There is nothing wrong with having a roommate well into adulthood. amirite?

I think the stigma against roommates is lifting a little with this economy, especially in cities with a high cost of living. My mom had a roommate when I was starting college, another divorced woman who didn't want to pay extra to live in a house by herself. It was nice. It was like I had another unofficial aunt when I came home to visit.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

That's actually also suprisingly sweet. They still in touch?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I think this line of thinking is going to die off soon. The average millennial can't afford their own home. There's no more "move out at 18 and by 22, you'll have a house" because corps, richer ppl, etc. have purchased them all anyway, lol.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I'm wondering why everyone is jumping straight to houses and not thinkink about living on your own renting an apartment. A studio apartment is also living on your own.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

In my town, a studio isn't much cheaper than a regular sized apartment. The apartments are at mortgage level rents too.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I don't know about where you live but most people I know with housemates are renting. But why live in a single room for $350 a least a week if you could share a house and have more space and a yard if multiple people pay $350 a fortnight

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Because renting is throwing your money into a black hole to fund a landlord that doesn't want to work.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

And a mortgage is doing the same thing, but your landlord is the bank.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

It's not really the same thing though is it. You can't sell your rented house / flat, but you can make a profit from selling it or even rent it out to others. Made £95000 from the sale of my last house and what a blessing that was cause I needed a bigger house. Kids = more space required!

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Kids is another whole ballgame. But unless you plan to be in your house long-term, it doesn't make much sense here in America. 2008 and 2020 taught me that. Plus I know plenty of people that "made money" on seling their house, after paying money to fix interiors and plumbing. So not much of a profit after that.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

More profit than you get from renting! In my experience a mortgage is generally less than someone would pay to rent a smaller place. I don't really know what the costs are like in America, maybe it is better to rent there.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

This is purely a social stigma and economic change. People have done this many times throughout history it's called survival. I think the stigma is in your head more than anything.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Yeah it's weird that they took a bad joke from a Netflix sitcom so personally lmao

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I guess it touched a nerve. In which case the issue is bigger than his living situation. I hope he can build on that, feel better bout himself.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Why is this NSFW?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

For the clicks most likely.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Ah yes R O O M M A T E S

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Confirmed bachelor, if you will

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Isn't this the concept of marriage, except sex is also included with marriage?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

This reminds me of something with a coworker. We were working as case managers who got paid very little. She made a jab at me for living with my parents when she was living with her fiance (who was an attorney who landed a high paying job right out of law school). There were quite a few things I felt like saying to her.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I'm not saying this as a knock on you or her, but living with your significant other is completely different than living with your parents.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

We were making the same salaries. She was living with her mother before she started living with her fiance.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

If your marriage is roommates with sex, I feel bad for you

by Anonymous 1 year ago

That is what marriage is tho. Assuming the roommate is also your best friend.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I feel bad for you kids

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I feel bad for you. Not all marriages have kids and kids are not the point of all marriages

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I...didn't say that kids were even important to marriage

by Anonymous 1 year ago

You literally brought up kids as if it were relevant

by Anonymous 1 year ago

When?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

He's calling you a kid, genius.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Depends on the marriage

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I'm a single male in my mid 30s who owns his place and it's great. But I don't plan on getting married ever (personal choice), and the freedom, peace and quiet are great but I wouldn't mind living a like minded person. It does get lonely and the dual income wouldn't hurt. I'm just a Jay looking for my heterosexual life partner.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

There are many places where having a roommate isn't folks being fiscally conscious, it's actually people having to have roommate because homes aren't always affordable. Doesn't matter what age.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I'm wondering why everyone is jumping straight to houses and not thinkink about living on your own renting an apartment. A studio apartment is also living on your own.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

If you'd pay the same for a studio apartment as you would splitting the rent on a house with a roommate or two, why not go with the house that has a lot more room? As long as you have a bedroom to yourself, you basically have the same amount of space as you would in a studio

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Because I'm a drummer and my apartment neighbors would be pissed.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I think the initial rationale behind this was that as people get older; they get Married and have kids etc. In a context like that, privacy becomes more important and it's not practical to have roommates. These days, it's a lot more common to see people choosing to not get married, or get married much later or even not have kids. Hence, the "Adults should not have roommates" belief simply isn't as relevant,

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Probably just shows how completely disconnected people in Hollywood are from actual normal society.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Outside of a few major cities (NYC,LA, SF, Bos) it is very abnormal for 35 year olds to have roommates

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Has no one seen The Odd Couple?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Is it good?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Never saw the original film, but the TV show is classic.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

The film is as well.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I wouldn't make fun of anyone for having a roommate in their late 30s but I would think it's a bit strange, because rents aren't really high where I live.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Houses have become unattainable for the average individual making 40k a year now. This will soon be considered completely normal.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Where I live many people have housemates. Even couples. Housing is too expensive for most people. There's not so much stigma here because of that I guess.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I think this is something thats going under the radar even more than people having roommates into their 30's. It's couples having roommates. Being a dual income just isnt enough in some areas and its becoming more popular to have a roommate while being a couple.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Agreed. I have never cared for the template life narrative which society tries to push.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Yeah, might never be able to move out on my own. Pluse, stuff keeps coming up where I have to dip into my savings or not put money into savings that paycheck. Plus, in the US, inflation on the housing market is just gone crazy

