I think empty compliments do as much damage to body image issues as social media does. amirite?

Do you get fake compliments a lot? It's hard for me to envision a scenario where someone is suspicious of being complimented. Like what are they saying to you that's fake/generic?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I feel like almost all the compliments I get are fake or empty lol Mostly just generic compliment like you look good. You're cute or whatever Those are the generic compliments I mean.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

That's your insecurity issues. Most compliments are pretty generic, but that doesn't mean they're not sincere. Learn how to take a compliment.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I mean I acknowledge it and I'm not bitchy about it but I still don't believe them

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Yes, this is exactly how I feel. So I can never really believe anyone that compliments me. Guys will just say your cute or whatever to get into your pants so it's impossible to know if/when it is actually genuine.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Glad to see a female that understands this. Many women have established a skewed sense of their own attractiveness due to compliments from men that are not genuine. If I experienced this it would piss me off, not knowing who actually liked me.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Why would someone say that to you unprompted though? I mean, are you asking them and that's how they respond? Or do you just have random people telling you that you look good?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Most of the times it's just in dms but every now and then some people would just say it to my face unprompted.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

The difference between telling someone what you think and what you think they want to hear.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I don't get it. What's the point of complimenting someone if you don't actually mean it? Why waste the air?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I never believe compliments. I'm not blind. I can look in the mirror and see how I look like.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I think you look awesome! The way you wear that text is very flattering.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Agree!!!! I also hate those compliments that are obviously lies, just trying to be "nice" but it just sounds fake af

by Anonymous 1 year ago

This plays out in many ways. Someone being told they are beautiful/handsome is likely to be overheard by someone who receives no such compliment who will then feel bad about it, even if the compliment was empty. And if it is empty, the person receiving the compliment is just as likely to take it in a negative way.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I think it's a you issue. Your self-esteem is so low that you assume people are just pandering to you.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Good point. When you have kids make sure to never say anything nice to them. Don't want to confuse them with disingenuous compliments now do we?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

I try not to give compliments unless I mean them to be honest; that's just the way I operate, and I'm sure others are like that as well.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Do you have a specific example of what you mean by "empty" compliment?

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Something like you're beautiful or like cute or whatever to the lines of that. It just makes me feel like I have nothing that's worth complimenting.

by Anonymous 1 year ago

Oh I get you now. Yeah it does come across like they're just being nice for nice sake.

by Anonymous 1 year ago