Don't just say "I don't get it" to an offensive joke, amirite?

Thats when you double down and go in depth into why the offensive thing exists in the first place

by Anonymous 2 years ago

No, it's an effective strategy. If someone thinks it's so funny to be racist, sexist, homophobic, etc, then they can explain why it's so funny. If it makes them uncomfortable, maybe they shouldn't be saying those kinds of things.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

"I told a bad joke and nobody laughed!" Let it go, OP.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Maybe don't tell offensive jokes which I am sure you do with a follow up of " omg it's just a joke relax"

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Maybe don't get offended by jokes I'm not in control of your emotions you are.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

I don't get it.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

I think it is a good way of breaking down why something isn't actually funny. What people often do is just laugh along awkwardly, so the joke-teller has an inflated idea of their comedic talents. If you say "that is just offensive" then they can get all defensive or whine about PC or being "woke". Making them say it out loud and leaving them with "you know, [racist stereotype]" and they actually have some reflection on things. Yeah it is passive aggressive but that can be what is needed against racists.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

If they're gonna act defensive instead of saying sorry you know you don't want to be friends with them. A proper comedian knows their limits.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

It isn't just friends, and not everyone wants to have a confrontation about it.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

If I say "I don't get it" it's not that I didn't understand what you were saying. what I'm not getting is what about it was supposed to be funny (assuming that's what you were aiming for)

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Not sure what all the abuse is about. Regardless of whether you approve of offensive jokes or not, it's still an insanely-passive aggressive thing to do. But the same people who think they can "disarm" your offensive joke to make you feel awkward would be totally taken-aback if you just immediately explained the to them. If you're really set on making offensive jokes, this is honestly the right way to proceed when someone responds this way. Everyone knows you said something offensive, so sheepishly fizzling out when someone asks for an explanation doesn't erase that. It's way less awkward to just double down and potentially bring humor back to the situation through shock value. Comedians do this all the time when they get heckled.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

If you set your boundaries and people repeatedly cross over them, then what?

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Then you play mind games and pretend you dont get theyr jokes! That will show them.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

As opposed to doing nothing or the thing that didn't work before?

by Anonymous 2 years ago

If you have to explain how a joke has to be read in order to be perceived to be funny then it's not a good joke, is it?

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Not what OP was saying. He's accepting the joke wasn't found funny. The point being that the joke is offensive humour. Black joke, gay joke, disabled job whatever. And that the person being told doesn't find that humour funny and instead of saying so, pretends they didn't understand the joke. What OP wants is the person to be direct and say "that isn't funny because black/gay/disbaled people aren't like that and I find that offensive". I think it's along the lines of the whole I don't see race. I'm so un-racist I don't understand offensive jokes. I think that's the theory there.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

If you use the guise of an offensive joke to say whatever you want, people can respond in whatever way they see fit. That's freedom of speech.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

"That's freedom of speech." Of course they _can_ respond however they see fit. But that doesn't mean they _should_ respond however they see fit. Just because someone has the right to say something doesn't mean they can't be critiqued for saying something.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Sure, just because someone can make an offensive joke does not mean they _should_ make an offensive joke. Just because someone has the right to say something doesn't mean they can't be critiqued for saying something.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Yes, exactly. I'm glad I was able to teach you something today :)

by Anonymous 2 years ago

If you can't tell offensive jokes around your friends, you are the problem. You clearly don't know your friends well enough to know what does and doesn't fly with them.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

People telling offensive jokes may be looking for a fight or to be offended. Asking them to explain it forces them to admit they.are being offensive

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Maybe it wasnt funny, maybe they didnt get it, maybe you cant police how people respond

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Nobody is more of a weakling than someone who says offensive things but is sensitive when people respond.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Exactly, if you can't take it, don't dish it out.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

I laugh if a joke is funny and I don't laugh if it isn't. Some things are that simple

by Anonymous 2 years ago

See, telling someone they made an offensive joke only results in them getting defensive. By expecting an explanation, the joker is hopefully going to realize on their own that the joke was in poor taste.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

How to say you made an offensive joke without saying that you made an offensive joke.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Have seen someone do this to someone who had good intentions qnd it just came across as embarrassing on the dead panner's behalf. I think people feel they're taking a heroic stance but it tends to come off as poor social skls.

by Anonymous 2 years ago