I dated a woman with a kid before I had my own and she shared custody, it seemed like an ideal arrangement from the outside. Then I had my own kid years later and went through a divorce. I got my weekends but all I wanted was to have my kid every day. Careful what you wish for.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

My husband and I have two kids. We are about to hit our 10 year anniversary and let me tell you, this decade has been ROUGH. Our oldest is about to be 7 years old and we have just started turning the corner in our family but many times we were on the verge of divorce. I will say I've been getting alot more alone time lately to go workout etc. and that has helped a lot. Breaks are much needed and previously I did not get them due to my husbands work schedule and if I'm honest, my control issues.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Just happened to me

by Anonymous 2 years ago

You separated or your friends are?

by Anonymous 2 years ago

I'm separated and I thoroughly believe if we didn't have a kid we would still be married.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Sorry to hear that :( Hope you're okay. Parenting is stressful isn't it?

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Honestly I see a lot of couples who don't have kids yet and enjoy being separated from each other quite a lot. When you have kids it's much harder to do because if he goes out for drinks with his buddies, she is stuck with the kids and vice versa. I heard it said that kids don't change the outcome of your marriage, they just accelerate it, and I believe it's true. Kids put a lot of pressure on a relationship but I don't think two people who really love each other and have a strong foundation will break up over it.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

And this is why im not having any parasites. Im happy with my gf and im not ruining that by having some thing that never leaves us alone. No thank you.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Shouldn't we start using the word selfish again where it fits?

by Anonymous 2 years ago

I think its difficult to prepare for parenthood, it can be a very unpredictable experience. Especially if you have children with special needs and this can put an intense stress on relationships. Sometimes I think it is less damaging to children for the parents to be separated than to grow up in a house which has continuous fighting.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Lots of things in life are difficult. When faced with a tough time you need to adopt the correct attitude and just crack on and do what's right. Anything else is not an option. I suggest you do more reading on the amount of damage to kids from parents separating.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

If your parents can't get along without fighting, it's better if they separate. Mine did and I never had any trauma or pain from that.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

Mine stayed together through an awful lot of fighting and I think that was exponentially worse (to me) than when they ultimately broke up.

by Anonymous 2 years ago

My parents separated when I was 12 so I'm quite familiar with the damage

by Anonymous 2 years ago