Just don't be an asshole to your kids the turn around and say "I brought you into this world I deserve unconditional respect!!"

by Anonymous 2 years ago

My parents are simultaneously wonderful and awful. They invited my partner and I to move in when we had our baby, and charge us peanuts in rent so we can build up our savings. At the same time, they are incredibly arrogant, one-note people stuck in their ways and are incredibly judgmental and terrified of change. My mother has an undiagnosed mental health disorder which causes often verbally violent mood swings and my father enables her behaviour spinelessly. I respect their generosity. I don't respect them as people. I owe them gratitude for helping me stabilise my finances, but I owe them nothing for making me effectively raise myself when I was growing up.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

> I respect their generosity. I don't respect them as people. This right here. It took a long time for me to come to terms with loving my mother because she gave me life and realizing that doesn't mean I have to like her for who she is as a person. She was a terrible person and if she weren't my mother, I wouldn't have kept her in my life.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

I only ever hear people say this when parents weaponize their parenthood against their kids. In that case, it makes perfect sense to address that you didn't ask to be born and it isn't ungrateful to point out that obvious fact.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

My parents are awful people, I don't really have anything to be grateful for

by Anonymous 2 years ago

I disagree. It's true that nobody asked to be born. Obviously any canned excuse that you overuse irrespective of the context is childish and foolish, but you literally owe nothing to your parents.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

You never met my dysfunctional, abusive parents. I owe nothing to them.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

I don't have to be grateful for them meeting my basic needs tho

by Anonymous 2 years ago

If basic needs are love, food, water, and shelter. Then yeah you should be grateful. a lot of crappy parents can provide way less than that.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

You will be absolutely hated for this opinion,but take it from me YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY RIGHT! The sense of entitlement from some people is absolutely disgusting to me... Show some gratitude!

by Anonymous 2 years ago

What makes you an authority we should "take it from"?

by Anonymous 2 years ago

What makes you an authority we should "take it from"?

by Anonymous 2 years ago

I never said "take it from me"? How did you manage to miss that?

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Oh?? That's crazy,don't care. I said what I said...

by Anonymous 2 years ago

I hate the "I didn't ask to be born" argument for anything. No, you didn't, but it doesn't mean you should be ungrateful, that's just the MOST dickish thing you can do.

by Anonymous 2 years ago