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I wanna add I think it's completely fine to still live with your parents even if your a full grown adult. As long as you help them out/pay rent Where I'm at it's not really easy to afford a mortgage at a young age anymore but hey I guess that's everywhere now with $$$

by Anonymous 1 year ago

What about affording to to rent your own place?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Sure IF people can afford it. Where I'm at it's almost 2k just for a 2 bedroom and my friend couldn't even maintain that at 22 an hour. I'm speaking on behalf of young adults. I do agree it's a weird to still live with your parents if your 50 but hey that could just be personal problems.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Why are you getting a 2 bed if you live alone and only make $22?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

It was family/at home issues for them.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

But they're moving out, they are leaving their at home issues behind, why are they getting a 2 bed?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Office I guess

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Yeah that's just textbook bad money management

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I agree, overall tho I do think apartment prices did skyrocket a little canadian. However this example was a poor one

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Yeah, apartments are expensive but obtainable. Wanting luxury is the issue

by Anonymous 1 year ago

My uncle lived with his mother until she died. He was in his late 40's/early 50's by that point. He was basically her caregiver as well. IMO if you are 40+ and still living at home then you better be looking after your parents at that stage who would be well into their 60's and 70's.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

100% If you make a good wage and capable of helping out then you should be. I dont understand why some people think it's okay to live with their parents forever and not contribute at all.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Honestly when you are in your 40s/50s and still living at home with mum and dad i believe its past the point of "helping out". You are their caregiver.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I have roommates thanks to the economy run by morons and it sucks

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Well, hate to break it for some people, but if you're married with someone, and living together, you've got roommates

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Not all families have 2 people that contribute to the housing payment... OP is talking about roommates that you aren't in a relationship with, hence their mention of the family life thing.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Yea, I was being dumb for lols

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I think it really depends on the individual. Personally for me if i'm nearing 40 and i'm still bunking with roommates, i've failed. I want to own my own home in the next 1 - 2 years which is possible at the moment. I'm 29 now and honestly i'm just over living with other people. I've done it all throughout my 20's and while it was good and we had fun. It's time to move on. I just want a space for myself. Given the economic climate we live in, it makes sense to bunk with roomies for longer if you can't live with your parents. Some people like the company too.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Not necessarily about the family mindset. Just the fact that you should be able to support yourself through your work, especially if you've been paying taxes for about 15 years. Most people have roommates because they can't afford to live in their own space, which is totally understandable, but it does say something about your character if you've had no drive to do better and try to live on your own well into your thirties. Also, living with other people sucks. I could have a great roommate but still feel the want to live on my own because I like not having to worry about how I present myself in my own home.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

But if you move out as soon as you can afford it, how are you going to accumulate a down payment? I bought a house and had roommates for two years. I got helped through the hardest years of my mortgage payment, and they got cheap rent and saved for their own down payments. If the three of us had our own one bedroom apartments for those two years, we'd probably still be renting.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Because reaching the point where you can afford to leave includes saving up for the down payment.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I mean I'm never going to own a home. Because having a mortgage is no different than renting. So, saving up for a mortgage is different entirely. But I'm saying living in a 3-bedroom apartment in most of America when you're 35 and have not been through tough times can be a red flag. Living by yourself in a studio apartment I think makes more sense than buying a home and needing roommates. How much space do you need, really? I feel your perception is colored by an old idea that has been propped up as the "way to do things," which I think is part of OP's point. But the idea of having a family, owning a home, retiring is falling out of favor quickly as boomers and Gen X die off. It's not economically feasible for most people, which again I think is part of OP's point. But to not even try is also weird. Having roommates by itself is not bad, but add that to other aspects of a person's life and it can seem weird.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Just because you're an antisocial person that nobody can tolerate being around doesn't mean that roommates are bad

by Anonymous 1 year ago

That's cute. Assuming you know me.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Wow, you're a bad person

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I guess I'm the one with the unpopular opinion.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Based.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

A roommate well? So like Buffalo Bill?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Not anymore there isn't. It's a requirement to get by these days for a lot of people.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

You're also expected to be a successful, career driven home owner by now..

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Wouldn't say this is unpopular.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Agree 100%

by Anonymous 1 year ago

For my (sad to say literally but) falling apart house me and my buddy are renting in CA, with no internet besides satellite, we pay 1600. 2 beds, 1 bath, 1 car garage. The kitchen and living room are conjoined. The foundation doesn't extend to one of the bedrooms, lots of issues. It is cost-effective, safer (safety in numbers or whatever) and we enjoy each other's company. Sorry we want to be able to get piss drunk and then say gnight and not have to catch a cab or worse drunk drive home. F them all and I'm happy to live with my best friend

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Not unpopular ... Hell, I know unmarried folks who still rent out individual rooms in their house to random people.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

There's nothing wrong with anything as long as you're not harming yourself or anyone else. You do you.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I've got no problem with it. I was making 6 figures and had a few room mates while I was saving money for a house. Do you!

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I agree. People are communal by nature and have been fit into this nuclear family mold because it's easier to control.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I wish i had a roommate, my rent is extortionate!

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Me and my room-mate have a child together .

by Anonymous 1 year ago

It's really easy math. You need to make 3x. Ask them who in the area pays enough to afford average rent ($3,600/month or $43,000/year).

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Keeping up with the Jones's…. When you are conditioned for one way of living everything seems weird. If you enjoy living with someone, live with them

by Anonymous 1 year ago

If you have a Roomate over the age of 26. Then you're a loser

by Anonymous 1 year ago