a certain way. It's an 'ought', we wish for nuanced judgment and less snap decisions that depend too much on chance.
The second one is a description of how things are, despite the wish above, we recognize how things are, however imperfect, and give advice accordingly.

In other words how you should behave ideally and how you should expect other to behave realistically

swiggybabys avatar swiggybaby Yeah You Are +3Reply

Judge somebody by what they consistently do.

Many hands make light work.

Too many cooks spoil the broth.

Mcgee0s avatar Mcgee0 Yeah You Are +3Reply

Those are not mutually exclusive

Hatchadis avatar Hatchadi Yeah You Are +1Reply
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