If I invite you to hang out and you say "yeah but do you mind if I invite a friend too?" you're an asshole, amirite?

I am in the running for most awkward man alive so please invite more friends.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

It's normal for a lot of people so just let them know how you feel. Don't let someone unknowingly be an unwanted add on.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

It depends on context if they say "would it be ok if I brought someone along too; if not that's ok we can still hang out one-on-one" I wouldn't be that offended honestly

by Anonymous 2 years ago

I mean… in the future you could say "hey is it cool if we hang out 1on1 somewhere?" Right away so that they know your intentions. Just look like the asshole, whatever. Honestly they probably wouldn't think that and if they do they aren't your real friends

by Anonymous 2 years ago

I get it, these situations can turn into you being a third wheel. I wouldn't invite these people to hang out very much in the future if they made it a habit. Although I'm curious how they would react if I told them I would rather do a 1 on 1. Im not going to be as comfortable with a stranger or acquaintance around if I want to talk about personal info.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

i get what ur saying. in my opinion i like hanging out with multiple friends but if your friend wants to bring along another friend that u don't know to bring u guys together that's cool and all but then ur friend should plan something not just bring someone along to smth u planned. Honestly as long as they ask i don't mind

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Agreed. Back in my single days, I actually had my own place and figured out pretty quickly that people who wanted to hang out just wanted a place to party.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

I actually agree with you. Just because you invite someone out, doesn't mean you want to spend time with a group of people, it means you want to spend time with them.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Yeah i dont like this. Or bam you finally catching up having a beer, all going well and some asshole your mate knows from the bar you don't know sits with you and takes over. I also have a mate that invites anyone who knows me to my parties, assuming i invite everyone i know. Everytime.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

They asked you? You can say no, that is an option

by Anonymous 2 years ago

it's kinda sad seeing ppl justify this because op is maybe ‘boring'. even if op's supposed friends find him difficult to hang out with alone, they could say NO. they don't need to be rude and ask their own friends to tag along. u ppl suck lol

by Anonymous 2 years ago

If you're feeling like other people are assholes, but worried about being an asshole, you need to either reevaluate or establish your boundaries

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Pretty sure that is indeed an unpopular opinion. I usually find that 3-4 people is about right for hanging out. Fills in the gaps, brings more diverse conversation, etc. Not to mention the fact that if your friends are comfortable sharing their own friend groups with you that would indicate they find you likeable. Maybe don't try so hard to prove them wrong.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

It does ruin it sometimes. I'm like I don't even like that person but I can't say no bc it would seem weird and imply I don't like them and I don't want my friend to know I don't like their friend bc they like them. So I say sure and just ditch any preconceived idea of what our hang will be like bc dudes friend will just talk about his tavern softball league and his grilling technique the whole time. Like wooo we get it you drink alcohol and play sports. Also is it a grilling technique to just cook things super slow? I'm like are you grilling or slow cooking these wings? And why call it tavern it's a bar.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Try just telling them you want to hang out with them and only them. Emphasise on the fact that you want to hang out with only them instead of the fact that you don't like the person they're inviting.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

I mean a lot of times it's because I'm hanging out with or was gonna hang out with someone else at that time, so I ask if it's okay to merge

by Anonymous 2 years ago

I hated when as a kid, you'd go to your friends house to „play" and their mom have also invited another mutual friend. I always felt like these kids would act 100% differently when other peers were around than when we were only the two of us. Worst play date experience wouldn't recommend.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

I had a friend that didnt tell me about his plus 1. The plus 1 got too drunk and threw up on my floor. I tried to make him clean it up but he was way too drunk. Plus 1 is not allowed over anymore.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

It depends on the situation, I'm not that great socially and I do way better with multiple people

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Yeah you need better friends. If they have a problem with hanging out with you alone, they need to tell you that. Else they are just plain rude as you implied.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Why don't you open the invite with, "hey, want to have a one on one hang sesh? Just want to catch up, you and me". My friends and I do that all the time. I've actually had a friend explicitly tell me she prefers hanging out with me one on one and she respects it. Just sounds like you need to find more effective ways at communicating.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Yeah sure,let me invite my 7 side bitches too.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Most insecure mfs always bring someone they r comfortable with if they r not comfortable with you then they will start mumbling between themselves leaving you alone i hate these the most

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Maybe everyone thinks you are a creep? No offense but maybe you need better friends.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

It's not a threesome, it's a conversation. If you feel left out then work on your people skills.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Tell me you're in your 20s without telling me you're actually in your 20s. But 30 you're just happy to be getting out, in your 40s you're staying home and making up excuses not to go out.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Idk some people need that person to come with them so they're not so anxious if they need that friend to hangout with you then maybe you need to question why people don't want to hangout with just you

by Anonymous 2 years ago

3 is betder

by Anonymous 2 years ago

1. maybe your friends don't feel comfortable being alone with you 2. maybe you're just missing an opportunity for a threesome

by Anonymous 2 years ago

… does the other persons feelings not matter to you? I don't like hanging with people 1on1. If that's a requirement then get lost.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Yeah maybe you're just not super fun to be around and should be stoked that they will hang out with you at all, should thank the other friend that got invited.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

What you sound like "Hay do you want to hang out?"= I like you and want to spend time with you and see if it goes somewhere… like sex What you don't sound like "Hay do you want to hang out?"= I have no interest in you sexually and just want to do something fun, interesting or just kill some time with you no strings attached What they sound like "Yeah but do you mind if I invite a friend too?" = I have no internet in you sexually at all but am interested in doing whatever that is because you are paying or taking me places and I have nothing better to do.. also it's harder to bury two bodies at once What they don't sound like "Yeah but do you mind if I invite a friend too?" = threesome?

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Well considering I'm a girl and have a boyfriend and I'm referring to female friends, I highly doubt this is the impression they get from me…

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Either your friends like have most (or some) or some of their friends around when they're hanging out. The more the merrier. So its on them if you tell them its 1 on 1. Or maybe your 'friends' dont want to hang out with you 1 on 1. So its you the problem

by Anonymous 2 years ago