+146 We're told not to judge a book by its cover but also that first impressions matter, amirite?

by Anonymous 3 years ago

Well yeah. One says you shouldn't judge people based solely on first impressions. The other says that a lot of people in the world unfortunately don't follow that rule so you personally should make a good first impression. It's exactly the same as telling kids not to steal and teaching them to not leave their stuff out where someone can steal it.

by Anonymous 3 years ago

Exactly. First impressions are important because people judge a book by the cover, which they shouldn't do.

by Anonymous 3 years ago

*laughs in japan*

by Anonymous 3 years ago

Book designers be crying in a corner

by Anonymous 3 years ago

The world is full of things that are contradictory but still true.

by Anonymous 3 years ago

In this case that's not a contradiction. The first sentence is a prescription, we are trying to shape a person or society in a certain way. It's an 'ought', we wish for nuanced judgment and less snap decisions that depend too much on chance. The second one is a description of how things are, despite the wish above, we recognize how things are, however imperfect, and give advice accordingly. In other words how you should behave ideally and how you should expect other to behave realistically

by Anonymous 3 years ago

Many hands make light work. Too many cooks spoil the broth.

by Anonymous 3 years ago

Those are not mutually exclusive

by Anonymous 3 years ago

No paradox here. "First impressions should not matter, but they do"

by Anonymous 3 years ago

you are told that you "shouldn't" judge a book by its cover, but that first impressions matter because "shouldn't" is different from "didn't"

by Anonymous 3 years ago

It's because while you shouldn't judge others by first impression, others probably will judge you.

by Anonymous 3 years ago

Do what I say not what I do

by Anonymous 3 years ago

Judge somebody by what they consistently do.

by Anonymous 3 years ago